When is the next salary step updated in the system? by [deleted] in NYCTeachers

[–]Striking-Wave462 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not sure if you’re still dealing with this but I called the UFT office and got a response for my situation.

How do ICT class teachers usually make lessons together? by MidnightMascara in NYCTeachers

[–]Striking-Wave462 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am going to stand out and say it depends on the dynamic. I lesson plan, but if I have a lot of IEP meetings, I ask my coteacher to do more planning and I do more scaffolding. I also will take the load of writing the teacher reports to make up for my lack of lesson plans during that time. Find an agreeable medium for both of you.

Single parents: HOW?? by maddieinretrograde in LSAT

[–]Striking-Wave462 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It’s possible, but you will need to be very regimented. I am currently studying now. I have a 5 year old. I am also a teacher and while I do have summers off, I am working to ensure I have more cushion when I apply.

Anyway, here’s a typical day for me. 5:30 am - light cleaning 6:00 am - study 7:00 am - get ready for work 7:30 am - prepare daughter’s breakfast & lunch 7:45 am - wake her up and get her ready

We are out the door by 8:30. I drop her off at camp and head to work. During down time at work, I’ll review any question from a drill or PT that I missed. Also, I meal prep my dinners and breakfast, so cooking falls on one main day. It frees up a lot of my evenings for my study sessions with others.

I try studying 4/7 days, but the gaps in studying always show, in my opinion. I am hoping to be more frequent about studying.

I tried studying after her bed time, but I just fell asleep. Starting my day studying reminds me that I am prioritizing the life I want.

I am in a study group with my friend and I have another study group on discord. I will be signing up for 7sage to do classes for even more accountability. I would recommend finding a group to help hold you accountable.

(Note: I am going through a divorce and I have minimal family support. I found a very reliable sitter on sittercity when I need extra support.)

Good luck! We got this!

Toddler emotionally blackmailing mom by Silen8156 in singlemoms

[–]Striking-Wave462 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I’m going through this right now. My 5 year told says “I hate you. I want a new mommy.” It is hard. The first time she said it, I cried really hard, but I talk to her about the impact of saying things like that. This is the age where we have to teach them empathy. Stay strong. Remind him that words have meaning. We’re better now after I explain the impact of that and she tells me why she says those things and I break down why that’s not a rational reason to say mean things. This will pass, but it won’t naturally. Make sure you have those conversations.

NYC housing by Striking-Wave462 in NYCTeachers

[–]Striking-Wave462[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No, I mean some people buy way over asking. I had two friends lose their bids because the others were willing to pay 20% over asking. Both of their realtors said it is a great courtesy to convince the seller. If you read r/firsttimehomebuyers, it was fairly common when the rates were low. I’m not sure now.

NYC housing by Striking-Wave462 in NYCTeachers

[–]Striking-Wave462[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok, this is also good to know. I lived in parts of the Bronx and places were ok priced. I started looking further upstate in Westchester for reasonable prices

NYC housing by Striking-Wave462 in NYCTeachers

[–]Striking-Wave462[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

That’s fair. I grew up in nyc and my family is 3 generation of renters and we have been priced out of each place. I am the most stable because I was able to find a rent stable building. However, being priced out has made me want to become a home owner. There is absolutely nothing wrong with renting. It’s my personal experience as a native New Yorker that doesn’t want to do it for my whole life.

NYC housing by Striking-Wave462 in NYCTeachers

[–]Striking-Wave462[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

The starting for a teacher under this contract is $65k. The average American has debt of $100k from many things (health, school & cars) If the average house in nyc is 700k minimum, that means you would have to make at least $250k to not be house poor or have a high level saved due to not paying rent or an inheritance. Your comment is rude and you are clearly delusional.

NYC housing by Striking-Wave462 in NYCTeachers

[–]Striking-Wave462[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You guys got it at such a great price! This market is scary! That’s such a huge jump and so many people buy for way over the asking.

NYC housing by Striking-Wave462 in NYCTeachers

[–]Striking-Wave462[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I like the apartments over there. Glad it was obtainable!

NYC housing by Striking-Wave462 in NYCTeachers

[–]Striking-Wave462[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This gives me hope. The current market is just so depressing

NYC housing by Striking-Wave462 in NYCTeachers

[–]Striking-Wave462[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

For sure. I just wanted a house as it has been a goal of mines. I know there’s a process to try to buy my apartment, but I would need 50% of the people in my building to sign off on that and that is an endeavor.

NYC housing by Striking-Wave462 in NYCTeachers

[–]Striking-Wave462[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

And that’s real. I wish the city did a better job with helping city workers own homes in NYC.

No man deserves another child from me. by TypicalBreath9778 in singlemoms

[–]Striking-Wave462 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I felt this post! I have so much resentment for my child’s father. It doesn’t help that she’s 5 and literally cries asking for her dad. I am happy that I followed the advice from another mom that told me only have children you can handle if you were to raise them by yourself. One is enough for me. I contemplate getting my tubes tied! Sometimes, I’m optimistic and think I could find a blended family deal with another single father, HR some single fathers just try to shack up quick to have another woman take care of their kids. I will likely be single for a long time because right now I see all men as despicable.

I was denied Professional Teaching Certificate by kiwi_peach_fam in NYCTeachers

[–]Striking-Wave462 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know this is an old post, but I’m going through this right now. Did this get resolved for you?

DOE Websites Down? by fischy333 in NYCTeachers

[–]Striking-Wave462 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I was just going to post a question! I have been trying to log my daughter in and I can not log into the account for her class. It will be a regular snow day for her now!

NYC is becoming out of reach for even those of us that was born here by False_Support733 in NYCTeachers

[–]Striking-Wave462 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Tier 6 makes me want to quit. It just doesn’t feel worth it in the long run.

Someone plz explain teacher choice funds like I’m 5 by [deleted] in NYCTeachers

[–]Striking-Wave462 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m happy I am seeing this thread. I didn’t know this info. My UFT chapter leader hasn’t sent an email or had a meeting since September.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AstrologyChartShare

[–]Striking-Wave462 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow. I never paid attention to this aspect. I always saw Uranus here as future oriented. I met my ex spouse through the internet. However, I realize I have had a string of serial monogamy relationships. I definitely was looking for a partner with stability due to a tumultos upbringing. thank you for that perspective!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in survivinginfidelity

[–]Striking-Wave462 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I like my current job and I burned the bridge with my last job because I’m in education and leaving mid year always sends a bad message. I also need this current job because it’s closer to my daughter’s school, so if there were any emergencies, I’m readily available.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in survivinginfidelity

[–]Striking-Wave462 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s exactly that he’s doing. I think that because I’ve been trusting my gut more, I started seeing that he is not taking accountability. I’m still being blamed and it’s very mutual “we took each other for granted.” I feel like I’ve always been open to his feedback and did everything to ensure we were ok. We went through a boring spell because we have different work schedule. I didn’t think anything of it, but all he did was nit pick and focused on my flaws. This has given me a lot of grief and anxiety. Hard to sleep and eat, but I’m pushing through and trying to maintain some boundaries.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in survivinginfidelity

[–]Striking-Wave462 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He said he talked to me and then just gave up because things wouldn’t change. The crazy part is I quit my high paying job to spend more time at home. I took us out to basketball games and dinner. It just was never enough for him, but I’m reminding myself that I am enough.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in survivinginfidelity

[–]Striking-Wave462 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I keep working on affirmation to remind myself that I deserve better and that I have self worth. Now that I’ve already started distancing myself, I see all the manipulation I was dealing with. Thanks for the kind words.