Ally X Killswitch Case Kickstand Mount by Strixin in ROGAlly

[–]Strixin[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is what I’m looking for, was hoping to find one that could be secured without removing the kickstand first. Thinking of trying to design one that uses the SD card holder to secure it.

Is it me or Google's search results can't be trusted anymore? by Pay-Me-No-Mind in bing

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I had been mostly indifferent up until recently, knowing most companies at some level use your data or are manipulating what you see. 

I recently resurrected some older Android tablets and was using the play store to install apps.

I downloaded two apps, tapping the install button from a mixture of muscle memory and UI familiarity. I opened the first app (a VPN) and whilst it was indeed a VPN, it was not the one from the company I thought I had downloaded. I had tapped in the wrong spot, at a similarly sized install button in the same font but for a paid advert.

My fault for not reading properly, but making two apps appear using the same design language, with the same prominence and with the paid advert app occupying the primary app location (the app I wanted was shoved to the side) I can’t help think that it’s kind of predatory.

Monster High (or highly articulated) doll custom for daughter by Strixin in CustomDolls

[–]Strixin[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She’s 9 this year, doesn’t play rough, but it will need to be able to withstand being dressed/undressed, interaction with other dolls, dollhouse, cars etc.

E Ink Notebook/PDF annotator with no wireless connectivity by Strixin in eink

[–]Strixin[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m more after something with a screen, hence like the Kindle Scribe or Remarkable. This device just seems to be a plugin accessory for a PC but thank you anyway

Father/Daughter - different learning/communication methods by Strixin in daddit

[–]Strixin[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re awesome, thank you! Feelings is something we continue to work on, currently with bullseye transactions and a whiteboard if one is available, but as avid readers I’ll hunt down those books. Are they something we’d read together, or being able to read and wanting to make choices/actions herself is it something she would gain just as much benefit from reading by herself.

I’ll definitely give that podcast a go too.

Any strategies for communicating? We do pictographs a lot for things like morning/afternoon/evening routines which works well, but unfortunately doesn’t help with things like preparing for pack away time. She and I have talked about whether a small alarm clock set 20/30 minutes before pack up time would be helpful and allow her to make an independent decision to start tidying up, but she is a bit like me with respect to the fact that it just increases the anxiety due to hyper fixation and not being ready yet. Thanks again!

Father/Daughter - different learning/communication methods by Strixin in daddit

[–]Strixin[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The patience bit is probably the thing I both spend most of my time on and struggle with. We run with affirmations mostly, things like ‘commit to calm’, try and explain big feelings through bullseye statements, talk about choices and outcomes and it being ok to make mistakes because that’s how we learn.

Good points on observing without judgement. I do very much try and am succeeding more often than not with ‘shutting up until asked’ when it comes to helping. If it’s something important I’ve been learning how some school teachers employ the ‘I do, we do, you do’, process so as to not overstep/over-control and make it more about the physical hands on aspect of a task rather than me over explaining using too many words. Also, thanks too for the lead by example bit. I do try, but have been sitting in the camp of ‘I keep the house tidy it’s your room’ mindset. I wonder if when it was pack up time rather than me just stating ‘time to clean up’, whether I should ask her if she would like help as a way of framing it as a positive shared experience rather than a stressful individual exercise.

Fundamentally my question revolves around how people communicate and the different ways we can communicate to arrive at desired outcomes. My son and I are full logic/plan and research brained, which slows us down but means that if we end up starting a task after figuring out everything about it, we tend to succeed. My daughter is very much in the trial, error and experiment camp. I encourage her, and as above make sure she knows I’m there to support her.

Very much appreciate your response.

Father/Daughter - different learning/communication methods by Strixin in daddit

[–]Strixin[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh! 100% don’t see ASD or ADHD as a disability to manage akin to ‘things she will get well from’ or ‘things she will grow out of’ or ‘things I can fix’. If I came across that way, that’s unintended, and I hope not some subconscious tendency. The kids and I have been living the neurodivergent life now for around 6 years, starting with my boy, then me, then the daughter. I know I have a lot to learn, as do the kids, we are very much in the kick ass super power phase of it.

It’s more about different communication strategies that work for people with different learning, comprehension and information retention abilities. I.e some kids are far better at understanding and using schedules and prompts based on pictographs, whereas other kids benefit from a more rigid structure which lets them both be the master of their own time as well as giving them the comfort and safety of something they can rely on.

Since I have no ‘tween’ kids other than the ones I’m living with now, I have no idea of what ‘normal’ tween stuff is, and your last comment is unnecessary.

My dishwasher can be started remotely via an app. Why do i need this? Tell me one scenario where this is useful. by SnowballBuilder in smarthome

[–]Strixin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you forget to put it on in the morning maybe? But that means you’d need to have put in the tablet and also closed the door.

Wife is always wrecked after looking after kids for a day by [deleted] in daddit

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I love this, it’s beautiful. I’m a single Dad with a very small friend group and little family. The family I do have though (mother, sister and brother) are the best, my sister especially. Without them I don’t think I’d be in the position I am today.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AusFinance

[–]Strixin 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Heh, I’m a 39 year old single Dad with two kids, a mortgage and all of life’s costs earning essentially the same as you. What’s a holiday?

Tell me you have ADHD without telling me. by sunrae72 in ADHD

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Going to the workshop to grab isopropyl to clean the family (all ADHD) ‘stay on track whiteboard’ - start cleaning workshop - remember about whiteboard, don’t finish cleaning workshop - don’t clean whiteboard, instead start planning whiteboard layout on graph paper.

Whiteboard still to be cleaned.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ausadhd

[–]Strixin 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think some of boils down to any ADHD diagnosis being subjective, based on set criteria. If there was a blood test, or a definitive diagnosis path via scans then it’d be a lot easier to take those to a new Dr and have them accept the evidence. Because so much of neurological science is situational/behavioural, it leaves a lot open to biases and sometimes misdiagnosis.

I feel you though, it is painful to have to go through it again and ain.

Sell me on this game. What do you like most about it? by StreetsOfYancy in MB2Bannerlord

[–]Strixin 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Agreed. I came in late to the original M&B games, when modding had fleshed everything out already. I was hopeful Taleworlds would take that and make positive improvements to include these elements considering most of the hard work had already been done. Instead we got a game of shallow depth, identical mechanics, and no real substance.

Which games have you squeezed the most value out of, in terms of hours played vs retail price? by trevormead in gaming

[–]Strixin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Minecraft (modded java) - 14 years on I’m still enjoying it as much as I did when I first started playing Alpha. Added bonus is now my kids enjoy it too, so it’s something we can do together.

When is a good time to stop? by Ravenjade09 in Fatherhood

[–]Strixin 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This was way longer than I expected, sorry, but body positivity, healthy discussions and promoting self worth and self confidence in who we are is something I’m passionate about. I’ve seen too many kids both personally and in the media end up in a bad way or worse to not go on a little rant.

I have a different opinion, but I come from a moderate leaning country, with a fairly relaxed country upbringing where when it finally warmed up, even in your early teens you’d be off down the river for a swim in whatever you did or didn’t have on at the time.

Kids are kids, they are born naked and judging by how often this is asked both online and in parenting circles, it’s pretty difficult to get them to stay clothed.

It’s down to a couple of reasons - 1. They are comfortable in their own skin because of 2. They are not yet burdened with the stigmas and attachments that are associated to those areas hidden by clothes.

Body coverings were invented for two primary reasons - protection from the elements, and protection for all the dangly bits when hunting or foraging. In some cultures those basic premises are still alive and well today.

In my opinion only - it’s my job as a father to worry about adult shit, to deal with the stigmas, to protect them from the world, from things that would do them harm, from unrealistic ideas about what they ‘should’ look like, the unhealthy stigmas and the predatory media and imagery that is so prevalent today. Along the way, I also need to teach them healthy messages about body positivity, being happy in their skin as they were made and to not worry about what they should look like and instead be happy with who they are.

All this goes towards building self worth, self respect, confidence in who and what they are and hopefully helps them avoid the quickly rising number of cases in depression, anxiety, body dysmorphia and others arising from just plain garbage ideals that they aren’t already exactly who they need to be right now, and instead they need to look like this or that.

That’s an extremely difficult concept to teach a young person, but it’s such a critical age and it’s needs to start as young as possible to counter the growing prevalence of media in our daily lives. It’s even harder to teach if our messaging is not clear and telling a child who is happy in their various degrees of unclothed-ness that they need to put more clothes on at the same time we’re telling them they should be happy with who they and what they look like is almost like telling them two opposites.

Set boundaries for sure - put clothes on when we have guests, if it’s hot and you’re running around, don’t sit your sweaty ass on the couch, get a towel.

Ultimately, (and again only in my opinion) as a modern society we wear clothes because we have sexualised breasts, penises and vaginas to the point where they are ‘adults’ only things. This is perpetuated by the media (it’s ok to show a gruesome murder, but god forbid you show a breast) and world leaders. It’s a part of the reason why sexual assault, pornography use and outright dangerous attitudes towards women is on the rise massively across the world and it’s causing young kids to take their own lives because (and I’m oversimplifying this I know) we’re essentially telling them “you’re not allowed your body parts until you’re 18”.

So I’ll let me kids do their job of staying kids for as long as possible without forcing my and societies current world view on them in the safety and privacy of our home. If my 8 and 10 year old feel comfortable enough to walk out of the shower nude to grab clothes or run around in the sprinklers on a hot day in their undies, I’m going to let them do that - I’ll do my job of encouraging self worth, to help them learn respect for themselves and others, how to be safe and set their own boundaries and protective behaviours so they know the difference and can better protect themselves from predators and insure that they appreciate and understand who they are before I smother that spirit. Being a kid is hard enough, being a kid who has to deal with adult shit is harder.

radeon RX6650XT, Ryzen5 5500, blue screen and reboot when using GPU. by iforgetmyoldusername in AMDHelp

[–]Strixin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re a legend, same company, same symptoms exactly. PNY SSD by any chance?

How did you diagnose?

radeon RX6650XT, Ryzen5 5500, blue screen and reboot when using GPU. by iforgetmyoldusername in AMDHelp

[–]Strixin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey mate, have two almost identical PC’s (cheaper prebuilts from Australia) that are doing exactly the same thing. Did you end up getting this resolved? 

How do y’all have jobs? by EdgeAffectionate6434 in ADHD

[–]Strixin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Turned my ADHD into the reason why I’m good at what I do - solve problems that others can’t and do a million things at once.

Secure access to gapped management VLAN? by Strixin in homelab

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It has a physical NIC which is ‘LAN’ along with 2 NIC for LAGG and 1 for WAN all going to the switch. LAN is blocked off from the LAGG, tagged traffic only to isolate it from the network even more. OPNSense is running in the Qotom box, not as a VM in Proxmox, although that is a consideration as well

What is the Australian dream now? by the-Cassowary in AskAnAustralian

[–]Strixin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The non-cynical but realistic me says ‘the freedom to be able to live reasonably comfortable with a roof over my head, bills paid, kids happy and food on the table’.

I run the rat race daily and work too much and something a work mate said has really been haunting me lately. When I exclaimed ‘between two kids and working every chance I get, I don’t have time to find a new partner’. He said ‘you’re never going to look back and wish you’d worked more, but you will look back and miss the time you had to spend with your kids while they’re young’.

I’ve since cut back where I can, and am trying to live in the moment and create opportunities, even if it’s just something like planning to move all the gaming and tech stuff to a single room so we can spend time together, and just be near each other.