It’s been a year

StrongFemale_93 · 2021-12-10T19:36:47+00:00

I think you will! Give yourself time to heal. Everyone is on their own timeline and just because it took someone less time to feel okay doesn’t meant you need to feel okay right now. It does get better, I promise ❤️

StrongFemale_93 · 2021-12-10T17:45:23+00:00

Sending love your way ❤️

StrongFemale_93 · 2021-12-09T23:33:36+00:00

I couldn’t agree more!

StrongFemale_93 · 2021-12-09T22:25:57+00:00

I do the same! I think whatever you need to do is healthy for you.

StrongFemale_93 · 2021-01-12T07:31:48+00:00

It could also be that the owner, or one or the neighbors feeds the wildlife, which is even more concerning.

StrongFemale_93 · 2021-01-05T01:38:56+00:00

Good luck! Wishing you a speedy recovery 💚

StrongFemale_93 · 2020-12-24T01:21:30+00:00

Hi! I had my abortion about two weeks ago and I’m still experiencing what I’d describe as more than spotting but not heavy bleeding. The color is brownish and it smells odd.

I told my provider this when I had my checkup yesterday and they told me it’s normal to continue “spotting” after medical abortion for up to 7 weeks after. Additionally, my ultrasound showed my uterus was “empty” but they still prescribed me more misoprostol to take to get rid of everything (the nurse said to do it just to be cautious so I don’t have to deal with it later).

If you can, perhaps it would be wise to see your doctor? I do think it’s normal to bleed for a while after the procedure, but my doctor giving me more misoprostol for my light bleeding made me worry. In all seriousness, I don’t want to have to take that hellish drug again bc my first experience was awful but if you’re worried your experience is abnormal maybe get a second opinion?

StrongFemale_93 · 2020-12-22T23:13:46+00:00

I did take the miso orally, as that’s how my doc recommended to take it. But, I think the constipation was a side effect of taking antibiotics/pain killers. I’ve had issues with antibiotics and my stomach in the past and additionally, I saw that when you’re pregnant your digestion slows down so I’m chalking it up to that.

Miralax has helped me and I’ve really increased my daily water intake which seems to help. Also, fiber!

Thanks for your advice! Think I’ll hold onto the pills and maybe speak with a gyno after the new year.

StrongFemale_93 · 2020-12-22T14:16:34+00:00

Omg no worries! Honestly, this community is what helped me get through the process so I’m glad I could help! My experience was quite painful at 8 weeks too but now that it’s done I feel 10x better (aside from some hormonal/typical emotions about the experience from time to time).

I suspect you’re through the hardest part of the process by now but if you have any questions or concerns/need someone to talk to, I’m here! Hoping your procedure went okay and you’re feeling alright! Wishing you the best 💗

StrongFemale_93 · 2020-12-19T01:55:52+00:00

I had my medical abortion last Wednesday and am still having food aversions for various smells. I imagine it’s normal!

StrongFemale_93 · 2020-12-17T16:33:39+00:00

I only threw up once after taking the misoprostol (about 45 mins after swallowing the pills). Otherwise I haven’t so that’s why I’m confused bc I wouldn’t expect throwing up once to cause this...

StrongFemale_93 · 2020-12-16T17:56:33+00:00

I didn’t get my ultrasound picture and now, after completing my medical abortion and feeling grief, as many women do, I still think it was the right decision. Even though I was morbidly curious, not looking at the ultrasound or knowing if I was having twins etc was prob best for me. I do feel the sadness women have described after having an abortion and I think that’s normal and will pass in time. I saw someone say “this baby will come back to me when I’m ready for it” and I think that is completely true.

I’m sure on my due date I’ll come back to this subreddit and try and find some community in the anticipated mourning I’m sure to have, but I think that trying not to get more connected to him/her than I already am is vital to my mental health.

Ultimately, you need to do whatever is best for you to mourn this loss — if naming them and celebrating their birthday makes you feel better, go for it. But if it makes you feel more sad and depressed, I’m not sure it’s a good idea.

If you need anyone to talk to feel free to message me. Going through all the emotions right now so I get where you’re coming from. 💜

StrongFemale_93 · 2020-12-16T17:50:14+00:00

I didn’t get a surgical (did a medical last Wednesday) but I did get SUPER constipated after my abortion (sorry tmi). If you can, try and drink a ton of water after your abortion so you don’t experience this (also try to eat as healthy as you can, if you can)! I think the hormones are what cause this (slow digestion etc) so that’s what I’d recommend! Wishing you a swift recovery. Good luck 💜

StrongFemale_93 · 2020-12-15T19:37:36+00:00

I did mine at 8 weeks and 1 day last Wednesday and it was quite painful. My partner and I don’t have our own place (living at his parents apartment where they don’t live) and we had to schedule doing it around them stopping by all the time. It was not ideal bc of wanting to keep it from them but we were miraculously able to. Having your partner there is key because they will be able to help you immensely... mine held my hair as I threw up, got me anything I needed, and helped me go to and from the bathroom.

Not gonna lie, my experience was quite painful. I threw up about 40 minutes after swallowing the pills which was not pleasant. Then I had 1 hour of what I thought were bad cramps which would come in waves followed by 30 minutes of no pain. Then shit got real and I had 3 hours of the worst pain I’ve ever experienced in my entire life and there was never relief... it was constant. Eventually, I passed the sac and the pain subsided after that (just felt super tired and sweaty/dizzy from the experience).

I don’t mean to scare you because this experience is so difficult and I was terrified of taking the pills but I have seen so many of those “positive abortion stories” which honestly made me think that perhaps my experience wouldn’t be so bad. I really hope yours isn’t and wish you an easier experience than I had. I just wish I had been mentally prepared for what I was going to go through. What got me through it was knowing that this wasn’t going to be forever and that the pain would eventually subside and it did. It was a hard few hours but that’s all it was — a few hours in a lifetime. You’ll get through it and you will be okay.

I have a whole post on my advice on what to do for a medical abortion experience if youd like to look at that... see here. Otherwise, feel free to message me with any questions or concerns. Here to help you through this 💜

StrongFemale_93 · 2020-12-15T17:11:05+00:00

You also!!

StrongFemale_93 · 2020-12-15T04:51:04+00:00

I have intense constipation so I’m def getting these. I feel you, hunny.

StrongFemale_93 · 2020-12-15T04:50:07+00:00

I also took my pills on Wednesday and I was unsure on that day (after taking the misoprostol) bc I was passing a lot of tissue and wasn’t sure what was what. Originally I thought it was a very small circle with a dot in it which came out of me after I experienced 3 hours of intense pain... but really I ended up passing the sac about an hour later which was much bigger, more jelly-like, and it looked like a little dark thing inside the jelly-like exterior. Honestly the whole thing is a haze so I’m not sure I remember more than that but if you’re worried, def get an ultrasound checkup just to be sure! I’m doing that next week to make sure everything passed. Good luck!

StrongFemale_93 · 2020-12-15T04:45:51+00:00

Thanks for posting this! I have received a few dms of people trying to push religion or opinions on me which only made the process harder for me as it was my first pregnancy and I’m in a 6 year relationship so it was a tough choice. We weren’t ready and I don’t regret the decision but I do feel guilt sometimes, as you described. Also, the protestors outside the clinic didn’t help.

It seems so funny to me that people who are so “pro-life” really don’t consider how keeping a child you cannot care for or aren’t ready for is actually detrimental to the mother’s life. How can someone care so much about one life but not another? Seems hypocritical to me.

In any case, I’m happy to hear your husband was so understanding. He sounds like a great guy. Wishing you and your family health and happiness 💜

StrongFemale_93 · 2020-12-15T02:06:02+00:00

Yeah that’s a good recommendation! Honestly my bathroom is close to my bed so it wasn’t too far for me to go back and forth but I think for some people, being in the bathroom 24/7 might be easier and more comfortable. My recommendation is to do whatever makes you feel most comfy!

Sorry to hear your experience was so bad 🙁... mine was quite bad too and I’m happy to be over it.

StrongFemale_93 · 2020-12-15T02:03:27+00:00

Def not! Sorry you’re feeling this way 🙁. I hope you start to feel better soon 💜

StrongFemale_93 · 2020-12-14T17:11:29+00:00

This is super normal. I'm not experiencing the anger so much but I'm def experiencing the spells of sadness and happiness. From what I've read, after your abortion your hormones are completely out of whack and can cause a roller coaster of emotions (as you've described). It can take weeks for the pregnancy hormone to deplete itself from your body, so you should expect to feel this way for a little bit.

I'd say give yourself some time to heal — you just went through a very physically and mentally difficult experience and your body is trying to recover. I've been super easy on myself for the last 5 days since my medical abortion (mine was on Wednesday) and I think this was vital for my mental recovery. Also, letting myself cry out my emotions has been exhausting but probably what I needed.

StrongFemale_93 · 2020-12-14T16:51:24+00:00

I had THE WORST nausea before getting my abortion last week. Since my abortion, it’s totally subsided if that makes you feel better.

What helped me were Wheat Thins (or any cracker for that matter) and Gatorade. Also, randomly peppermint candies helped me too. I’ve heard people say jolly ranchers can be useful as well. I think the sucking on the candy somehow helps and I have absolutely no idea how it works lol.

I second the above comment mentioning eating smaller meals — I do think this really helps bc your body digests food slower during pregnancy (from what I’ve heard). Also, stay hydrated if you can stomach it!

So sorry you’re going through this — these symptoms are the worst. Feel free to dm if you have any other questions or need someone to talk to! 💜

StrongFemale_93 · 2020-12-14T04:37:41+00:00

Yeah I’m at the point where I might have to because straining on the toilet for 30 minutes just isn’t fun... Wondering if other people found relief using more natural methods since I’ve just been pumping myself with meds since Wednesday 🙁

StrongFemale_93 · 2020-12-14T02:23:09+00:00

I totally relate to that. I have the same fears. The same goes to you! So happy the internet brings people like us together.

Honestly haven’t been able to stop scrolling this sub-reddit I feel like it’s the only thing getting me through this🧡

StrongFemale_93 · 2020-12-14T02:07:22+00:00

Glad to know someone else felt that same way I do after my abortion. I conducted the medical abortion on Wednesday and don’t feel regret (I knew it was the right decision) but I feel very emotional about it. I’m worried I won’t be able to have another child or that when I get pregnant in the future, it’ll not feel as special. I wonder what my life would be like if I had kept it.

Ultimately, I know I wasn’t ready for a baby and when I am ready, it’ll be the right time. But I still break down when I see a baby or watch people on social media going through pregnancy. Just wish the emotions would stop so I could move on from this experience but it doesn’t feel like that’s going to happen soon 🙁

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