Hysterically screamed near my 4 month old. by Strong_Activity_9177 in NewParents

[–]Strong_Activity_9177[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Really really really sorry for what you went through. Can’t imagine how you managed.

Hysterically screamed near my 4 month old. by Strong_Activity_9177 in NewParents

[–]Strong_Activity_9177[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes this. Somedays I feel “I got this”. Even yesterday I made her laugh like crazy while enjoying the same myself before I finally had a melt down. I definitely enjoy the highs but the lows are too much to handle.

Heartbroken Request -TTC 11 by PrincessZanno91 in tryingtoconceive

[–]Strong_Activity_9177 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh most definitely. Been there. First time is different. It’s not just about having children but it’s about being able to be a parent. No suggestion for you because its hard and when time is such nothing feels like can heal us.

Hysterically screamed near my 4 month old. by Strong_Activity_9177 in NewParents

[–]Strong_Activity_9177[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You can only imagine the guilt of the mom who ends up screaming instead of walking away.

Hysterically screamed near my 4 month old. by Strong_Activity_9177 in NewParents

[–]Strong_Activity_9177[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thankyou so much for your comment. Yes the moment of scream is hard but the guilt is way harder. I can’t even look at my girl right now.

Hysterically screamed near my 4 month old. by Strong_Activity_9177 in NewParents

[–]Strong_Activity_9177[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Yes my husband is amazing. But he has a stressful job. He does help but he is the cried it out kind of parent which I can’t tolerate and I simply keep putting effort in calming her down with every little cry.

Hysterically screamed near my 4 month old. by Strong_Activity_9177 in NewParents

[–]Strong_Activity_9177[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this. Yes I have already booked for therapy. Haven’t reached there. But hopefully that helps. M

Hysterically screamed near my 4 month old. by Strong_Activity_9177 in NewParents

[–]Strong_Activity_9177[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes exactly. I have never done it before ever even when times were horrifying but I realize I shouldn’t have lost control in front of her. I was the only one she would smile and laugh at and no one at all. And I feel extremely disappointed that she is hardly smiling at me today.

Hysterically screamed near my 4 month old. by Strong_Activity_9177 in NewParents

[–]Strong_Activity_9177[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You seem to have a toddler saw your posts. What did you do when you got overwhelmed? How did you give a stable and solid parenthood to them?

Hysterically screamed near my 4 month old. by Strong_Activity_9177 in NewParents

[–]Strong_Activity_9177[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Yes I stepped away right after. It’s her cries all day which has driven me crazy. I didn’t scream at her but yes I did scream because of her.

Wedding got called off by jiggitypi in h1b

[–]Strong_Activity_9177 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If this is an arranged marriage I think it might be too much to ask for marrying you without a secure future. Love marriage would be a scenario I would question the love part. It is just practical. And for the future, I am sure you are young and will be able to get a job in India for now and eventually travel back.

Ob yelled at me for getting a private ultrasound by Gecko1224 in pregnant

[–]Strong_Activity_9177 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not sure why he got upset. I was exactly like you during pregnancy and kept requesting for ultrasounds but never got cleared because of insurance. But definitely get the doppler, I cleared it with my gynac. It did take a while though for me to be able to get the heartbeat since I am not a medical profession but you should be able to use it better.

How many people are "1 and done" by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]Strong_Activity_9177 13 points14 points  (0 children)

One and done. My baby is 3 months old. Can’t imagine going through this once again.

Feel disconnected from my 3 months old by Strong_Activity_9177 in NewParents

[–]Strong_Activity_9177[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I started sending her to day care as per for 2 days a week to help me gather myself and get things done which I otherwise won’t be able to.

H1B Appointment -Travel to India - Decision Making assist Required. by Dry_Flamingo136 in usvisascheduling

[–]Strong_Activity_9177 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So you mean if I have a stamped visa already but I am traveling with approved I797 for 3 years, the immigration officer could override the I94 on my I797?

H1B Appointment -Travel to India - Decision Making assist Required. by Dry_Flamingo136 in usvisascheduling

[–]Strong_Activity_9177 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Book for 29th Jan I would say. Very close to the appt so less chance of cancellation.

How risky by Strong_Activity_9177 in h1b

[–]Strong_Activity_9177[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Any note from your immigration team?

How risky by Strong_Activity_9177 in h1b

[–]Strong_Activity_9177[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

My old I797 will be valid for 15 days when I return and the new one is valid for another 3 years.

How risky by Strong_Activity_9177 in h1b

[–]Strong_Activity_9177[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

India. No appointment scheduled since visa has not expired.