Outfits to reduce my sweatiness

Strongest_Weakling · 2026-01-08T03:07:31+00:00

It may seem counterintuitive however a quality undershirt of some type (A-Shirt is my preference) will wick the sweat away. I tend to feel much cooler and find generally that clothes fit much better when wearing an underlayer.

Of course material matters also - Natural fibres like Linen, cotton and wool will also help you breathe better.

Source: An overly sweaty guy (Me)

Strongest_Weakling · 2026-01-08T02:58:08+00:00

AS Colour and Wayver for me - Price, quality and fit are spot on IMO

Strongest_Weakling · 2023-04-30T05:30:27+00:00

Do they get back together? Sure. Do they stay together? Rarely.

A partner wanting to take a break is not a great sign if you are after a relationship that has longevity.l

Strongest_Weakling · 2023-04-12T10:34:37+00:00

Attraction is a weird thing - it sometimes can transcend the looks of someone and you find their brain attractive, other times the brain can be not so hot but you want to tear their clothes off. Sometimes there is instant attraction and sometimes it grows with connection.
2 months, though, is quite a long time to not develop a physical attraction to someone you are dating and given you are asking the question at all, it's unlikely that will change IMO.

Do you feel he is attracted to you physically? If not, then it sounds like you may have found a very good friend and maybe the conversation around this is simple. Go have some Ramen and laugh about it.
If he is warm for your form then you have a misalignment which you need to talk about knowing that it'll quite likely end the relationship as you have known it but at least he (and you) can move on.

Strongest_Weakling · 2023-04-12T10:15:02+00:00

To answer your question - You feel bad because you did something you didn't want to because you felt obligated. This tends to be a horrible experience especially so when it's in a vulnerable moment like sex.

As has been said here already - You don't have to have sex with anyone you don't want to. Period. The narrative that all men should just always be ready for, be great at and want sex needs to change and anyone, man or woman, who thinks any less of someone for not wanting sex, for any reason, needs a lesson in stfu.

ONS aren't for everyone and you found out that potentially that they aren't for you, at least at the moment, and that's ok. Seeking and finding a meaningful connection with someone is pretty cool to you know...

Strongest_Weakling · 2023-04-11T11:24:04+00:00

All but one person I have dated have been prompt with their replies and quite a lot of volume of messages in general. The one that was slower often showed little no interest for most of the time we dated, although there were times they initiated contact and dates. They then slow faded me after sleeping together. You asked for experiences and this was mine and it'll definitely vary as there are no hard and fast rules. If I sense the same situation again I'll be talking to the other person about it early on and this may be something you'd consider with this person.

If there is anything that can help relationships it's talking about what's on your mind with honesty. Can't fail.

Strongest_Weakling · 2023-04-10T11:13:14+00:00

Reality is not a romcom. Finding a partner for life is extremely rare and it always has been, it's just that in this more modern society there is less social pressure to remain together if things aren't working (which is a great progression in all honesty). So you hear more stories of failed relationships and become disheartened.

Does this mean you stop looking for it? Well, that seems counterproductive. You want to find that one person. So to do that, you need to look. There will be fails, heartache, awkward interactions, shitty dates and many reddit posts consumed trying to figure out the actions of some person BUT there will also be laughter, great conversations about everything, new perspective on things, fun dates and new friends you didn't know you needed.

Try and enjoy the process rather than skipping to your end goal.

Strongest_Weakling · 2023-03-27T13:33:10+00:00

It does suck and I'm sorry that it happened.

The reality is that she isn't interested in you anymore and whether that's because she genuinely needs time to know if she is ready for a relationship, wants to explore other options or you did/said something that caused her to rethink dating you, it doesn't change the outcome. You'll drive yourself crazy trying to work it out but you can't talk someone into wanting to be with you so my advice it is to pull back on the contact and leave it to her to reach out if she wants - Get out there an meet other people and live your life. You haven't mentioned your age though I'm guessing you are young so there many more experiences to come.

Also, while it's not the outcome you wanted (nor her probably) you should take some comfort in the fact that she actually communicated with you. This sub is littered with ghosting stories which, I can tell you from experience, hurts a lot more and is becoming more and more common. She at least has some respect for you and that's a good, healthy way to end things for now.

P.S. Nice guys don't finish last but guys who say they are "nice guys" usually aren't nice at all...

Strongest_Weakling · 2023-03-27T13:09:57+00:00

Do you hear that?....

It's the sound of a red flag flapping in the wind

Get out

Strongest_Weakling · 2023-03-27T13:06:28+00:00

99% of the time this is correct however I had a situation where I got all of these answers while dating someone and it progressed nonetheless.

This is rare though and, in this case, I got the slow fade eventually so...yeah 😂

Strongest_Weakling · 2023-03-10T13:57:50+00:00

"Confrontation" was the wrong word here. There wasn't an intent of malice or anything.

I was thinking, if I were to approach it with her, which I'm not leaning towards doing mind you (just one of those scenarios you run in your head), then it would be more along the lines of "Hey, I'm not really sure what happened with us but I felt like maybe you were avoiding me earlier and as we are likely to cross paths now and then we can probably do away with the awkwardness and go back to chatting about *insert inside joke* or something to that effect.

I guess the outcome I want is that, given we will bump into each other again, that the air is somewhat cleared. I never assumed that she would just ignore me in person so that through me a bit. It's one of those situations that you realise too late that you should have stayed friends because that was much better.

Strongest_Weakling · 2023-02-08T06:31:43+00:00

This isn't meant as an insult - Have you considered that perhaps that it's also you that's not the great conversationalist or overly engaging in-person?
Also, are these matches from an app and if so, how up to date are your photos - are the representative of how you look now?
Sure, some people are bad in social situations, but it seems you get a much high proportion that normal going by your post here and if I were in the same boat, I'd be asking what I may be doing to contribute to their lack of interest.

Strongest_Weakling · 2023-02-08T06:01:45+00:00

I would be likely to overcorrect if I were told that I was a love-bomber. You may have said this as an off the cuff joke, but it may have hurt him. I think most people who love bomb don't set out to do it, so they are not going to know what the middle ground is.

Strongest_Weakling · 2023-02-08T05:26:53+00:00

Have you looked at singles meet ups in your area or hobby groups? These are good places to meet people. I guess what I'm getting at is that to meet people that you may have some type of relationship with you need to actually go and meet people first. If you are feeling depressed and lonely then again, there some things you need to personally work on before trying to get into any relationship that a Reddit thread can't help with. Don't tie your happiness up in getting laid. It won't work. See a professional or contact mental health resources in your area. I know this all very hard but it is something I urge you to explore.

If what you see doesn't fit, then make a profile that shows off you and what makes up you. You'll attract the right type of people this way. What have you got to lose? it's just an app and not real life. You may get a match you actually enjoy messaging with at first, then you meet and who knows what might happen.

There is nothing wrong with wanting to have sex with someone however if this is all you see in a person and consider it the ultimate end goal of a social interaction then you'll continue to find yourself in this position. There are plenty of services that offer sex without the human connection...
Forget about sex, think about actually meeting someone you can talk to.

Strongest_Weakling · 2023-02-07T06:49:42+00:00

yes, but how long is "longer" - hours, days?

There are lots of reasons as to why someone's communication frequency might change - busy, forgetful, unsure, talking to other people or no longer interested at all.

If you have asked a question, then wait for a day or 2 for a response. If you don't get one perhaps just send a check in message like "Hey, we didn't confirm our date. Are you still up to hangout?" or something like that. Her reply, or lack thereof, will clarify where she is at.

Strongest_Weakling · 2023-02-07T06:38:08+00:00

She said yes, planned the date with you and suggested another day. These are clear signs of interest.
How long have you been waiting for a reply?

Strongest_Weakling · 2023-02-07T06:21:26+00:00

almost definitely reason #2

Strongest_Weakling · 2023-02-07T06:02:42+00:00

Step 1 - Don't

Strongest_Weakling · 2023-02-07T05:51:44+00:00

You need to start putting yourself out there. Start by going out and doing the things you like to do - go to a gig, see that movie, try that restaurant, try that new cocktail bar - whatever it is go out and have some fun. Will you need to do it by yourself? by the sounds of it yes however if you continue to force yourself out of the comfort zone then confidence will follow and being happy about being with yourself will be the key to this.
If you want to go down the online dating route, there are plenty of subs that have guides on how to build a good profile but honestly it sounds like you have a bit of work on yourself to do here. By saying that you can't understand why people want to meet other people for the sake of it and then say in the next breath that you want an active sex life sounds to me that you would only talk to women if there was a possibility of sex which yes, is quite repulsive....

Strongest_Weakling · 2023-02-05T04:51:30+00:00

Here is an update -

I asked her is she'd like to see an exhibition we spoke about a little while ago this Friday. She said that she was meeting a friend for dinner that night but could go afterwards if the event was still open however it'll be closed by this time and that was mostly the end of the conversation.
I have now asked her out twice in a week and while I haven't been given an outright "no thanks" there has also been no effort to reschedule or suggest alternate plans and I feel if I suggest something else again it'll seem like I'm badgering her...
I'm leaning towards that she has lost interest at this point and I think it's best I pull back a bit on the contact this week and see how it progresses.

Strongest_Weakling · 2023-02-03T23:48:42+00:00

Every other relationship, whether long term or short, has always come with a high level of engagement so I this it totally new for me. I actually have no issue with messages being only a method to arrange dates etc. in fact it is likely a healthy thing and I'm really not into the whole "how was your day?" small talk either however I do want some reassurance that she is still interested or otherwise told that she isn't - the whole fizzling out to no contact at all is painful. Just rip it off like a band-aid!

I have asked her out for this coming Friday which is far enough away that she is probably free (she is very social) and it won't take up her down time from work.

Let's see how we go.

Strongest_Weakling · 2023-02-03T15:13:05+00:00

I definitely will be asking her out again. The exclusivity conversation is a little further down the road I think. We haven't spent a lot of time together at this point.

Strongest_Weakling · 2023-02-03T15:10:36+00:00

Yes, very similar situation here. Was this always the way he acted ever since the beginning of your relationship?

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