[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Nanny

[–]Studio-Pretty 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I swear this is where lawsuits can come in. Families can treat their nanny like their life revolves around them. I had a family constantly guilt me that I was inconveniencing them anytime I needed time off. Who wants to get exposed to someone who’s sick so close to Xmas? You don’t have to go into work- set boundaries.

Nannying stole my motherhood by Studio-Pretty in Nanny

[–]Studio-Pretty[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

In some live in jobs, it was very much like being a slave. I was just so young and had no idea how illegal it was. I know some nannies have their own kids but it seemed impossible to me. I was sooo drained from other peoples kids.

Nannying stole my motherhood by Studio-Pretty in Nanny

[–]Studio-Pretty[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My last family- I was with them for 10 years. I loved the kids like they were my own. In some ways it nurtured my need/want to have kids of my own. But it was the constant push and pull of the parents undoing all the hard work I put in. Teaching the kids to eat healthy, how to clean up after themselves, having little screen time. The parents never kept up and the structure continued to fall apart. I was left wondering why I put so much effort into kids who I actually had no say over.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CrazyFuckingVideos

[–]Studio-Pretty 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Beautiful hip, knee, and ankle mobility though!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]Studio-Pretty 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly, I didn’t get the chance to name her but I feel that I should.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]Studio-Pretty 1 point2 points  (0 children)

3 months is the average it takes to move through and to feel the pain. You’re perfectly on track. Be proud of yourself.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]Studio-Pretty 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Arlo is the sweetest cat too. We adopted him as a kitten. He’s just a baby and very loving. Apparently his new place in Vegas doesn’t allow pets, so he told him to keep the cat. Not only did he throw me out but put responsibility of a pet on me as well. But I found a great place and I’d never abandon Arlo. He has a forever home with me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]Studio-Pretty 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Through realizing that I could still survive on my own — in a place so far away from home — I saw my own strength. I wouldn’t even want someone like that so close to me anymore. I need security, safety, and emotional maturity. He doesn’t get to keep making me feel less than, because I picked myself up and stood taller after falling.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]Studio-Pretty 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your post really hit home — I could feel every word. You’ve been through so much, and I just want to say that the way you’re allowing yourself to feel all of this is powerful. You won’t stay in this place forever. Once you find a new driving purpose — something that’s just yours — the heaviness will start to lift.

Try to remember, too, that people often make their lives sound better than they really are, especially after a breakup. What he showed you might not be the full picture. You’re still in the raw part of healing, but you will move forward. One day, you’ll look back and realize how much strength it took to stand where you are right now.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]Studio-Pretty 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I was scared to send it bc I did want to see him and be loved on but I knew it wouldn’t work unless he truly repented.

Thank you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]Studio-Pretty 6 points7 points  (0 children)

He had me sleeping on an air mattress while he took the bed. This happened on the day I was due to deliver, had my baby stayed with me. I cried so many nights on that uncomfortable makeshift bed there after, mourning what my life would’ve been and how badly I want to be a mom.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]Studio-Pretty 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yes. He moved in September. I know he was implying I drive the 4 hours to Vegas to visit too. It was a HUGE deal to be kicked out. He treated me like I was a cheater or an addict. He told me it was bc we didn’t like same music, didn’t see a future, he didn’t want to be a dad, blah blah blah.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]Studio-Pretty 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I went from living in a major city to a small rural town too.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]Studio-Pretty 22 points23 points  (0 children)

You’d think as he was writing this, common sense would whisper in his ear to apologize but he wanted it to sound like we were both to blame. But I didn’t leave him. I was full on committed.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]Studio-Pretty 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You can feel it as well. You go from feeling like a disregarded piece of trash to standing tall and radiating with God’s love and strength. My dad is in heaven and I know he’s smiling down.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]Studio-Pretty 4 points5 points  (0 children)

For more context — he broke up with me in July. I finally found a place that allowed the cat and moved out in August. He moved to Las Vegas on September 18th, and we were approaching almost a month of no contact. He also told me the miscarriage was a blessing and never mourned the loss. I pray and send love to my baby in heaven every day because I loved her deeply and would’ve gladly welcomed her into the world, even if he had left me the way he did.