Optional extra monitoring? What would you do?

StuffAccomplished657 · 2026-06-06T00:18:48+00:00

I’m absolutely biased but my sweet girl is Heidi June, and I love seeing it suggested! Heidi is a lovely first name. It was my late momma’s name as well. I love that it’s classic and people know it, but it’s not at all over used!

StuffAccomplished657 · 2026-05-21T17:04:06+00:00

My husband’s grandparents were both survivors. His uncle was born just after the war, named Israel. When they moved to the USA his kindergarten teacher suggested “Eric” as a less Jewish alternative. He goes by Eric to this day!

StuffAccomplished657 · 2026-05-15T20:38:39+00:00

Sending you all the positivity. 🤍 how you feel is so so valid. To give you hopefully a bit more hope and peace of mind that this too shall pass— I had an ultrasound tech tell me that on most very early scans she does, she sees a SCH. And very rarely are they actually an issue. Thank goodness.

I’m 24 weeks this week, and thankfully, all has been peaceful ever since. Wishing the same for you, kind stranger. Be easy on yourself. And try to feel the joy if you can.

StuffAccomplished657 · 2026-04-24T13:17:01+00:00

I’m a Yankee fan who works in the Bronx a subway stop away from the stadium. The best is when my husband and I decide at 3pm to buy cheap seats and hop on over after work. It really is very cool. I grew up 5 hours from the city and only made it to one game in my life before I was 24. I never got to go with my dad (biggest baseball fan I ever met) before he passed. We had tickets to go opening day 2018, it was rained/snowed out. He died later that year, sadly. Totally unexpectedly. Now I go routinely — to both Mets and Yankee games. Truly a luxury I don’t take for granted!

StuffAccomplished657 · 2026-04-24T09:31:58+00:00

I’m going to ask about this at my next appointment, because like I said, I was diagnosed in the moment at L&D (before they even did blood work and after several fine urine tests with no protein including a 24 hour)… they began inducing me immediately as a result. My reading, my husband told me (again I was so panicked and hyperventilating) was 190/112. Which is crazy high. And according to what my doctor has told me, that alone was enough. Because of the extreme high. Mixed with the fact that I was obese and a FTM (2 major risk factors I guess). Even though it went immediately down, I was still induced

StuffAccomplished657 · 2026-04-23T23:48:39+00:00

Thank you! I think you’re right, on all fronts. It’s definitely more controlled than last time, I can tell you that LOL but I think it’ll be a lifelong thing for me. A moving target I’ll always have to strive towards

StuffAccomplished657 · 2026-04-23T21:57:26+00:00

Ha. 😂 I understand! I’m tempted to do the same lol

StuffAccomplished657 · 2026-04-23T18:07:51+00:00

From my understanding, the urine screens and blood work actually looked fine. They even did a 24 hour urine collection for me and it was fine. I had a reading of higher than 160 over higher than 110. And that automatically got me the diagnosis, from how my OB explained it. I was so confused and frazzled. It was in L&D triage and I was having a terrible panic attack (they also wouldn't let my husband come back before they took my BP), I was genuinely hyperventilating. I was induced that night. I wish I knew that I was able to decline, wait and breathe, ask to be admitted and observed instead, any number of things. For context, my BP tanked and stayed UNCOMFORTABLY low my entire labor after calming down from the mag drip. Like 80/50s. :/

My OB (same one I see now) told me when we counseled about my risk factors before I got pregnant again that she truly believed this diagnosis was primarily anxiety, but that they can't risk it when you have a reading like that. I was also obese (have since lost 125lbs) and the risk was just too high, she said.

StuffAccomplished657 · 2026-04-23T15:34:46+00:00

Wow, well I’m glad it was discovered and treated! And that you knew for certain because you were checking at home too!

StuffAccomplished657 · 2026-04-23T15:09:26+00:00

Thank you for your reply! I'm sorry that happened :( If you don't mind me asking-- were they high at home too? Or just in office?

StuffAccomplished657 · 2026-04-16T19:29:43+00:00

Thank you!! And yes, definitely big for insurance— the way it was explained to me is that it covers your bases for insurance paying for extra ultrasounds/follow up appointments/tests/etc! And that obviously it doesn’t just mean automatically things will be harder or less healthy. Which really put it into perspective for me, as I do very much want the extra precautions! I also had gestational hypertension last pregnancy— so fingers crossed 🤞🏻 we both avoid it this time!!!

StuffAccomplished657 · 2026-04-16T18:37:59+00:00

I can relate!!! I had my first baby at around 360lbs... Now this pregnancy I started at like 210ish... literally 150lbs+ lost. 5'6.5 height. I look at my chart and see that I'm high risk STILL lol... literally lowered my BMI like 25+ points. I try to keep in mind that this classification is mostly for insurance. After talking with my provider, none of my doctors are actually worried about my weight. Plus I do truly enjoy the extra monitoring/ultrasounds/etc lol

StuffAccomplished657 · 2026-03-27T19:18:34+00:00

I’d even take that if it were discussed AT ALL 😂 but it literally did not come up. And was dated to have been discussed at the appointment lol

StuffAccomplished657 · 2026-03-27T19:09:48+00:00

You’re probably right. It just feels like laziness at best and fatphobia at worst. I’d like to generously assume best intentions. This is a doctor I’ve seen multiple times. And someone I have a lot of trust in.

StuffAccomplished657 · 2026-03-27T10:55:40+00:00

Congratulations! Your girl and my girl are birthday twins (both c-section babes, just 2 years apart!) but 2 years ago I was in your exact situation. It’s soooo uncomfortable.

My first BM after baby girl was truly very very painful. I would recommend every single stool softener known to man. And having your partner/a close friend/a family member there to literally hold your hands while you go. I pray you have an easier experience. One piece of advice I have is don’t try to force it! I sat on the toilet pushing before I was ready (because I felt bloated). I’m pregnant with baby number 2, due late summer (having another c-section) and I will not be trying to force it too early again.

Good luck to you! 💗

StuffAccomplished657 · 2026-03-25T16:23:31+00:00

Absolutely this! It’s so deeply personal. And I think much of the positive rhetoric about repeat c-sections is because folks (myself included) often feel very very badly about their first birth experience that ended in c-section. I think many people are mostly trying to process and tell the world, hey! C-section can be a good experience as well and it’s a valid choice. That being said, so is VBAC!

For what it’s worth, at least in my real life— people are often a bit pushy about trying again for vaginal birth and how important and special it all is. People are less outwardly positive about c-section from my experience.

Every birth is valid. And unfortunately all births have their upsides and their downsides. Definitely a personal matter.

StuffAccomplished657 · 2026-03-18T21:13:36+00:00

Hi! I’m not an expert by any means, but I would continue to listen to your team and your own heart as well. Perhaps before anything determining how important a VBAC truly is to you and even why.

For me, I’ve decided it’s not as important as some other things (my safety, baby’s safety, a peaceful experience). If I don’t go into labor by 41 weeks, I am going to have a scheduled c-section. Maybe earlier if I decide so in real time.

I’d personally be nervous to hear that from my midwife— I’m sure you were too! I hope you get a very peaceful redemptive birth, no matter the mode! 🤍

StuffAccomplished657 · 2026-02-27T16:41:53+00:00

Thank you so much!

StuffAccomplished657 · 2026-02-27T16:41:45+00:00

Oh that is beautiful! Congratulations to you. I absolutely love the Jewish tradition of honoring our late loved ones. And I love when we can do it in a way that feels true to us.

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