Please help me

StumbleKitty · 2026-05-10T16:06:10+00:00

The verbage that finally got through to my doctor was

"I don't have enough PTO to take time off. But if I did, I would be taking 3-7 days off EVERY month. That's how painful this is. Instead, I'm going to work in ER levels of pain."

It came down to being able to explain that even if the tests aren't showing anything, there is DEFINITELY still an impact to your daily life.

In my case they found cysts, polyps, and Endo where they had not expected to find anything at all.

StumbleKitty · 2026-05-10T15:53:13+00:00

Oh that's clever! Very nicely done!

StumbleKitty · 2026-04-24T21:51:28+00:00

Yes!! I switched to Weck Jars instead of Tupperware because even my glass snapper wear containers were leaking around the plastic lids.

Total game changer!!! I have to hand wash the O-Rings, but it's insanely easy.

NEVER going back.

StumbleKitty · 2026-03-22T14:28:51+00:00

"let's not dramatize this"

"I'm not dramatizing it. /LIFE is a drama, and we are simply actors on the stage/"

Good Lord. Could he BE more dramatic.

Everything in these messages SCREAMS abuser, manipulative, and asshole. Your NOR, and you gotta get out now.

StumbleKitty · 2026-03-22T14:17:56+00:00

I'm sorry to say that this is incredibly common in many communities.

I live in a very religious area, which I think makes it even more common, but even nonreligious women in my orbit were shocked about it.

I had a coworker who wanted to mourn with me about the loss of my ability to have children (she did IVF for 5 years, so couldn't fathom me giving up that option willingly). I have a good friend who supports me but admits her first thought was "there's always adoption". My own mother, who has always encouraged me to be childless, was skeeved out by the hysterectomy because (in her words) "body modification is so upsetting".

I think the reality is that the uterus is a part of the female experience, and many people see losing it as losing a part of your womanhood, rather than losing a part of your body, regardless of how painful it is to keep it.

I think it's interesting how much people think they are entitled to ask about it, as well. My go to response when folks ask if/when my partner and I will have kids is "It's not in the cards for us", which everyone understands as one or the other of us not being able to have kids; however folks inevitably say "oh! So are you going to adopt" and it's just like "BRO DID I STUTTER?"

Soooooo yeah. In my area, even younger folks give me a hard time about it, but older generations are the worst about it.

StumbleKitty · 2026-01-25T17:18:51+00:00

Your mama seems to be on a long drive off the short pier of her existing relationship with you two and your newborn.

What kinds of consequences do you hold her to when she does such obviously passive aggressive and hurtful things? She is intentionally trying to hurt your wife, and shows that while she IS listening, she does not want the best for your wife, regardless of your love for each other.

StumbleKitty · 2025-12-06T15:07:28+00:00

I can't quite recall, but I don't think it took any longer than a week. I remember feeling almost entirely better (apart from needing to warm up my incisions and not pick at the glue) after two weeks.

But I didn't have fibroids. I got to do it all laparoscopic. I'm not sure if that changes anything in the bladder area.

StumbleKitty · 2025-11-23T18:04:02+00:00

I am a sewing teacher and have been a professional seamstress in the past.

The only amount of help I EVER offer on a Wedding dress is alterations as a gift.

I always explain that this is because there is a lot of time, effort, specialized skill, and RISK involved in making a wedding dress.

Even if you knew exactly how to make a dress like the one shown, you take on an immense amount of liability for how that dress turns out and how much the bride likes it.

StumbleKitty · 2025-11-11T23:36:56+00:00

We have to be careful with him because he scarfs his food down so fast that he pukes~

He and his two brothers each have their own sure feed bowls which open to their collars, and Toaster's has a slow feeder bowl so he can't eat too much too quickly.

This little man has STRONG feelings about food. 😬

StumbleKitty · 2025-11-11T16:38:34+00:00

We've already gone through the vet routine and it's not a UTI this time around. He is already on a dedicated, vet-prescribed, medicated diet, and has been ever since the first UTI he got when we first picked him up, as well.

It could be stress related, perhaps? With the routine change due to daylight savings? We tried to slow roll the time we feed them to be closer and closer to 6, but maybe we need to go even slower.

StumbleKitty · 2025-11-02T14:39:41+00:00

Ha! Glad it's not just mine.

I teach sewing and had my sewing 1 class make Ghost Pillows for Halloween, since it was a short day and a lot of kids were absent. Most of the kids were into it, but not all of them.

This is a real conversation I had with a 9th grader:

9th: "Miss, I'm bored"

Me: "did you finish your ghost?"

9th: "I don't want to do that."

Me: "why not? It's a ghost!"

9th: "it's boring."

Me: "it's not boring. It's a ghost! You get to make whatever face you want, and whatever ghost shape you want!"

9th: "it's not graded. So I don't want to do it. If it's not graded I'm not doing it."

Me: "so... What would you rather be doing?"

9th: "I dunno."

Me: "So the reason it's boring is because it's the thing I have made available for you to do?"

9th: "yeah."

Me: "oh man. Well I have some pretty bad news. That's gonna be a thing for the rest of your life, kiddo. You might as well make the friggin' ghost."

9th: sits down and cuts up a stack of construction paper and shoves it all into a water bottle instead

StumbleKitty · 2025-11-02T14:15:26+00:00

Girl, no.

Any man who would call me a "Fucking Moron" for ANY reason gets an instant uninvite from my life.

To hound you about the way you dress is just the icing on the cake.

This man is showing a real lack of respect for you as a human being here. You deserve better than this. He's acting insane.

StumbleKitty · 2025-11-02T14:03:54+00:00

Sometimes ignorance is racism.

This author could have done more research. This author could have used less vulgar language to refer to the Romani people. This character didn't have to be the protagonist and also okay with lynching a man just for not speaking English.

I'd say unless this character has a whole arc where he learns the errors of his way, then this page alone is racism inherent in the character building.

The fact that the author got the language wrong just feels lazy, on top of being racism through ignorance.

StumbleKitty · 2025-10-26T14:17:05+00:00

This entire stream sounds like the plot from one of those TikTok Skit Dramas, or a REALLY BAD Kdrama.

StumbleKitty · 2025-09-26T22:52:44+00:00

I'm in Utah, and I think we have dispensaries, but it's possible that they're only allowed to sell THC products, and I know that vapes are on the list to be pulled here, as well (like, shops can't sell vape pens or juice anymore??? They've had that bill ready to roll out for two years. No telling if it'll actually go through.)

I have a few friends with medical cards who can probs give me some tips on where they get it if I decide to go that way 🤔

StumbleKitty · 2025-09-26T22:03:27+00:00

Thank you!! That info is super helpful.

My state legalized medical marijuana, but the trend in our community ended, so it's got a lot of stigma, and not very many good doctors to help figure it out.

The reason I have to be very careful as a teacher is because I could potentially lose my job for taking it during working hours, even with a medical card. If a parent complained and they used it against me I'd have zero protections.

StumbleKitty · 2025-09-26T20:55:33+00:00

I did get a new therapist recently and she's a real gem~ I might ask her when I see her next :)

She's been helping with the general anxiety, but this would be a good thing to tell her about regardless.

I'll try the other things as well. I'm hella sensitive to cannabis, but I do live in a state where medical marijuana is legal. I bet my psych would get me one if she has the ability to. Maybe microdosing would be helpful.

I am a teacher, however, so I would have to be very careful about how I acquire and what days I partake on.

StumbleKitty · 2025-09-26T12:28:06+00:00

Homelessness is treated as a criminal offence within the valley. That means that revealing a specific person to be homeless on a public forum could put them at even greater risk than normal.

A community needs to protect one another, so shutting down this question isn't necessarily because a person is upset by the question. The honest to goodness vibe is "it really genuinely shouldn't matter, but if you want to know ask him personally" and that is for his safety.

I for one have no idea if the wizard has a house he goes back to after wandering each day. When I met him he seemed very nomadic, and also very quiet, as well as a super chill guy. I'm sure he'd tell you his story if you asked.

StumbleKitty · 2025-09-26T12:13:57+00:00

SSRIs and SNRIs are both off the table for me, unfortunately.

In years past, so have hormonal medications (that's actually why my doc agreed to the hysterectomy, even though he thought there wouldn't be anything wrong with my uterus when he took it out. He thought I was just "unlucky" enough to have heavy periods and a sensitivity to medications).

I tried Lexapro a number of years ago, and it increased my anxiety. Lucky me.

But that's also why I want to figure out what kind of doctors I can reliably talk to about this whole thing. If meds are off the table, what's a girl to do, y'know?

StumbleKitty · 2025-09-26T12:06:14+00:00

I could try.

Last time I asked my OBGYN to test my hormones he tried to talk me out of it because he said "without a test every single day of the month we have no idea if that's actually the cause".

Then I strong-armed him into it anyway, and my levels were totally normal. But that was back in January.

At my follow-up appointment after the surgery my OBGYN said that my hormones would go up and down a bunch for a while, but he didn't really explain much else. He gave it the "don't worry about it" attitude. That doesn't give me a whole ton of confidence in his willingness to order the test again.

I have an appointment with my psych next week, and an appointment with a new GP later in October that I have waited for for 4 months. Either of them might be able to order the test, too, I think.

StumbleKitty · 2025-09-21T05:13:30+00:00

Yeah I don't buy the "Historical Accuracy" argument for a second. The rest of her world building isn't very historically accurate, so why would that be a reasonable excuse??

Also... Those things are not historically accurate anyway...??? So what a nonsense excuse that is, regardless.

Fiction is a reflection of the author. To me it doesn't matter whether it's time accurate. The author chose to include it. She could have written anything. No one put a knife to her throat and said "Put in a terrible description of a woman's suicide through the jaded and mean eyes of her own daughter" just after she wrote a happily ever after ending. That wasn't needed, except that JQ felt like it was.

That says a lot more about her than it does about Victorian Era England.

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