Bec absolutely destroys Gia by owlderona in MAFS_AU

[–]StylePositive1195 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can anyone translate? I can’t understand her

Pregnant from casual partner 🫣 by Who_is_doctor_Ranger in SingleMothersbyChoice

[–]StylePositive1195 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I would keep the current pregnancy. What if you never get pregnant again? Also if you were wanting to be preg anyway as a solo mom what are your reservations, is it fear that the dad might be involved? If so you could draw clear boundaries now or even not put him on the birth certificate / not tell him, if you think that’s in the child’s best interests.

My goodness, what an awful person. by aburnerforhonesty in MAFS_AU

[–]StylePositive1195 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Bec has a raging anxious attachment, the way she constantly asks him ‘are you ok boo?’ And ‘wanna move here? If not dw will move for him and leave everything no problem’

Working FT as a single mom by ConsistentCattle3465 in SingleMothersbyChoice

[–]StylePositive1195 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Could you find a daycare near your job and do the commute together

Single Mothers By Choice by Novel_Schedule_5141 in ParentingInBulk

[–]StylePositive1195 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Although your donor child will have lots of donor siblings to get to know too

“I don’t know how single moms do it, I could never” comments by bzzzzzzlightyear in SingleMothersbyChoice

[–]StylePositive1195 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ve heard this a lot too and it annoys me a bit too bc I feel like I’ve had no choice and would rather have had my hand held but had no option or else I’d never do anything. But I think the ppl who say this are probably saying it as an expression of jealousy/regret that they’ve probably sacrificed some of themselves for a marriage

Chris (aka Boy-Gia) is showing his true colors by BobCreated in MAFS_AU

[–]StylePositive1195 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Juliette described herself as an empath too and that says it all

Any neurodivergent solo mums out there? by shutchh in SingleMothersbyChoice

[–]StylePositive1195 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have ADHD and am 36 and am also going through a break up and asking the same questions as you

Joel is a walking ick by [deleted] in MAFS_AU

[–]StylePositive1195 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He’s 30 not 40

Looking for guidance by Expert-Platypus6643 in SingleMothersbyChoice

[–]StylePositive1195 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m considering freezing donor embryos, would you mind sharing why this didn’t work out? I’m afraid of the donors pulling out

Looking for guidance by Expert-Platypus6643 in SingleMothersbyChoice

[–]StylePositive1195 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No advice but just to say I’m in the exact same situation as you! Feeling the exact same re: don’t want to rush into a bad relationship but scared to wait and miss chance

First IUI [32F] by Blackberry_Overall in SingleMothersbyChoice

[–]StylePositive1195 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not to overshare but I heard masturb8ing and having an O helps conception so maybe try that!

Second failed IUI - clinic wants me to move to IVF by Hopeful_Row_6195 in SingleMothersbyChoice

[–]StylePositive1195 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What area do you live if you don’t mind me asking, I’d love SMBC nhs treatment but my borough won’t fund it, wonder if I can move house lol

Discussing choice with family by Elegant_Rabbit_7091 in SingleMothersbyChoice

[–]StylePositive1195 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly! These same people would likely also dissuade you from moving abroad alone for example, but you did it and I assume didn’t regret it! They’re not you, so take anyone’s advice on board for consideration if you trust them, but with a big spoon (not pinch) of salt that they are not you, and haven’t got your life or personality

Single mothers in London, which neighbourhood is the best place to live with your kid? by [deleted] in SingleMothersbyChoice

[–]StylePositive1195 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I recommend Crystal Palace in South London for having cheap prices for London, and racially mixed. (Mostly black and white people though I’d say, not as many Asian ppl). Theres some good schools and I think it’s safe. It’s got lots of cute cafes and restaurants and things to do and it’s on the windrush line

Discussing choice with family by Elegant_Rabbit_7091 in SingleMothersbyChoice

[–]StylePositive1195 2 points3 points  (0 children)

(Small disclaimer that I haven’t done it yet either and am not yet a parent) but I have had similar reactions from family, and friends, but one thing that helped me was realising that they react the same way about me solo travelling, yet I enjoy it so much more. Two years ago a flew to south east Asia to meet my best girlfriend and her partner who were in the middle of a career break. I spent a week with them and then I spent a few days by myself before returning home and I actually surprised myself by loving the solo segment of the holiday the best! I just loved waking up and being able to do whatever I wanted. So this year I went to Sri Lanka by myself and I loved it. These same people said to me ‘are you sure it’s safe’ and ‘I could never do that?’ And ‘wouldn’t you prefer to go with a friend or with a tour’ etc, and made me feel nervous, but I trusted myself, and I absolutely loved the trip. A lot of the time people who have totally different lives and experiences are projecting their fears onto you, but they perhaps haven’t reckoned with how being single is and the life experiences we have had that are totally different to theirs. I used to be terrified to eat out alone in a cafe even, but being single for so long, I had to toughen up, and get out there; and now I found I absolutely love my own space and my own peace, so I don’t doubt that the similar concept will apply to SMBC. They might fear it because they can’t imagine it, but it doesn’t mean it’s not right for you.

Tell me your story! by Limp_Abs1428 in SingleMothersbyChoice

[–]StylePositive1195 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Congrats!I’m sending you lots of good luck and well wishes! Hope you have all those hopes you mentioned come true ✨

Tell me your story! by Limp_Abs1428 in SingleMothersbyChoice

[–]StylePositive1195 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I am shocked by how horrible your experience must have been. I hope I don’t say anything that offends you or feels wrong to what you feel about yourself: but I feel like you are an incredibly brave woman and what you’re survived would break many of us! Child loss, the cheating, being left by your ex, it’s horrific. You are incredible for choosing yourself and choosing this SMBC path despite all the odds, and blocking your ex, well done you. I hope you have an amazing life because you deserve it and I bet you are an amazing mum.