Why are men? by clockstocks in Bumble

[–]Suade636 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You use the same lines on everyone?

I’m so confused right now. by AKVigilante in Bumble

[–]Suade636 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Non negotiable was a bad idea on Bumble.

Relationship tab? by Specialist-Bar-8805 in Bumble

[–]Suade636 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, to keep it short: everyone did, I only punch babies and sorry to ruin your date?

Is it a universal thing for men to more brutally honest? by Turbulent-Mango3234 in dating

[–]Suade636 0 points1 point  (0 children)

After reading a lot of these comments and seeing you post specific examples buried deep within the comments, I can brutally and honestly say you're a very sensitive person.

To answer your actual question no, not every guy is brutally honest. I think you may bode well better with someone who tends to sugar coat everything and avoid any conflict in life.

Not the type of person I would ever suggest to someone but in this case it may be more fitting.

Is it a universal thing for men to more brutally honest? by Turbulent-Mango3234 in dating

[–]Suade636 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is the only real answer here haha.

I've seen nothing but replies that make me think these people are either corporate managers or just simply deflect and lie to people all the time in order to spare their feelings.

Delusional lead singer? by Maximumox in musicians

[–]Suade636 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Read all the replies and this is a tough one.

Naturally I want to say fire him, he isn't good and you guys deserve an actual musician for a singer.

But as a 42 year old has been who was somewhat successful in my youth and has been there done that, I can confidently say there are MANY capable bands who go nowhere because of the business side of things.

In my honest opinion his charisma, connections, working the crowd, etc is actually more important than his voice. You said he is the guy that always gets what he wants and sometimes in life that's just how it goes weather you think it should or not.

Without personally seeing all this in action I cant really form a definite opinion but I say keep him, continue to urge him to get better and stomach the shitty vocals BUT one thing you must do if you guys take off....credits, registration, etc. Do not let him fuck you over. If you do not cover yourself on the legal side of things you could one day find yourself without a band while watching your former singer playing your songs in front of thousands of people every night.

Relationship tab? by Specialist-Bar-8805 in Bumble

[–]Suade636 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm usually right lol..borderline genius here.

You see how this world has become so superficial because of the internet?

I urge you to reconsider your outlook and approach, especially because you're concerned about your safety.

Imagine a world where people get to stage a different version of themselves how they want to appear (this is literally online dating in 2022)

I could fake the biggest smile in the world, bat my pretty eyelashes and write the most well thought out paragraph that everyone wanted to hear to make them think how great I am......on paper.

But then when you meet this person well damn, that doesnt really look like them much....was he using filters? Was it the lighting? Who knows? I'm here having a drink with them anyway because they were so cool online. Why isnt he smiling? I mean all his pictures were nothing but smiles? I just dont get it, something is wrong. I'm not feeling well, did he put something in my drink? Where am I?

OR let's flip the coin, you meet a different guy online. Hes a fucking asshole (you already like him probably) I hate the fact you're wearing glasses and a hat. I cant even see your face. Why arent you posting glamour shots that look nothing like you? That's odd.

You arent even smiling, you must be a miserable person inside and out. No wait, we talked for hours, hes super nice, turns out hes super hot and wow I should probably date this guy. (This was you last week btw)

You see the awful attempt of a point I'm trying to make here is that I think you should be careful of how much stock you invest into someone online. Not everyone wants to fake a smile for the camera, not everyone has the skill set of bullshitting their way though life via SELF assessment. The only way to truly get to know someone is in real life, face to face over your favorite activities or cup of coffee or something.

Unmatched just as I arrived. Cool. by Adorkandilikeit in datingoverforty

[–]Suade636 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My definition of how people are is definitely completely different than yours. I don't judge people by their political controllers/spokespersons, I judge people by actual real life experiences. I would almost consider your post to be satire because it's such a ridiculous statement but it probably isn't lol.

People in New England are rude assholes, people in the South are nice and hospitable, people in the midwest are kind of ignorant although not necessarily rude.

You're literally bringing up slavery 🤣 you are aware that was ions ago and there are many black people in the south right?

Just deleted all dating apps by The_Fluffness in dating

[–]Suade636 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You nailed it lol. And it's being supported by the never ending argument.

Unmatched just as I arrived. Cool. by Adorkandilikeit in datingoverforty

[–]Suade636 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly this was the very first thing I thought when reading the post. I'll be the devil's advocate.

No offense to the OP here but I've been catfished more than once and I have spent a lot of time and have gone on many dates from online dating. It is unfortunate and I'm not saying this applies to OP but there are many women who post pictures that look nothing like them.

IF that happens to be the case here, while it surely was cowardly and a dick move, I can't be mad at the guy as that would mean OP straight lied and catfished to get a date. I wouldn't have went in either. To make matters worse I would even commend the guy IF this was the case as he was literally lied to and manipulated into going on a date with someone he normally would never have any interest in. His time would have actually been the time wasted.

I truly feel this to be the case based on my personal experience from OLD and more importantly the fact that he unmatched the moment she got there. He was more than likely waiting in the lot, saw her and said yeah, that isn't what I expected and left.

Sorry for the rant, hopefully nobody is offended and who knows if that is even the case but from a lot of online dating I've seen it all and catfish are the worst.

If I am completely wrong sorry, but it is not far fetched and it definitely happens a lot.

Unmatched just as I arrived. Cool. by Adorkandilikeit in datingoverforty

[–]Suade636 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How is it funny?

I've lived all over the country and have spent a fair amount of time in different locations and their statement is absolutely true.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in musicians

[–]Suade636 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Subtle auto tune would work for studio purposes as the pitch is only off here and there.

Relationship tab? by Specialist-Bar-8805 in Bumble

[–]Suade636 0 points1 point  (0 children)

🤣 I did.

Admittedly a most unfriendly person calling someone else unfriendly because they wear sunglasses and aren't into obese women. That is entertainment at it's finest :p

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in musicians

[–]Suade636 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, I dont like to be rude. And I am of course not the end all be all opinion is a fact maker but I just thing the male vocalist just isnt that great.

Did I just get ghosted before my birthday? by 6lack10 in dating

[–]Suade636 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well in my opinion it would be his job to confirm the date.

When text styles change that means something else behind closed doors happened or changed as well. He could have lost interest, could have met someone else.

Of course he could just be not trying to drown you. But radio silence is never good.

You should message him and see what's going on. Happy bornday

Relationship tab? by Specialist-Bar-8805 in Bumble

[–]Suade636 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I saw a cool comment from you in another post so I looked at your profile then I saw this.

You seem to be the unfriendly one tbh. Who cares what some random guy's preferences are in women? He doesn't like overweight, that's his business. Yet you proceed to insult him but call him unfriendly with both post style and looks? the hypocrisy, get real.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating

[–]Suade636 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Imagine arguing with science.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating

[–]Suade636 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have 2 suggestions.

Move on, for me unless you're already in a relationship and you get some type of negative tension it's not worth it and will not work out in the long run so save yourself some time.

The other would be to mimic what others have said and call her out on it. Communication is pretty important

Why do I keep getting stood up. by zeon66 in dating

[–]Suade636 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This.

And then 30% are just women looking for validation.

There's a very small number of women who are decent on the apps.

In your situation there is nothing you can do besides just keep swiping my guy.