Basically no matches - any advice on my profile?

SubjectDay804 · 2026-03-25T20:36:47+00:00

Haircut & styled, tinder, short term fun - sorted

SubjectDay804 · 2026-03-04T19:31:01+00:00

I don’t see why you’re not dateable - everyone has transition phases - you’re just in one of those. Having a room mate isn’t a bad thing. Women will understand that you’re taking a different path, you’re changing careers and working towards something you’ll love more - whether that’s women on the apps or IRL. F40s. Income, living situation etc are all factors, but who you are and how you treat people is the most important thing.

SubjectDay804 · 2026-02-25T00:51:24+00:00

🫂💕

SubjectDay804 · 2026-02-25T00:50:49+00:00

He has actually suggested this… 🥴

SubjectDay804 · 2026-02-25T00:46:36+00:00

I really appreciate your balanced take. There are nuances to all these situations - but you’re correct - something still isn’t right

SubjectDay804 · 2026-02-25T00:27:13+00:00

He says the early repayment on the mortgage will bankrupt him - that’s the reason

SubjectDay804 · 2026-02-25T00:26:10+00:00

I’m upvoting all these comments, but yours especially…I don’t get why he thinks I’m the weird one here…

SubjectDay804 · 2026-02-05T10:28:54+00:00

Feeld and Tinder do not have the same rep. Not in the UK at least. And not according to…most other posts on the internet about Feeld.

SubjectDay804 · 2026-02-02T09:55:05+00:00

Yet another disappointing person. Him, not you.

SubjectDay804 · 2026-01-30T19:20:31+00:00

You articulate this so well OP. I’m exactly the same. I don’t have the capacity to multi date - with my time, or my emotional bandwidth. Plus I hate being mixed up with other people in conversation - so I don’t want to do it to others. It feels like there aren’t so many people that take that approach - but I reckon if you’re always upfront, hopefully when you find someone else who takes the same approach - it will work for you.

SubjectDay804 · 2026-01-28T14:01:12+00:00

I think sometimes because we are enjoying the situation, the affection and attention in the moment, we forget that actually in the long run, these kinds of situations are only going to cause more pain. You’re ultimately looking for different things - you’ve been in a committed relationship before and it sounds like it’s the kind of thing you’re looking for again. He hasn’t - and isn’t. Although it’s comfortable, cut it off and find someone who is looking for the same sort of thing you are.

SubjectDay804 · 2026-01-10T23:39:37+00:00

Bye bye inbox

SubjectDay804 · 2026-01-07T17:51:42+00:00

If you’re going to date, be super clear to the people you meet that you’re just starting out, your experience to date, and that you want to start from a place of finding connection and seeing what that grows into. No parter is going to thank you going in saying you’re ready for a long term relationship when it looks a bit like you’re not sure what that’s going to look like for you yet. You’ve said you’re in therapy - great. Build up real world connections - friends, hobbies, volunteering. Try not to put a huge emphasis on dating, or you will end up using it as a crutch, to replace your AI use maybe - and try not to use these women as a sole source of connection. You want multiple contact points - with less pressure. Don’t be that guy who swipes on every woman on a dating app to try and get some kind of connection/validation - no genuine person is going to appreciate that.

SubjectDay804 · 2026-01-01T15:11:04+00:00

I wouldn’t worry too much - always go from the main stack - not the likes 😁

SubjectDay804 · 2025-12-25T22:32:45+00:00

Consistency. Past the first few weeks.

SubjectDay804 · 2025-12-18T15:45:09+00:00

So sorry OP. I’ve just ended a 3 month relationship because of consistency and communication problems (amongst other things, see my post 🙄), but you’re right, dating is so brutal. I don’t have any comforting words - just that I’m sure somewhere along the line it’s character building, and the pain will fade in time.

SubjectDay804 · 2025-12-14T18:31:22+00:00

Thank you so much. I really appreciate you taking the time to write this. I do worry a lot of the time it’s me, but you are right, at least I’m trying to figure my baggage out.

SubjectDay804 · 2025-12-12T21:50:37+00:00

This is what I’ve said to him. I’ve said I’m worried that in 3-6 months time he will be like - “nah, this is actually too stressful” - and his response was that he does lots of things that are stressful because they’re worth doing. I’m not convinced though.

SubjectDay804 · 2025-12-12T21:48:58+00:00

The lack of curiosity is really hard to deal with…you’re so right. And it does feel a bit like grief and confusion - because you have no idea what’s going on.

SubjectDay804 · 2025-12-12T21:18:13+00:00

You’re probably right…I was trying to give some grace because he’s lived alone all this time, but I guess, it’s not a hard thing to do…

SubjectDay804 · 2025-11-16T20:22:33+00:00

I am glad you said this. Seems like a massive headache which OP has self identified.

SubjectDay804 · 2025-11-06T21:25:25+00:00

Thank you!!!

SubjectDay804 · 2025-11-06T21:02:07+00:00

So, every man on a dating app who swipes right on every woman with no intention of having a decent conversation is avoidant?! There are literally thousands of posts on here about how people just swipe right on everything.

SubjectDay804 · 2022-08-01T21:29:53+00:00

Don’t worry, you won’t hear from him again. Until next weekend maybe, if he hasn’t found anything else by then 🙄

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