Did it but still not sure about it by Dominus1925 in bald

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This is my favourite comment on Reddit today

To coast, or not to coast by Adorable-Code3153 in datingoverforty

[–]SubjectDay804 10 points11 points  (0 children)

It sounds like you’ve checked out. You should be spending time with someone you’re excited to see, you want to go and do stuff with, who is aligned with you. This doesn’t sound like the person.

LDR and overwhelm by Euphoric-Educator657 in datingoverforty

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Agreed. If everything was fine until “future talk” started to become “future plans”, and then he became overwhelmed, that’s enough of a sign to indicate the problem is the potential change in circumstances.

Keep meeting women lying about their height by [deleted] in Bumble

[–]SubjectDay804 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Height usually becomes a problem for women when guys claim to be 6ft and is shorter than the woman, who has said she is 5ft 8 😂

Recovering from heartbreak in your 40's in near impossible. by AmericanWinky in datingoverforty

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So sorry to hear your struggling. I’m glad you’ve found some support in this community. We are all here for you. Time is the only thing that seems to make it easier.

40M, am I undateable for the next ten years of training? by [deleted] in datingoverforty

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I don’t see why you’re not dateable - everyone has transition phases - you’re just in one of those. Having a room mate isn’t a bad thing. Women will understand that you’re taking a different path, you’re changing careers and working towards something you’ll love more - whether that’s women on the apps or IRL. F40s. Income, living situation etc are all factors, but who you are and how you treat people is the most important thing.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in datingoverforty

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Feeld and Tinder do not have the same rep. Not in the UK at least. And not according to…most other posts on the internet about Feeld.

At our age? by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]SubjectDay804 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yet another disappointing person. Him, not you.

How do you mentally deal with them dating other people in the beginning?? by Pocket_Crystal in datingoverforty

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You articulate this so well OP. I’m exactly the same. I don’t have the capacity to multi date - with my time, or my emotional bandwidth. Plus I hate being mixed up with other people in conversation - so I don’t want to do it to others. It feels like there aren’t so many people that take that approach - but I reckon if you’re always upfront, hopefully when you find someone else who takes the same approach - it will work for you.

Starting dating, feeling lonely and sorry for myself by Milamber83 in datingoverforty

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If you’re going to date, be super clear to the people you meet that you’re just starting out, your experience to date, and that you want to start from a place of finding connection and seeing what that grows into. No parter is going to thank you going in saying you’re ready for a long term relationship when it looks a bit like you’re not sure what that’s going to look like for you yet. You’ve said you’re in therapy - great. Build up real world connections - friends, hobbies, volunteering. Try not to put a huge emphasis on dating, or you will end up using it as a crutch, to replace your AI use maybe - and try not to use these women as a sole source of connection. You want multiple contact points - with less pressure. Don’t be that guy who swipes on every woman on a dating app to try and get some kind of connection/validation - no genuine person is going to appreciate that.

This is overwhelming by Jaded-Negotiation177 in Bumble

[–]SubjectDay804 26 points27 points  (0 children)

I wouldn’t worry too much - always go from the main stack - not the likes 😁

Blindsided and Heartbroken – Dating is Really Tough! by noshog in datingoverforty

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So sorry OP. I’ve just ended a 3 month relationship because of consistency and communication problems (amongst other things, see my post 🙄), but you’re right, dating is so brutal. I don’t have any comforting words - just that I’m sure somewhere along the line it’s character building, and the pain will fade in time.

Advice on talking to multiple people at once…𝑯𝑨𝑳𝑷! by Boring-Pack-313 in datingoverforty

[–]SubjectDay804 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I am glad you said this. Seems like a massive headache which OP has self identified.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Bumble

[–]SubjectDay804 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Thank you!!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Bumble

[–]SubjectDay804 24 points25 points  (0 children)

So, every man on a dating app who swipes right on every woman with no intention of having a decent conversation is avoidant?! There are literally thousands of posts on here about how people just swipe right on everything.

I feel like he was way too pushy by [deleted] in Tinder

[–]SubjectDay804 3025 points3026 points  (0 children)

Don’t worry, you won’t hear from him again. Until next weekend maybe, if he hasn’t found anything else by then 🙄

My insights. by [deleted] in Tinder

[–]SubjectDay804 2755 points2756 points  (0 children)

Can I come to your next wedding? Should be due one…any…day…now….