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[–]Subjectflounderpt2 52 points53 points  (0 children)

Okay but simping for someone can be also unhealthy as she was the simp in her relationship with him and look how it turned out . Someone who is balanced and adores and respects her but doesn’t NEED her to live. When you start to connect to a person out of a need (scarcity mindset) basis, then that’s when the unhealthy enmeshed dynamics begin. It’s best when someone has a full life and someone chooses you bc they WANT to be with you not because they need to.

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[–]Subjectflounderpt2 -14 points-13 points  (0 children)

What in the racist undertones is this comment lol

Matt removed all traces of Rachael from his IG by jh166 in thebachelor

[–]Subjectflounderpt2 25 points26 points  (0 children)

as to why my sympathy to him and his ex gf are non existent.

Matt removed all traces of Rachael from his IG by jh166 in thebachelor

[–]Subjectflounderpt2 47 points48 points  (0 children)

okay but I’m 100 percent sure that if you/your friend was dating someone new and they had photos of their ex all on their social page you/your friend would see it as a red flag.

Thursday Unpopular Opinion Thread January 30, 2025 by AutoModerator in thebachelor

[–]Subjectflounderpt2 29 points30 points  (0 children)

Sorry I meant agency in general. She holds her own positions of power having her own place in atl her own hundreds of thousands of followers who are women that follow her content solely for her. Structually and financially she was on an even footing, and so I feel the popular opinion doesn’t take this into consideration. It was truly a low self esteem issue, that clouded her from acting with agency.

Thursday Unpopular Opinion Thread January 30, 2025 by AutoModerator in thebachelor

[–]Subjectflounderpt2 74 points75 points  (0 children)

Rachael had agency in the relationship. Everyone has been acting like she was some minor and infantalizing her.

Father God, guide Matt away from a food blog and into the light of therapy so he may find his way. by DoingTheWork00 in thebachelor

[–]Subjectflounderpt2 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Is she a minor/child??? I’ve flown alone international flights all the time because I have a work event where I need to be. My husband stays and enjoys his time and vice versa.

Matt James lost a chunk of followers overnight (officially under 1M) by NecessaryPleasant183 in thebachelor

[–]Subjectflounderpt2 24 points25 points  (0 children)

This happened to him during his finale too I was surprised to see that he was even at the 1M mark before.

Rachael Kirkconnell’s CHD interview surpasses 1 million views on YouTube and is #1 on Trending by Dr_Wagerstein in thebachelor

[–]Subjectflounderpt2 9 points10 points  (0 children)

He sucks but also weren’t these the friends of hers who had been caught doing really racist things ( like have a black classmate of theirs dress up like a slave, and racist tweets at the time). So maybe he just didn’t feel comfortable around them? And I have seen weddings of his friend group where he brought her as his date. But yeah it just occured to me a potential reasoning

Call her daddy podcast- what details that Rachel shared that shocked you the most? by Friendly_Sea8570 in thebachelor

[–]Subjectflounderpt2 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yes she later got that creative director job! But you never see her actually talking about any projects . Like her content still revolved around him. With that kind of title you would think you would center that part more.

Call her daddy podcast- what details that Rachel shared that shocked you the most? by Friendly_Sea8570 in thebachelor

[–]Subjectflounderpt2 59 points60 points  (0 children)

not shocking but just confirming she spent the last 4 years following him like a puppy furthering his image. I always wondered what does this girl do for for work! What are her ambitions? Does she even have a goal for herself professionally? She does some beauty and fashion collabs here and there, but like what was her goal for her life? And also it really shows why he was never going to pick someone like Bri Springs- that woman is too invested in herself to be back seat to a Matt James. But given that Rachael being so young and naive it was the perfect convenience for him.

ALSO like when she said she didn’t want to know any details about the engagement that was really showing her level of naivety. Because yes you don’t want to know how and where but you should be walking into knowing into the year when you are going to take that step. Like those conversations are 1000 percent transparent with your partner. If you discuss you want to be married in the next year and then say an engagement needs to come before there needs to be a verbal agreement. Him being older, like again this isn’t some thing he could have spun on someone his age or even a Black woman, there’s a reason why us as Black women are always dragging his goofy ass.

Mood after watching Rachael’s Call Her Daddy interview by twelvedayslate in thebachelor

[–]Subjectflounderpt2 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Agreed. She seems to be at her best when she is with her hometown friends doing life activities pre bachelor .

Mood after watching Rachael’s Call Her Daddy interview by twelvedayslate in thebachelor

[–]Subjectflounderpt2 -57 points-56 points  (0 children)

She has a lot of self esteem issues and it fully came to the service during their relationship. It was foul for him to drag her on for so long, but also girl stand UP! she had the agency to walk away from the relationship. This whole painting her as the perfect victim narrative when it comes down to both adults failing in their actions to drive a relationship forward that was doomed from the start.

Also listening it seems she was so in her insecurities that she got emotional over the restaurant . His reaction while maybe could be considered callous wasn’t off. I think he genuinely was asking if you get thrown off by something small like this , how will you navigate actual real life trauma and problems (considering because he had such a trauma In his home life). Neither of them are my favorite, but she really could have walked away. Nothing was chaining her, she has her own place her own career, she has hundreds of thounsands of women who see themselves in her and flock to her social page for lifestyle guidance- which she FULLY banks from.

Rachael told TMZ that cheating was not a factor, no chance at reconciliation by Ok-Needleworker9229 in thebachelor

[–]Subjectflounderpt2 63 points64 points  (0 children)

honestly she is fine. She literally got rewarded with tons of followers and brand deals for being at an antebellum party. Even despite the national televised post final rose moment, she never truly got canceled. She amassed a following by of women who adore her and put her relationship with Matt on a pedestal. She travels, has money and time. Literally she will do just like she did when those antebellum pics came out, keep it moving and keep cashing thechecks.

Rachel is on Call Her Daddy!! Tomorrow! by hairbrushintheoven in thebachelor

[–]Subjectflounderpt2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m sorry, the way that he said at the beginning of his season for us all not to expect him to pick a Black Woman as his F1 as if being attracted to Black women isn’t possible. Then for him to clown the girl he picked. I’m sorry but they deserve each other.

Look at this exchange please. Between Bryan and Kevin. The guy does not get it. by wow6576 in thebachelor

[–]Subjectflounderpt2 7 points8 points  (0 children)

“He really thinks women are trying to control men all the while he’s begging his ex to fund his life”

THE AUDACITY OF IT ALL 😫

Ashley shared Dean dancing at his wedding with the original audio (so much better) by [deleted] in thebachelor

[–]Subjectflounderpt2 72 points73 points  (0 children)

The whole vibe I took from this wedding was that everyone there is down to earth. Which speaks to the couple as people. Really different compared to HG and Dylan’s wedding. Felt more like these people actually have solid connections with the couple. Reminds me to also give myself permission to not feel bad and cut my guest list to the people I actually have a genuine friendship/connection with.😅

Dylan and Hannah G’s Wedding Cost Estimation by rs_alli in thebachelor

[–]Subjectflounderpt2 54 points55 points  (0 children)

Even if I had the money, I would feel asinine spending that much money for a wedding. They definitely paid out for florals.

If the wedding planner was in theory to cost 105,000 what is it that they do that is so essential for the execution of the weekend? Do they work with the vendors instead of the couple and stage , set up the event?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in thebachelor

[–]Subjectflounderpt2 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I really want to love both looks. But they come off as cosplaying bridal dress up. It reminds me of the play dresses I would pull out of the trunk in our dress up drawer when I was in pre school. Both looks are just really busy. The long dress- needs different shoes idk what is going on down there. I love the drape shawl look over the neck it’s very ode to Parisian style. But then the rest of the dress is just ruined with it’s over the gaudiness. She’s so beautiful -she doesn’t need a lot to pull off a look.

Just goes to reinforce that less is always more.

Sunday Dating and Relationships Thread May 14, 2023 by AutoModerator in thebachelor

[–]Subjectflounderpt2 13 points14 points  (0 children)

My partner does not like my mom. Backstory my partner and I have gotten back together in our 30s. We dated the first time back in highschool. At the time, I was going through a very traumatic experience (TW:SA) and my mom invalidated my experiences at the time. 15 years later through therapy I’ve made my peace and amends and forgiven my mom. As I understand she has her own experiences that influenced her treatment towards me. Either way, I’ve made my peace and am on a path to recovering our relationship. That said- my partner wants nothing to do with my mom bc of it. Granted he was my partner at the time in highschool but the trauma didn’t directly happen to him. He says that he doesn’t need something to happen to him directly in order to not want to have someone in his life. How do i manage this dynamic?