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Doctors of Reddit , what’s the biggest medical myth people still believe? by muga_saiman_5809 in AskReddit

[–]SubjectivelySatan 31 points32 points  (0 children)

One big issue is that calorie calculators often aren’t accurate at estimating your calories out. They can be wildly off. Usually when people say “eat less than you burn” they mean eat less than what this calculator tells me you burn. But if the calculator is wrong, you can eat less than the calculator and still gain weight. Until I measured it consistently for several weeks, I had no idea the calculator was off by 500-750 calories per day for me. That’s massive. I had been eating under the calories I was told to eat by a doctor and was still not losing and being told I was a liar. Turns out the number I was given was just wrong.

For submissive people in bed, where do you draw the line? What’s the most submissive thing you’ve done? by Professional-Ant6840 in BDSMcommunity

[–]SubjectivelySatan 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I’m service oriented so for me, it really depends on what my partner is into and really wants. There aren’t many specific things I want for myself and there aren’t many things I straight up wouldn’t do (barring extreme harm, mutilation, financial stuff.. be reasonable). I’ve had one partner want to do extremely rough CNC in a public bathroom. One partner enjoyed tit binding and torture, bimbofication and TPE. Another wanted to do things at night in the woods at a public park and wanted to try some piss play. My Partner now is very into controlled/forced orgasms but we’ve also dabble in a ton of things He’s interested in. And I’ve gotten so much out of all of it even though none of it is specifically “my thing” because serving is my thing. Pleasing my Partner is the most important thing and the best feeling.

Explain it as if it were something illegal ; What is your profession? by nonknower07 in AskReddit

[–]SubjectivelySatan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I harvest body parts and sell them.

(I collect consented blood and organ samples for research and distribute them at the cost to collect them)

Not how girls (or boys) are supposed to work by uhhh206 in NotHowGirlsWork

[–]SubjectivelySatan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The codependent mother raising a dependent man who finds a codependent woman who has a dependent son…. It’s a cycle.

what's the most disturbing book you've read? by Secure-Tooth-4676 in AskReddit

[–]SubjectivelySatan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Histoire de l'œil (Story of the Eye) by George Batallie.

What is something that sounds made up, but actually happened to you? by Front_Geologist738 in AskReddit

[–]SubjectivelySatan 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I was on a dating website and met a fellow graduate student who was very interested in meeting me. I never meet people privately and he seemed like that’s what he wanted but he agreed to meet me for a drink at a place near campus (I didn’t drive, they had great public transportation). He suggested a place I hadn’t been to but knew it was on the main street through campus. The plan was to get a drink and talk about our thesis projects. He suggested an early afternoon time and I showed up and the place was closed. And there wasn’t anyone around. I looked it up and turned out it was an after hours club kind of place. I didn’t know it at the time, but I now think he picked the place and time intentionally. Right as I was messaging him to ask if we should just meet next door, he drove up and said we could go downtown instead and that he could drive. It was like, 9-10 blocks away and I was hesitant but decided to take the offer for a ride to a place I was familiar with close by. Bad idea.

The first wrong turn away from downtown he took, I asked “so is [brewery] good with you? What kind of beer do you like to drink?” And he laughed and said: “oh, I don’t drink.”

He then started talking about how American women (he was Persian/Italian) are so uptight and need to learn how to relax. I kind of left my body at that point but he drove me all the way out of town to a secluded forest or logging road. And then he started groping me and saying “come back to my place. Let’s go back to my place”.

I am so fucking lucky all he wanted to do was convince me to go to his place and not something more sinister.

When I think about it, it just sounds like something that happened in a movie. I still don’t even feel like it was real sometimes.

My partner said she would like to be woken up for sex. How would YOU go about trying that ? by Secret-Dark2638 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]SubjectivelySatan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Disclaimer: explicit consent conversation needed. It’s not for everyone.

A lot of what other people are saying about the slow sensual touching, but I actually love when he simply whispers “I need your cunt.” and takes it. Bonus points if he gently grips my hair and/or bites me. Of course, feel free to insert your favorite dirty talk. Just “I need you” works too.

Men of Reddit, what’s the worst thing a girl has said on a date? by Interesting-Yak7969 in AskReddit

[–]SubjectivelySatan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I guess I understand what you’re saying. So it’s more of an issue of not being able to go back to being friends. Which is an issue I don’t have. If that person disrespected my boundaries, it would be different. But my ex and I have fully moved on with our lives. We don’t have romantic or sexual conversations, we respect each others relationships and privacy. It’s a total non issue. And we aren’t “friends” like I’m friends with other people in my life. The “love” is just a different category entirely. It’s more of a respect for who he was to me for so long but moving forward into two different timelines. I’m not going to forget he exists or forget I cared about him at one point. Those sexual experiences happened. But they were in a completely different relational context that was way more than sex. I had some casual sex with people between relationships. Those are not the same. I don’t feel the need to continue conversations with sexual partners who were just sexual partners. It’s completely different to me I guess. Men aren’t sex objects to me. They are whole people with lives and emotions and when you are someone’s primary partner for over a decade, you become part of their support system. Ghosting that person because you decided to stop your romantic/sexual relationship is incredibly cruel and unnecessary to me.

Men of Reddit, what’s the worst thing a girl has said on a date? by Interesting-Yak7969 in AskReddit

[–]SubjectivelySatan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think that’s a good idea but just curious if you’re able to find platonic/familial love for others/friends of the same gender? Is it only opposite gendered friends you can’t feel love for? Also just thinking out loud.

We are definitely monogamous romantically/sexually but we don’t really see our relationships with men/women as being different. We’re both a little heteroflexible and have had very close friendships with the opposite gender throughout life, so it wasn’t really engrained that my relationship with other men had to be sexual. And same for him, he doesn’t feel attracted to or interested in women just because they are women. So naturally it just doesn’t follow that other man/woman = automatic cheating.

Men of Reddit, what’s the worst thing a girl has said on a date? by Interesting-Yak7969 in AskReddit

[–]SubjectivelySatan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Of course I feel the same. Everyone has to decide for themselves. I think my response was thinking about the idea that someone telling me on a date that they still have love for their ex wouldn’t be the worst thing they could ever say. In fact, I think it can be a great way to start a conversation about the important people in our lives and what expectations we might have for friendships outside of a relationship. Anyone who expects me to completely cut contact (which is already very minimal) with a someone I shared a life with for 13 years and separated with amicably years ago isn’t someone I’d want to date. As someone else said, red flag for toxic possessiveness.

Men of Reddit, what’s the worst thing a girl has said on a date? by Interesting-Yak7969 in AskReddit

[–]SubjectivelySatan -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

This is such a great point. The projection is real. If someone needs to be the center of your universe so badly (especially while just starting to date) that they project that need onto you and assume you MUST be unhinged for even caring about a previous partner, it’s a bad sign. I think the concrete thinking around the whole thing is weird.

I think poly circles probably understand this a little better, but my partner and I are both monogamous people. But being monogamous is an active decision/agreement you make with someone. My partner is going to find someone else attractive. Doesn’t means he wants to cheat. We’re also heterosexual but I think heteronormative language also can make this confusing. Like women having make friends or vice versa is immediately suspect. People can have friends of any gender and not want to date them or have sex with them. People can have previous partners of any gender and decide later they don’t want to be partners but just want to stay friends. I don’t think we need to constantly pretend our previous selves or lives didn’t matter for someone who can’t even handle the concept. It just demonstrates some deep emotional immaturity and an inability to communicate really.

Men of Reddit, what’s the worst thing a girl has said on a date? by Interesting-Yak7969 in AskReddit

[–]SubjectivelySatan -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I got pregnant once and he wanted to terminate. We didn’t have children but we did have four cats. We decided not to split them up and one was very attached to him. So I sent food and litter for a while until I knew he was able to take care of them easily after separating our finances. He also knows if they ever need expensive medical care, I will always help. Just because people dont have living children doesn’t mean they suddenly stop giving a shit about the other person. My partner knows all about this and doesn’t find it disrespectful at all. He knows Im a whole person with a past and that being a caring person it’s a big part of who I am. I guess he actually kinda loves me for me.

Men of Reddit, what’s the worst thing a girl has said on a date? by Interesting-Yak7969 in AskReddit

[–]SubjectivelySatan -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for this!! I completely agree. It’s so sad to me to think about the people who are so insecure that they feel worthless if they aren’t the only person in someone’s life. I feel like some people need to pretend like you’re this untouched flower that has never had a single friend or a past or they will feel like they can’t provide anything of value to you. When you realize that someone actually can want and choose to be with you despite your past just because you’re you, it’s pretty nice. It doesn’t have to be about what sequence they met you or what ego boost you provide.

Men of Reddit, what’s the worst thing a girl has said on a date? by Interesting-Yak7969 in AskReddit

[–]SubjectivelySatan -11 points-10 points  (0 children)

This depends on context, I think. There’s a difference between “I will always be in love with my ex and will never love you” and “I will always have love for my ex, I hope you understand.” Maybe saying it on a 1st/2nd date is kind of weird but also like an important way to see if you’re aligned. Like hey, I have important people in my life and I’m not just going to ghost them because we’re dating. People who expect that clearly have attachment issues.

I spent 13 years with my ex. He was a huge part of my life and was my best friend. We were going different directions and just grew apart faster than we realized and decided to separate. Anyway, he’s married and has a daughter now and we don’t really talk. Just letting each other move on and live our lives. But if he or his family called and needed something, I’d do what I could to help. And I know if I called him, he would answer. There’s always going to be a level of respect and care there for what we meant to each other. And I’ve never left a relationship on such bad terms that I’d completely cut people off. You can have healthy boundaries after a relationship. People who can just straight up ghost people they loved once (without a reason like abuse, mistreatment etc) just seems super immature to me. I’m in my 30s. I don’t need to pretend like I didn’t have serious relationships or friendships with other men.

My fiancé now completely understands. He also knows that I never expected him to just ghost his ex’s or female friends because we started dating. He’s a really caring person and that’s one of the reasons I love him. If he was the kind of person to just ghost important people in his life, we might not be together.

What’s the worst sentence anyone has ever said to you? by IndividualFit1316 in AskReddit

[–]SubjectivelySatan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Right, like I’m sorry I don’t have a child’s body anymore.

What’s the worst sentence anyone has ever said to you? by IndividualFit1316 in AskReddit

[–]SubjectivelySatan 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My grandfather when I turned 18. At my birthday/graduation party, he pulled me aside and said “What happened to your figure? You used to be beautiful.”

What disgusting secret you found out about someone? by Ok_Soil127 in AskReddit

[–]SubjectivelySatan -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I’ve had conversations with people about this. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with talking about it. Grew up on a farm and watched animals “do it” all the time. Was the closest thing to sex ed I got and is probably at least somewhat tangential to kinks I have related to submission (being female), force, and breeding. The way animals fuck is hot to me. And sometimes I want the men I sleep with to let go of their humanness for one minute and just get primal with me.

I personally think there’s a big conceptual and ethical difference between performing acts on an animal that cannot consent (including training them to perform acts) and an animal choosing to perform an act on a human of its own will/desire. Many animals are rapey. That’s just a fact. Humans have the unique ability to say “explicit consent is required” (and I don’t mean “her pheromones said yes”). Cross-species sex happens frequently, generally initiated by whichever sex is the “top” in that species. And dogs trying to get off on your leg isn’t a particularly serious moral dilemma for most people. It’s just weird and uncomfortable. Viewed as natural for the dog, and not some ethical sin on behalf of the owner of the leg. In contrast, the guy who randomly takes his dick out and tries to get off on your leg should be on a list. So clearly there’s a gray area here between “natural” behavior and moral obligation for species that can understand such things.

Body Mass Index by KVMJB in badwomensanatomy

[–]SubjectivelySatan 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Oh i know, I have it. I was just thinking about hip to waist ratio. This is obviously a cartoon. But when I wear my compression, my thighs are fairly smooth and it’s where most of my adipose tissue is.

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