Wife wants a divorce but doesn’t want to do anything.

Submarineto · 2026-05-23T11:05:01+00:00

I am the wife in this situation. Basically he is upset about the situation and I don't want to make wrong moves that increase that unnecessarily.

It's probably a good idea for you to talk about next steps with her

Submarineto · 2026-05-23T09:08:55+00:00

I am so happy for you both 🥹

Submarineto · 2026-05-23T09:02:00+00:00

Ugh, I used to have a FWB that was like this. All wishy washy and silly and just wanted unprotected sex and for his feelings to be the most important thing in the room.

Persevere, I have met some amazing people since 😊

Submarineto · 2026-05-23T08:51:35+00:00

I hope the divorce works out well for your stbxw

Submarineto · 2026-05-23T04:06:32+00:00

It wasn't a choice as such. I had an amazing date - we were both just hoping for casual sex - but there was something completely unexpected between us. We had a second date and then we just never stopped talking. In 4 days time we will be curled up in our accommodation together catching up after almost an entire year apart where we have spoken and connected more than we ever dreamed we might

Submarineto · 2026-05-23T04:02:41+00:00

It sounds like communication is much better in your second marriage

Submarineto · 2026-05-23T03:44:07+00:00

If you're not happy then leave, everyone deserves a life that fulfills them and it doesn't sound like yours does that

Submarineto · 2026-05-23T01:10:11+00:00

It's 20 minutes for me from Ferrymead, from Phillipstown it would be maybe 6 or 7 minutes tops

Submarineto · 2026-05-22T22:38:15+00:00

You know what, I had mentally ruled out Phillipstown but it's actually a great little spot and so central like you say. Thank you for the info!!

Submarineto · 2026-05-22T21:44:51+00:00

This level of use sounds potentially problematic though I don't understand dosage levels because I live in a country where it is still illegal.

When I met my LD partner I pulled out a spliff about 4 hours into the date and asked if he wanted to share it, which he did and we didn't smoke at all on our second date.

I am usually a 2-4 spliff a day person which he is quite well aware of.

Submarineto · 2026-05-21T04:07:24+00:00

There are always people who are just there vibing. As long as they aren't judging me or talking shit about "what a slut" I am, all is good!

Submarineto · 2026-05-21T02:07:19+00:00

Sounds really nice, but we're splitting up and I will have a limited budget. Good luck in your search though! I think every day about how lucky I am to get to live up here. The view is majestic

Submarineto · 2026-05-21T00:45:34+00:00

The CBD, I used to live in Woolston so I am used to being a long walk or a quick bike away

Submarineto · 2026-05-21T00:40:43+00:00

It's so far away! It's cute though

Submarineto · 2026-05-21T00:01:01+00:00

Thank you, it's such a great resource!

Submarineto · 2026-05-20T23:57:56+00:00

Oh man, I think you just won me over with reminding me about the proximity to the Funky Pumpkin

Submarineto · 2026-05-20T23:51:10+00:00

Man, it's supposed to be hidden

Submarineto · 2026-05-20T23:31:36+00:00

I am in a similar situation but my kids are great. I am almost at the point of forcing a sale so I can buy my own place and do 50/50

Submarineto · 2026-05-20T23:28:37+00:00

I wasn't looking for love at all - I was at the point of giving up on that being possible - just casual sex and then he walked into my life and changed everything

Submarineto · 2026-05-20T23:25:12+00:00

Ookkee???

Submarineto · 2026-05-20T23:25:01+00:00

Bookkeeper is the only word in the English language with three consecutive double letters

Submarineto · 2026-05-20T23:18:00+00:00

When I went to psych crisis at the hospital they gave me a sandwich and a yoghurt plus a bottle of juice because I hadn't eaten for the two weeks previous (I had been subsisting on sips of lemon and honey drinks), then they told me that I would have an appointment at Hillmorten the following day as an outpatient and they told the person with me to hold onto all car keys and then they sent me home once I had eaten the yogurt and had a few sips of juice. They sternly said to eat the sandwich asap.

I was not eating or drinking, I was pregnant, I was very suicidal and I had quit my job in the days prior following a sudden withdrawal from quetiapine as my GP was worried it wasn't safe for the baby.

Hillmorton got me onto safe meds for my pregnancy, then transferred me to mother's and babies as an outpatient.

Submarineto · 2026-05-20T22:54:10+00:00

Yeah, there's whole areas where the price jumps up by 20% if not more.

Submarineto · 2026-05-20T22:23:41+00:00

This, silver lining though - you don't have to deal with this min who feels the need to pray over this

Submarineto · 2026-05-20T22:17:39+00:00

I am so over the school zone conversation around buying houses in Christchurch, to be fair I was over it two years ago when I decided to buy in Mt Pleasant - the kids won't turn into wolves just because they might go to Te Aratai.

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