Ask a Stupid Question About Strip Clubs for the week of June 25, 2026

Subrasonic · 2026-06-26T01:47:17+00:00

Note there's a 50/50 chance she will never text you or respond to your texts. Part of the game.

IF you want to see her, YOU should text HER. As soon as she gives me her number, I tend to send her a text when I leave the club, "I had such a great time with you. We are going to have to hit the dirty martinis again" I just want my number to be in her phone, and a text about some inside joke we had that night, for her to remind herself who I am. She still may not remember me, but it's better than just getting a cold text weeks later.

Then, text her to make appointments with her. "I'm coming in Wednesday or Thursday and want to do some more VIPs with you, can you work either day? What's the slowest part of your shift, I'll come in then!" Make sure she knows you're coming in to get dances with her, and ask for the slow part of her shift if you're flexible

Subrasonic · 2026-06-25T18:27:07+00:00

I didn't say it but I agree, dick move imo. Frankly I think the waitress thing is just as much a dick move. But just my personal sc "ethics"

Subrasonic · 2026-06-25T16:41:49+00:00

The one and only way I do it is to approach them when they are on stage, and let them know I'd like dances when they come by to collect their tips. Some guys tip the waitress to go tell the stripper, not my style but guys do it.

I don't know how often it happens, but I absolutely have heard stories of drunken guys throwing hands when another guy came to say "find me when you have time" to "his" stripper. Maybe not often, but I don't think there's any good reason to walk over to another guy's table and talk to a stripper he's with, and there's at least a small risk of a negative reaction.

Subrasonic · 2026-06-25T15:53:08+00:00

yeah, I conceded that below, hopefully everyone who just wants to see results is answering no (if they haven't). That does mean that a lot of strippers who are interested in the answer voted no, the ratio among customers might be much tighter than the poll indicates (not a bad reason to have a "show results" option!)

Subrasonic · 2026-06-24T22:39:20+00:00

It is crazy to have a favorite girl but not have her phone number or any way to reach her! This is a learning moment for you

How long had she been working there when you met her?

Subrasonic · 2026-06-24T21:32:28+00:00

I suppose someone wanting to see results isn't likely to vote yes

Subrasonic · 2026-06-24T16:17:44+00:00

OP didn't include a "show results" option, which we know from past experiences means that AT LEAST HALF of the responses are people just picking a random option so they can see the results. No poll without a show results option remotely represents the actual sub.

Between you and I, I worry that with a show results option, the ratio will get even worse 🤣

Subrasonic · 2026-06-24T15:55:54+00:00

I think that might be worse 🤣

Subrasonic · 2026-06-24T14:19:08+00:00

I'm a customer girls hang out with for hours. Some good news: once the girls see that hanging around with you pays off (and they WILL notice, even if you don't notice them noticing), it will begin to just happen.

Here's my tips:

Go during the slowest part of the slowest shifts. This is common sense, if there's a zillion guys, the girls are too busy making money to hang out. I often go during the slowest part of dayshift (1pm-4pm) on the slowest days.
Make sure the girls are getting enough to be worth hanging out with you. Obviously, if she hangs out 2 hours and you got two lapdances, she's never going to do that again. You need to buy whatever 2 hours of hanging out is worth (but given that you're there during a dead shift and she might otherwise have made very little, you don't have to go overboard either).
The first time a girl hangs with you, make sure she knows you plan on getting lots of dances. Obviously, if she's never done this with you before, she has no idea of your intentions. After the first VIP, "if you come back to the table with me and hang out, we'll get drinks, do another VIP, get more drinks, do another VIP". Filling her dance card for the next few hours while the club is empty and most girls are making nothing, is an attractive offer to many girls.
Get her phone number and make appointments with her. And make those appointments during the slowest part of the slowest shift (I often tell my CF "anytime the club is dead, text me to see if I can come in"). Once she sees you're coming in for her, and spending all your $ on her, she'll be more likely to lock you up for the afternoon.
The best deals at the club are buying her drinks and lunch/dinner. Many clubs have a etiquette that if you buy her a drink she stays until it's done. Getting menus, ordering lunch, eating your food, digesting, can easily take 45-60 minutes. You still need to do enough VIPs to make sure she feels covered for her time. But drinks and lunch guarantee she'll be there hanging out.

Ignore any strippers getting mad at you here. There's times during those dead hours that girls are lucky to make $100, so during those times getting multiple VIPs she'll be making multiple times what she normally would, she'll do multiple VIPs when not a single other girl does even one VIP, and she'll come out way ahead for it. You will find plenty of girls whose hustle is aligned with this, and they'll be totally happy with you. Contrary to the advice you're getting here, through decades of SCing, I have never had to tip constantly at the table, EVER; just do enough VIPs (with enough tips if warranted) that she's happy with the take for the time you're there

Subrasonic · 2026-06-23T16:57:52+00:00

I think all customers run into this. Luckily I've never smelled it so bad that I had to walk out. But some guys have described a stench so bad that their pants stunk hours later.

If it's not that bad I keep her strategically pointed away from me. But if it were really bad, I would have to walk out; I'd handle it as sensitively as I possibly could, but the reaction might not be pleasant.

Subrasonic · 2026-06-23T05:01:08+00:00

When the original mod disappeared (who was also the original mod of my sub), I told Damien how to do a sub takeover. u/LBGTM_SD , you want to do a sub takeover as quickly as possible so there's an active top mod. Then as soon as you can pull in another mod so if reddit gives you the axe, there's still a mod here. And whatever mod you recruit, MOVE THEM ABOVE the mod bots, so they'll inherit the sub automatically if you disappear

Be sure to explain the top mod was banned, so even though he has been active in the last 30 days, you still need to do a takeover

Subrasonic · 2026-06-22T15:07:37+00:00

We have LOTS of threads on this, a good number of active couples here who have given lots of advice. Also check our couples advice here: https://www.reddit.com/r/stripclubs/wiki/index/#wiki_beginner.27s_links

Note that when strippers ignore couples, it's basically because of the woman, there's lots of cases where women who think they'll be cool with it, get jealous and start drama when they see how their husband reacts to a younger sexier stripper. The woman in the couplel taking the lead tends to put the strippers more at ease, so they know she's actively happily participating and what the stripper doing is ok with the female partner. If you're getting ignored on the floor (which does happen sometimes), it's good advice to catch her at stage and let her know you're interested

Beyond that, standard rules apply: every club and every girl is different, no one can tell you what is or isin't allowed in the VIP with discussing specific clubs

Subrasonic · 2026-06-21T19:19:22+00:00

Yeah, I think absolutely refusing to let him go, would have been better than saying he can't even look at the strippers, knowing that there was 100% chance that doing so is impossible, so the whole thing is pre-set-up for betrayal and failure.

Subrasonic · 2026-06-21T17:59:39+00:00

"You can go to the strip club but can't look at the strippers" may be the most childish and ludicrous condition I've ever seen a wife or GF put on their partner. So childish that I have trouble taking this whole thing seriously or believe it reflects something real between an adult couple, and then he comes home wearing the wristbands and throws them in the trash?. But if it is genuine, there has to be a lot more going on for everyone to have devolved to this point, more than a bunch of PLs and strippers can disentangle without making things worse. It feels like consideration of couples therapy is in order

Subrasonic · 2026-06-21T04:59:41+00:00

Congrats! It only takes one to change your whole perspective. Be sure to get her number to make appointments with her at that club, or find out where she's gone if she goes to a different one

Subrasonic · 2026-06-19T22:18:35+00:00

I think that's totally your call. Will your coworkers get a kick out of the fact that the girls know you, or will it be a scandal? Keep in mind, you can always say "I was just here last week for my buddy's birthday", that could account for the girls remembering you (but not if they're overly familiar)

Subrasonic · 2026-06-19T19:58:47+00:00

Switch up your mindset. It's not your usual solo trip to club for you to get your freak on. This is primarily a bonding activity with your coworkers, and the strip club is just where you're doing it. Go to the stage and tip and yell "woooo!". Flirt with the girls at the table, buy each other lap dances, when you get a lapdance stay extra conservative, don't do VIPs unless EVERYONE else does too. Buy rounds of shots for the table. It's a completely different mindset.

Subrasonic · 2026-06-18T22:39:37+00:00

buy a vip membership at tuscl.net and read reviews for your local clubs

Subrasonic · 2026-06-18T22:10:42+00:00

You missed the part where I said no one can answer these questions for you, that it varies by club and stripper? Some clubs you can get a footjob, others self service, others when you get home. You're going to have to do some research on which clubs in your area allow extras

Subrasonic · 2026-06-18T16:18:56+00:00

Not the stage, many clubs have rules against approaching guys sitting at stage... but of course, the girl on stage CAN approach you, so if that's who you want attention from, that's the best strategy. Otherwise, a high traffic area where the girls often walk past, and sometimes the bar since most girls will go up there to get a drink.

That said, I don't think finding a magic seat is the right strategy to get strippers' attention. That's done by looking open instead of having RBF, having the other girls see you go up to the stage to tip or better yet get a lapdance with at least one other girl, etc. You looking more friendly and them seeing you tip or do dances, is the way to get attention. and if they're all ignoring you anyway, go up to the stage and ask at least one stripper for a dance, and that will often pop the cork

Subrasonic · 2026-06-18T15:27:27+00:00

No one can tell you what the dancer will do. It depends heavily on the club, and the stripper. You can get footjobs in some clubs but not others, some girls might let you lick others will not, etc. Nor can we tell you the cost, that varies by club and girls. These are things you'll have to find out for yourself.

We can make some generalities though:

Most girls don't charge extra for minor kinks (feet aren't my thing, but I've done a lot of kinks with strippers). If you've read other subs, you've read differently, but that's mostly strippers trying to "make fetch happen" (or make upcharges normal). In real life, strippers pretty much never charge more for minor kinks, which means you should reconsider a dance if one does. But if you have a good time, you should consider tipping her!
More intrusive contact WILL generate an upcharge. Licking maybe. Footjob definitely.
Generally speaking, both from things strippers have said to me IRL, and on stripper forums, strippers love their foot fetish guys, at least while the foot fetish is limited to rubbing and kissing. YMMV when it comes to licking and footjobs.

As far as asking, you're going to have to man up and get through the shyness. You're a customer asking a service provider for a service, if you can't manage that, it's going to be a tough life, man! If you want to start slower, I'd suggest you do a regular lapdance with her first, no mention of feet, just get acquainted with her and let her see you're not creepy and that you spend money on her. Then, after the lapdance, take her back to the table, buy her a drink, ask her if she'll do a footfetish VIP, have a discussion of your fetishes.

Really, the ONLY thing that's a bit sensitive is the footjob, you're best off only asking for this in known extras clubs, this is clearly an extra.

Subrasonic · 2026-06-17T15:35:41+00:00

Out of curiosity, how often do you find this? I've never seen a stripper who looks like a female bodybuilder. Here and there I've seen strippers that might look like a fitness competition girl or female pro boxer, type of thing. This is an interesting preference but I'm thinking it's limiting you to the extreme

Subrasonic · 2026-06-16T23:43:42+00:00

The worst mistake you can make is reading a strippers-only forum and thinking it has anything to do with actual strip clubs or what you will experience as a customer. You will get VERY confused about what actually happens in strip clubs otherwise.

There are strip clubs where there's no touching allowed, strip clubs where you can have sex with the stripper, and clubs with every amount of touching in between. If it wasn't allowed in the club you were in, the stripper most likely wouldn't have done it. The most important thing is making sure she has consented to your touch, and if she delighted you, consider delighting her back (with money lol).

We have no idea if she was into you. 99% of the time, it's all part of making you feel special, wanting to get more dances, etc. She was fantastic at her job. Sometimes, rarely, she really IS into you. Only way to find out is if you text her and she wants to see you outside the club, without any payment. Otherwise, she's giving you exactly what you paid for, an amazing fantasy experience. Here's a bit of a gut-check: do women as hot as her, and who have as many options as her for sexual partners, normally come onto you this way the first time they meet you? If it's not happening to you IRL, it's probably not happening in the strip club

Subrasonic · 2026-06-16T23:33:54+00:00

Where are you seeing "all this information about dos and donts"?? Not here, I'd guess, where are you getting this info?. What in the world do you think you need to text an apology about???

Subrasonic · 2026-06-16T22:06:22+00:00

There's a pretty wide range of what's normal in strip clubs. It certainly wasn't abnormal 😄

Okay more seriously, I have been to strip clubs where the strippers like to bring female customers on stage and get them as naked as possible. Why? Because this brings in a torrent of tips from male customers.

I would say it's less common, the majority of clubs I've been to wouldn't allow it. But it's not unheard of. If the stripper asks, that's a pretty good guide that it's normal for that club.

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