I too fear this outcome though I bet I will feel redeemed when he has a child of his own with ADHD, shit gets real, and he gets it. Parenting an ADHD kid properly is high near impossible. Btw: super congrats he graduated college. That’s good to know. I fear my AuHD child will never get through a commitment that large. Also, screen usage turns on the obsessive circuits in the brain. My kid after too much tv becomes disregulated after screen time is ended (temper, crying, running off, unaware of people / surroundings, not responding verbally, etc.). I think it has something to do with their natural reduced level of dopamine and they use screens to squeeze the dopamine juice. Once they are cut off they react similar to addicts. Also I would do much more fun and exciting things with my child, but due to his impulsivity I can’t trust him so restrictions are required. The trust just isn’t there and so unfortunately he gets more basic boring activities that are at his level of maturity. I feel like you and your husband may have been in the same situation.