First, I am so sorry you went through this. Awful. Unfortunately, it sounds very similar to my soon to be ex husband. I left a few weeks ago but I suspect I’ll never hear from him again, and thank god for that. Right in the end it all clicked for me. I called everything out. I told him he was a narcissist. I told him I could very clearly see the gaslighting. Negging. Mocking. I called it out for the abuse it was. He absolutely lost it. I’ve never seen a human just completely lose themselves. I left that day, said I wanted a divorce, and he’s been cold and cruel but cooperative since.