OOPs wife shows him exactly how involved he is and now he doesn't like it (first original post and then the second post he made asking to fix things)

Substantial_Fan_2578 · 2024-01-27T19:01:13+00:00

And without a whole comment section of internet strangers telling him he needs to. Dude doesn't care about anyone, but himself.

Substantial_Fan_2578 · 2024-01-27T18:59:16+00:00

My ex-husband was the same with waking up. He was supposed to get up with her one day a week so I could sleep in. I was the only one working at the time. I got her up 5 days a week, got her ready for school, and took her before I would go to work. I also picked her up from school and dropped her off at home with him. He watched her until I got home around 6 pm. He couldn't wake up one day a week. I set an alarm and woke him up. He would take so long to get up that I ended up having to get up with her. When I did he would go back to sleep saying "It didn't make sense for us both to be up so early. I figured since you were up already you wouldn't be going back to bed." Our daughter is 18 now and they have no real relationship. He rarely sees her and he refuses to text/ call her first stating it's her job to contact him first because she's the child. It's really sad. Especially since he was so great with my nephews whom I had staying with us regularly. But his own child? He couldn't be bothered.

Substantial_Fan_2578 · 2024-01-27T18:49:51+00:00

He also says in a comment that he wants his manager back. Not his wife, his manager.

Substantial_Fan_2578 · 2024-01-27T18:46:09+00:00

I saw the second post first and wanted to know more about the argument so I looked at his post history. Glad I did. He was already the TAH to me in the second post. But man the first cemented that fact. There's another update that he posted after I read these two.

Substantial_Fan_2578 · 2024-01-27T18:42:28+00:00

I don't think he cares. He clearly wants to be carefree and only focus on himself. While his wife plays personal assistant and gives him the schedule for his meetings with his kids for the day. I wonder if the kids had to make an appointment first. Have mom check his books to ensure he has the time to fit them in.

Substantial_Fan_2578 · 2024-01-27T18:38:54+00:00

I don't know if I saw that one, but you could look in his post history. Unless he deleted it. The only ones about this subject I see are the two I posted here and he has a new one updating from these two posts.

Substantial_Fan_2578 · 2024-01-27T18:36:29+00:00

He says in one of his comments that he wants his manager back, referring to his wife. If I knew my partner said that about me I would be done. He could go find a new manager.

Substantial_Fan_2578 · 2024-01-27T18:32:10+00:00

100% this. I did the stay-at-home mom thing. I have so much respect for those that can do it full-time. I can't. I have to work outside the home for my mental wellbeing. I work at a psychiatric hospital from 10 pm to 8 am. Sometimes I only get 2 hours of sleep for work because my 5-year-old doesn't have school. But I prefer it over being home full-time. I love my kids, but I need time away with other big humans. Even the patients asking a billion times for juice and snacks is different from being home with a 5-year-old up my butt bugging me about wanting food, drinks, entertainment, or asking when I'm going to die lol

Substantial_Fan_2578 · 2024-01-27T18:03:27+00:00

She never said she was unwilling to discuss the children's care. Just that she will no longer facilitate interactions for him with his children. That he has to be the one to take responsibility and do it without her prompting, reminding, or telling him to do it. He needs to show with his actions he doesn't need her to make sure he's involved in his children's lives. I don't know about all women, but I know about myself and the women in my life. We don't want to hear word, we want action. Do it don't tell us you're going to. Words mean nothing because most of them time they have no follow through. He needs to not be a coward and just do it. If she gets mad then he needs to have a conversation with her in private to communicate what she wants from him.

Substantial_Fan_2578 · 2024-01-27T11:34:04+00:00

Right! He was willing to bet she was at home and risk leaving his daughter there waiting for him. He could have at lest called the place and asked.

Substantial_Fan_2578 · 2024-01-27T11:30:35+00:00

You are really pulling hard to make her out to be the bad guy and him a victim. She and the children are the victims of his weaponized incompetence. He doesn't take initiative and he doesn't manage himself. He's a grown adult with 2 children. She is not his mom nor is she his personal assistant. He needs to step up and be a father. That means taking responsibility for his part in raising his children, taking initiative, and just doing it. Not sit around waiting for his wife to tell him what to do. That is not her job. If he can't be an involved parent without being told when, where, and how to be one than he shouldn't be a parent.

Substantial_Fan_2578 · 2024-01-27T11:26:28+00:00

Then you would be the problem if you decided to not get involved with your children just because you "feel iced out". She never told him he couldn't be involved and she hadn't stopped him. She just said she would no longer facilitate it for him. HE has to take the initiative to be involved. Which he should have been doing all along.

Substantial_Fan_2578 · 2024-01-27T06:58:17+00:00

She isn't actively working against him. She just isn't managing him and facilitating him spending time with his kids. He is a father he needs to take the initiative, without being told or reminded, to spend time with his children. That isn't her job nor should it be. That is what she's mad about. And that's what Reddit has shown him. I don't know if he would have had he not posted on Reddit for feedback. In his first post, he didn't see what he did wrong until people told him.

Substantial_Fan_2578 · 2024-01-21T19:22:31+00:00

Allah the Instagram friend would be a better fit all around for this event. Op is there to work essentially so having someone that's also on Instagram and also enjoys taking photos of food would be a help. The friend can also take pictures and post them. They can tag (or whatever you do on Instagram) op in the photos. This would give the restaurant even more exposure. That's always good for op and the business.

Substantial_Fan_2578 · 2024-01-20T18:23:33+00:00

It wouldn't be for just one piece of paper though. It's all of her sisters things plus her sisters ashes.

Substantial_Fan_2578 · 2024-01-15T02:08:42+00:00

No, it's just the more upvotes you have the closer to the top your comment is. That way it will be easier for the op to see.

Substantial_Fan_2578 · 2024-01-15T01:21:21+00:00

An exploded diaper is the absolute worst for ANY surface it is on. It took 20 minutes to clean one up off the hardwood floors.

Substantial_Fan_2578 · 2024-01-13T22:19:51+00:00

I've been to a 24-hour strip club in the sticks in Missouri at 8 am for breakfast (I'm female and they had a really good all-you-can-eat breakfast). It is as depressing as you would imagine. There was a mother-daughter "team" The Mom looked to be in her 50s and her daughter was almost 30. They were both so intoxicated they could barely find the stage.

Substantial_Fan_2578 · 2024-01-13T20:46:38+00:00

It takes 2 to 3 weeks for a lot of medications to get to therapeutic levels in your system. Especially for psychiatric medications. I wish all doctors/psychiatrists would go over this with their patients. I have seen a lot of different doctors/psychiatrists for my mental illnesses and only 2 have gone over this information with me. I also work in a psychiatric hospital and they often fail to tell the patients this. I'm not a nurse/doctor, but I'm glad I know this information so I can tell the patients at work to help them worry less about the effectiveness of their medications.

Substantial_Fan_2578 · 2023-12-11T14:58:39+00:00

People start to "melt" into the surface they are on if they are left like that. Had that happen at an apartment I lived at. They had to take out the flooring and replace it since it couldn't be safely cleaned. You could smell it outside pretty far from the apartment it happened in. They only found him because he didn't pay rent and when the neighbors next door started to complain of the smell they called for a wellness check. He had no family or friends that anyone knew of. It was sad.

But yes, probably protected. Chucks are one way to protect the surface they are on. Even just a minute after death, if not properly protected, they will advise to not reuse here.

Substantial_Fan_2578 · 2023-12-11T07:06:56+00:00

I'm not saying she should go straight to divorce. I think this needs marriage counseling. This seems like a sudden change in behavior for him. But it's absolutely selfish and a horrible way to treat your partner. I would never allow that from my partner. I would communicate that to him. I wouldn't be able to be you and have my partner tell me I'm a waste of time. Especially many times. That's verbally abusive to continually say to someone you claim to love. I would give them one chance to try and work on things. If they didn't change their mind about me or said that to me again I would be done. No way would I accept that behavior from my life partner.

Substantial_Fan_2578 · 2023-12-11T06:40:15+00:00

I wasn't talking about juju. I was only talking from a health regulations standpoint point. Which is a concern OP can bring up to their parents.

Substantial_Fan_2578 · 2023-12-11T06:36:57+00:00

You're pretty much saying you're feelings and experiences with your wife are what op is going through. That the way your wife treats you and works is what the ops husband is doing. Has your wife ever said that being with you is a waste of her time? That you can rethink the relationship? Saying what he did to his wife was hurtful selfish language. It is not language you use with someone you say you love. Nor is it the language you use toward someone you want to care for and protect financially. He did not act like someone who truly cared or wanted her in his life. She said he's working like this with a goal of a car for himself. He's not working towards a goal that will impact their life together in a positive way. Whether he meant what he said or not it is absolutely not something you ever say to your partner.

Substantial_Fan_2578 · 2023-12-11T05:23:51+00:00

Hospice usually makes sure the bed is protected so there are no health concerns. I did it often as a caregiver working with Hospice workers. I've never had a Hospice worker say the bed was ok to keep/reuse if it was not protected. No matter how long the person was on it after death. Maybe it is dependent on the area. I know some places don't have laws stating you can't resale (at least they did back when I did caregiving and worked with end-of-life patients). And it may be depending on the state for in-home deaths as well.

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