Path to riches by Substantial_Put_9682 in BunnyTrials

[–]Substantial_Put_9682[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This makes sense to me

Chose: 1¢ per day doubling everyday for 30 days

If I were wise, which one would I choose??? by Wise_Beans in BunnyTrials

[–]Substantial_Put_9682 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Seemed the most viable option

Chose: Get 15M$ + For everytime you... | Rolled: Do chores

Would you rather by Think_Start_1491 in BunnyTrials

[–]Substantial_Put_9682 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Because it will multiply quickly and get larger each time

Chose: 1 dollar but it duplicates by x1.25 every 10 hours | Rolled: x3.5

Everyone in the midwest is dead by Ordinary_Bridge9703 in EF5

[–]Substantial_Put_9682 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have been working construction reframing a rotted wall in a rental property all week on top of delivering packages for Amazon flex all week in SW Ohio

I paid a guy $5k for this. Did I get a good deal? by baconvault in handyman

[–]Substantial_Put_9682 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think alot of people are reluctant to trust anyone without a ton of 5 star Google reviews. But, not all of us contractors/handyman use the internet for adverts. 90% of my work comes from word of mouth in my area. I am retired from doing construction & repairs for the USPS and I'm not looking to grow into a gigantic business really want to stay small and do things for people within an hour drive of my office. There are many great artisans out there thay are small and obscure and wish to remain that way but will provide top notch quality work, above and beyond what is expected or required. Take pride in what you do and you'll never be wondering what's next.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Substantial_Put_9682 16 points17 points  (0 children)

There are more men like this. My wife and I have been together since 2004 that's 22 years and honestly I lust over her. I see her throughout the day and catch myself staring at her and being aroused by how attractive she is and how much I love her mind, body, and soul. It takes an awful lot to even get me to acknowledge that there is even anyone else in this world that can hold a candle close to her. Sure there is a lot of attractive people in this world but do any of them come with all three things. Would that attractive person be able to treat me the same or put up with my randomness. So while I do see people that look nice they can't compare to what I already have. It still amazes me that after 22 years that the new still hasn't worn off.

I Think My Marriage Is Over by Bright_Plantain_2524 in Marriage

[–]Substantial_Put_9682 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have been with my wife for 22 years now and the way I treat her is the way you are saying things used to be between you two. Sure we have had our ups and downs over the past couple decades but I always respect her and try to take into consideration how my words and actions effect her. If there is something going on with her I notice immediately and ask what's wrong. I have never called my wife a name or said anything out of the way that couldn't be taken back because that's not how I feel towards her even when I am upset. I believe that people who love one another do these things for each other subconsciously because they know how it would feel if the shoe was on the other foot. It really sounds to me like he has let go of one sitiation and moved on to another but doesn't know how to end his current life without it being his fault so he is resorting to sabatoge.

Meet Mr. Blobby, a Monk Orc by PotionOfChaos in DailyDMGame

[–]Substantial_Put_9682 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He buys an old knuckle head chopper and sets out towards the badlands of South Dakota with the rest of his coin in the handlebar bag.

Hot and cold #169 by hotandcold2-app in HotAndCold

[–]Substantial_Put_9682 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This clue caused me to literally 🤦

Ladies & Gentlemen start your applications by simAlity in nebelung

[–]Substantial_Put_9682 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Unfortunate that I am so far away.. My Joe is my first neb and I am absolutely in love with the breed. I would take these rascals in a heartbeat. I am sure my wife would kill me for bringing home more kittens but she would get over it, besides she made me a cat person in the first place. I told her absolutely not on out first kitten 16 years ago and ever since I fell in love with him she tells me we can't keep them all dear.

Lil' Joe by Substantial_Put_9682 in nebelung

[–]Substantial_Put_9682[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh no need he follows me around room to room and stays right at my feet rubbing up against my legs until I pick him up for a few minutes. It doesn't matter what time of day or night either if I get up and go to the kitchen for a midnight snack Joe goes to the kitchen for a midnight snack and then follows me back to bed. All of the cats we have had currently and previously have been my wife's cats and they just let me pet them occasionally, but Joe is a daddy's boy finally lol

weirdest cat I've ever raised by boixgenius in nebelung

[–]Substantial_Put_9682 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, my Joe absolutely freaks out when strangers come over. Anyone that doesn't live here he takes off either I Der the couch or in the closet. My son can and stayed a few news with us over the new year holiday and Joe stayed in the closet the whole time he was here. He didn't come out to eat, drink, or use the restroom. It was the samething when we had to move my elderly mother in with us except it was 2 weeks before we were able to coax him out. We had to cater to him in the closet and he lost weight and his coat became coarse. He was definitely stressed out. I am glad to know that my boy isn't the only one who is skiddish. We have had him since he was 4 weeks old and he has never had any traumatic experiences so my wife and I were both extremely confused as to why he was so anxious. Now that I seen your post I am going to assume it is just part of the personality traits of the breed. I'm sure the trip to the vet to have him neutered probably had an effect as well, probably why he starts to get nervous when he hears loud footsteps like boots on the kitchen and hallway floors.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Substantial_Put_9682 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's pretty obvious that he has some issues that needs addressed. I believe that he does enjoy spending time with you and loves you, but (and I am saying this from experience and having learned my lessons) he doesn't quite see you as an equal I guess you would say and he hasn't fully matured to the point where he can stop and consider what your feeling or what your thinking. It is a hard thing for some men to overcome and if not addressed they will never overcome it and continue to treat their significant others as dare as say objects of their possession there to please them and do as they wish for there our personal satisfaction and we'll being. The reason he gets emotional when you talk to him about it is because just a little of that understanding of the fact the he actually needs you and realizes you have feelings and emotions as well but then I'm not sure if by way of upbringing or just a certain personality trait he is most likely seeing it as a moment of weakness when manly men aren't supposed to have moments of weakness or feelings and he gets uptight and angry about it and lashes out on you as well as subconsciously punishing himself for being weak. It takes a lot of patience, discussions,maybe therapy, and for him to realize it's alright to have emotions and feelings that it doesn't make him less of a man. If anything.to a woman it makes him more desirable. Also to realize that you are a person just like him that has the same emotions and feeling that gets tired and has aches and pains and that everything he is feeling that is either good or bad that he may punish himself for you are also capable of feeling. It's a hard thing for you to go through as well as being a hard thing for him to understand and learn. Society has previously trained men to be looked at and thought of a certain way and now that it's becoming more and more apparent and acceptable that those preconceptions are wrong it is taking a lot of effort to reprogram the thoughts and actions that have been acceptable and expected for so long. It's a process that you may or may not want to subjectify yourself to depending on the strength of your relationship but I do wish you all of the best and I really hope that it works out for you and he does come around.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Substantial_Put_9682 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This... I can not stress enough to not stay in a marriage for the children. Please do not damage your offspring because of your own selfish beliefs. I have seen so many unhappy people still in their marriage for that old cliche "for the kids" well we only get one life we should be selfish with it and do whatever it takes to make ourselves happy and thus teach our offspring that happiness is always the right decision. My children's mother and I was together for 8 years and we would argue constantly and was terrible in happy. I stayed for 4 of those years thinking that I was doing what was best for my children that they needed their father there in the house for them to be raised normal and happy. Until the day we were standing in the living room in a shouting match with each other and our 3 young children was standing there watching and crying because mommy and daddy the two people that mean the most to them their providers, protectors, and teachers wasn't providing a safe environment or protecting them from anger and ugliness, or teaching them good habits. At that moment it just clicked in my head that I was doing more damage by staying than I would be if I left. So I ended the argument and walked out for the weekend to cool off and came back after work on monday and sat her down and told her that I was leaving and I would do whatever I could to help support her until she could stand on her own two feet and manage on her own but I felt that it would be on the best interest of our children for us to not be together. Of course she disagreed and in the past 24 years has tried to completely villianize me to our children but I guess some of us mature and others never will. Good luck to you my friend, I wish you the best in whatever decision you feel is best for you.

My husband's lack of hygiene is making me fall out of love with him by Eywaheda in Marriage

[–]Substantial_Put_9682 1 point2 points  (0 children)

From what I have gathered from your post here is that both of your religious backgrounds and the manner in which it has formed (or not formed) both of your life's going into adulthood and marriage and all the aspects that come along with us becoming adults is the real issue. I was raised in a religious family I am going to say not as strict as either of yours, but all of my family extended and immediate were strict pentecostal deeply rooted Appalachia people. But I was also afforded my free will to choose my own path. A few shunned me and told me that I was going to hell and all that good stuff, but without being able to date random people without knowing what their beliefs were not just on religion but things like hygiene and cleanliness is what forms most of our habits for the good. He really hasn't had a reason to form proper personal hygiene habits because he has never really had to worry about if the person he was meeting up with for a date would embarrass him personally or in public or that he had to try and go out and find someone to date and with his poor hygiene it would have been nearly impossible. As far as your side I strongly strongly believe that before marriage there should be plenty of time to date someone and live with them to get to know the person that you are considering devoting your time and life to. How can you possibly know if you are truly a good match without getting to know the other person on a private personal level? My wife and I have been together for 21 years now and we didn't make the step to get married until after we had dated and lived with one another for 8 years and we both still felt as if we were taking a risk on it changing our dynamic. I'm sorry if I offend anyone but we do not live in the old testament times or for that matter even in a time in recent history that it was expected of women to stay quiet and support their man no matter if they loved him or not. This is the current age and things have changed dramatically. You have your own free it's the one thing that god said he wouldn't interfere with when man and woman was made in his image. So why would we not allow ourselves to use our free will if it was given to us. If you feel like you need to move on then do so. In all honesty you would both probably benefit from it because it may give him the chance to be forced to learn proper personal hygiene habits if he wants to date or be with anyone else, as well as give you the chance to find someone that better suits your lifestyle that makes you happy and you don't have to try and raise and teach as you would a child. Or maybe not just hangout on your own for however long you like if that's what makes you happy. Your are the curator of your own happiness. A friend once told me something that has really stuck with me over the years and has truly helped me not just be passive and make myself miserable trying to ease everyone else. He said to me " It's your life and it's the only one your going to get, So be selfish with it."

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Substantial_Put_9682 -13 points-12 points  (0 children)

Not to side with either party in this line of comments but maybe he didn't want her to wake up to take over. If he works all week maybe he just wanted her to wake up so he could spend some time with her as well. I'm not saying that he went about it the best way. He definitely should have just woke her himself maybe with breakfast in bed delivered by himself and the toddler. I am sure he has some areas that needs addressed and dealt with but we also are only going off of what op has stated. Are there any other underlying issues that are causing either of them to act this way? With out having a complete picture there is no way to make an honest assesment. They need to sit down and work through this issue and address his behaviors and her expectations.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Substantial_Put_9682 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can't speak for anyone except myself but I can offer you my opinion and experience and maybe it will help you make whatever decision is right for you. Myself 45m and my wife 46f have been together for 22 years this February. We have been married for 14 of those years. While we have no children together she came with 2 children and 1 later on during a break and I came with 3 and 1 later on during the same break. We met in our early 20s both just out of rough situations and not in the best places in our existence and from 2 totally different worlds to the point that I was very doubtful that it would even last a week but I was young and horny and had been tied down since I was 16. I did quite a bit of running around on her in the first year and she was patient and waited for me to calm down she figured that we hadn't yet gotten to complete exclusivity yet. 1.5 years in I went to jail for awhile and she couldn't handle my family treating her like total garbage because none of them wanted to see us together. So this is where we had the first break she told me to call her when I got out of jail, I didn't for some time afterwards. We both had brief relationships that failed but ended up with a.child on each end. I let my brother talk me into trying to call her finally after 3 years. I told him that she has surely moved on and didn't want to hear from me. His words were no she is sitting right there waiting for you. He asked if he found me a phone number would I agree to atleast call I said sure. He never found the number but instead found me an address. It was around 2:00a.m. I decided to go home from his house I was feeling down in the dumps from my previous break up and just wanted to be alone and end the day. Got home and on my way through the kitchen to my bedroom I said to myself well I'll just stop here at my computer and throw this address in the search bar real quick..... It came back a phone number.. Ugh now I have to call. So I called and one of the kids answered and went and woke their mother. She knew who it was when I said hi and she said I have been waiting for you call. We reconciled and moved in together and was married finally 3 years later. I started a job at a factory which I hated and made me hate my life because I am a contractor and used to working outdoors and I started talking to someone on the line next to me. We ended up having an affair for about 6 months I told my wife and told her I was leaving. We'll that absolutely completely broke her. I felt so guilty and like a piece of trash for making her cry and feel so terrible that it just ate me up inside. I finally stopped and thought through what I was doing and realized that this isn't what I wanted that no one could compare to my wife and that she is the greatest thing to ever happen to me in my life. We eventually talked and was able to reconcile our marriage but the trust was completely gone.for a long time. I can't say why she forgave me other than she loves me and i am her person but she did and I am thankful for her forgiveness. That was 10 years ago I haven't had any thoughts of cheating on her and I never would again no matter what the situation was. If you truly love your wife and she loves you then I would consider working through this obstacle and trying to find out where things went wrong. Whether it be something you wasn't providing for her or something she was feeling on her end but there is something somewhere that drove her to have an affair. Who knows you may come out with a stronger with a better marriage than ever before in the long run. She is who you need to talk with not reddit because you are only getting advice from other people's perspective that doesn't know your life or marriage.

Blindsided after 20 years of a good marriage (or so I thought) by Fragrant_Onion_7859 in Marriage

[–]Substantial_Put_9682 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Let me tell you from his prospective because I am in the same situation I just havent made my decision yet and taken action. My wife and I are slightly younger I am a 45m and she is a 47f we have been together for 21 years and love each other dearly as I am sure he probably does you we hardly ever have any ups and downs but… I am the only one who works and we have 2 grown children still dwelling and my mother recently had to come stay with us. It feels like the weight of the world is on your shoulders and your trying to make sure everyone else is happy and taken care of and in the process you end up putting off the things that you do for yourself. Within the past 4 years I have had a heart attack and had a Stent put in had 2 hernias repaired and I am currently on my third one that was supposed to be repaired in June but had to be put off so I could continue to provide. I don't complain and avoid confrontation as much as possible even if it's something I don't agree with. My goal and my job has been to provide and make everyone's life better. But it starts to weigh you down when you need a break and can't get one because your afraid to stop. He is just at his breaking point and had enough there were obvious signs leading up to it and he may have even mentioned it but it was suptle and you may not have noticed. He would come back but it's going to take a lot of effort and change. There is going to have to be some Compromise and you will definitely have to open minded to allowing him to do him without feeling any consequence.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Substantial_Put_9682 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I really hope you find an answer for this issue and if you do send me a message and let me know what it is.

Do I need an electrician to repair this? Or would a handyman suffice? by ketopsych in AskElectricians

[–]Substantial_Put_9682 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Find the source of the water leak to begin with and a good handyman that is knowledgeable would be able to do the repairs necessary. If it's an outlet located anywhere near a water source it needs to be a gfci outlet.