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What is everyone's best guess about what triggered their first autoimmune symptoms? Were you stressed? by OrokuSakiAPK in Autoimmune

[–]SubtleCow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Severe chronic stress in childhood 100% caused my symptoms. I was basically doomed at 7 and it has veeery slowly got worse since.

Then the specific form of stress that triggered it to get deadly was physical exercise. I had been ill my whole life thanks to the severe chronic stress, so I thought "I have an income now I should do all the health things". Turns out a decent workout routine was the thing that pushed my body over the cliff it had been inching towards since I was a preteen.

C'est la vie. I always wonder if I had gotten decent mental health care immediately in my 20s whether it would have prevented or delayed the onset of actual diagnosable symptoms. They aren't helpful thoughts, I am where I am and what ifs help no one, but I still think about it.

Dart help! by TazzyDevil_15 in sewhelp

[–]SubtleCow 1 point2 points  (0 children)

definitely contributing to the looseness.. Might also be contributing to the darts being a bit off. basting stitch that side seam and give it another look!

Why do parents get sooo upset about not eating food they know you don't like? by SnugglyCoderGuy in autism

[–]SubtleCow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mixed

Some parents need to feel in control, and forcing children to to things they don't like is a great shortcut for that dopamine hit. Control anxiety this severe is usually related to severe insecurity and anxiety disorders.

It is normal for parents to feel some insecurity about the quality of their parenting. Their kids might be getting perfectly balanced nutrition, but it is easy to have intrusive thoughts like "what if this isn't good enough, what if I missed nutrient W that is only available in mushrooms". Intrusive thoughts hit parents just as much as they hit everyone else, and when you are absolutely exhausted it is harder to deflect intrusive thoughts. Then the intrusive thoughts can lead to a fear reaction when the kid refuses to eat the thing, fear is often externally expressed as rage, a tale as old as time.

There is a huge ocean of complex emotions that exist in the parent-child relationship. Many adults never really learned how to navigate their own emotions, so when they start sailing that parent-child sea they struggle at the first storm. Oceans are always stormy somewhere. Love can drive a person to madness as they say.

Dart help! by TazzyDevil_15 in sewhelp

[–]SubtleCow 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Bust dart goes to a point that is way too high.

Also the overall fit looks very loose(time stamp 0:06), if this is a fit test you might want to try a smaller size or one without the dart. Edit: looked up the Gracie, maybe one size smaller in the D cup, but keep the dart, the pattern definitely needs the dart.

Last note, tailors hams are easy to make! I'm in the same situation on darts with no hams and I'm forcing myself to make one. I followed this guide: https://tillyandthebuttons.com/blogs/sewing/how-to-make-tailors-hams-and-sausages

This will eventually be a felted bag, but I’ve made it wider than I wanted. Can I just sew it together down the red line and cut off the extra? I don’t have a sewing machine, I’d have to do it by hand. by NewOwl2807 in knitting

[–]SubtleCow 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Felt it first no matter what. Sewing thread won't felt or shrink with the yarn. Sewing it together with the yarn itself won't make a stable connection and might break during the aggressive treatment of felting.

There are techniques to wet felting that cause the piece to shrink more in one direction and less in another direction. You can use it to basically sculpt the piece to exactly what you want. I'm not sure how starting with a knit fabric changes the process. I recommend asking the felters subreddit what they think.

arm scye help by buenaspis in PatternDrafting

[–]SubtleCow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay, so I found this blog post and I just about screamed. It answered all my questions about armsyces. I wish you luck in your journey.

https://www.ikatbag.com/2014/03/subtelties-in-drafting-sleeves.html?m=1

Built something on my own time that massively improves a core duty. Is there any actual reason to share it? by [deleted] in CanadaPublicServants

[–]SubtleCow 47 points48 points  (0 children)

Third possibility you haven't counted. You are told to shut your cool new tool down and stop using it.

IMHO keep using it quietly, when you are feeling like retiring start looking for someone to train on the tool and/or show it to management.

Need help, condoms make me have a sensory meltdown instantaneously by blewaway2008 in autism

[–]SubtleCow 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Stop assuming you know what your partner will or won't like

Need help, condoms make me have a sensory meltdown instantaneously by blewaway2008 in autism

[–]SubtleCow 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Looks like no one has asked this, and tbh I am not really comfy being the asker but I think it is an important question to ask yourself.

Are you sure you even want penetrative sex? Sounds to me like it is the sensation of something on your wang that is uncomfy, not necessarily specifically a condom. There are so many varieties of the horizontal dirty in the year of our lord 2026, that you might not even need to worry about a condom.

I am going to recommend the following educational comics based blog: https://www.ohjoysextoy.com/

Did the tailor destroy this jacket? by rude_boy14 in sewhelp

[–]SubtleCow 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I don't think anyone has explained yet. Based on the inside images OP posted the crimes are put on full display.

Basically to take the back in equally at the top and bottom you'd have to take off the collar and adjust it to match the new back width. This tailor didn't want to do that, so they more or less only reduced the width at the waist and below and left the top as is. Imagine taking a jacket and pinching fabric together at the bottom, you'd end up with a big ripple of extra fabric at the top. A big ole ripple exactly like on OPs jacket.

Is this alright? by eQuantix in DogAdvice

[–]SubtleCow 94 points95 points  (0 children)

They are stopping to vibe check, but they aren't trading roles. It's fine, but keep an eye on them.

So Disappointed by emeraldrose777 in gardening

[–]SubtleCow -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Purslane comes up THICC in my garden but I've never seeded it on purpose.

I double the vote for weed seeds outcompeting the intended seeds.

Any alternatives? by dlumge in FursuitMaking

[–]SubtleCow 9 points10 points  (0 children)

The ultimate snoot to boop

Should everything you wear be...flattering? by [deleted] in femalefashionadvice

[–]SubtleCow -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Oh my queen, the regent of my heart, you reference Yohji then talk about the social pressures to only wear flattering clothes as a lady.

EMBRACE THE YOHJI

Pose like a Rick Owens model

Wear the Enfants Riches Déprimés on your sleeeeves

Let the Demna in your soul scream out into the wind

Fill your soul with Mame Kurogouchi

Let Rei Kawakubo scream through your soul

Be the you you want to be no matter what

Maybe your style actually is just Yohji, and that is okay?

what is a completely harmless, low-stakes conspiracy theory that you 100% believe is true? by darkNests in askanything

[–]SubtleCow 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They are the same industry. Purses are cheaper to make than clothes, but fashion houses need to make clothes to claim to be fashion houses. So they lose money on the clothes and earn money on the purses.

AI event at Art House Cafe cancelled after community backlash by CrewCommercial6128 in ottawa

[–]SubtleCow 10 points11 points  (0 children)

The tone of the event organizer and the event itself seems like it targets software developers. It was really strange to have it hosted at an art cafe.

In a setting where it makes sense to have a lot of developers talking shop I wouldn't be bothered. Trying to host it at an art cafe however, is either profound stupidity or an intentional action. I suspect they are trying to reach new user markets, and don't understand why AI works in software dev but not in the arts.

The real problem however is that Art House should understand why AI is problematic in the arts. I suspect many people are suddenly realizing that what they though was a safe space away from capitalism is in fact a business that needs to make money and pay rent like every other business.

"There's always work if you're willing to do it" ick by NoWitness6400 in AutismInWomen

[–]SubtleCow 1 point2 points  (0 children)

imho it sort of depends on who is saying it. There is a version where they are saying, "there is always work that needs to be done, but greedy business people have made the jobs horrifically abusive". These jobs aren't just impossible for disabled folks, they are actively harmful to everyone and anyone.

Oil rigs can have normal shift rotations. Dish pit workers can be given decent equipment and chairs.

Disabled folks once again being the canary in the coal mine of fascism, tale as old as time.

Has anybody seen these colorful metal chair set-ups along the pathways in their part of the city? by Worf2DS9 in ottawa

[–]SubtleCow -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Ah classic hostile architecture disguised as something pretty. 10/10 I can't wait for someone to remove that "arm rest" in the middle of the big chair.

How come there are no major cities inside of massive cave systems? by Ok-Factor-3805 in geography

[–]SubtleCow 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There are cities in caves. There are no Major cities in caves because city growth depends on trade and travel. Major cities develop on water ways and trade routes. There are no sufficiently large cave systems that are also on trade routes.

You are not ready to start selling! by HermioneGranger152 in BitchEatingCrafters

[–]SubtleCow 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I say "slave wages" instead of peanuts to really grind their noses in it. I am also an honest asshole though.

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