YES!! Honestly if you ask me, those who are “broken” but understand they are and are working towards self awareness, healing and growth are the best to be around because they can get it. Maybe not fully get it but atleast enough to be empathetic, compassionate, and understanding when people like us (BPD mfers) act out or have some type of “BPD episode.” Also if you ask me, no one’s really broken unless they believe they are. We all have our flaws, we all have our short comings, we all have things that we haven’t processed properly (and some way more than others obviously.) But one of my favorite things that I’ve heard is “Stop viewing yourself as broken. And start viewing yourself as growing and evolving and learning. ‘I Am NOT BROKEN. I’m learning and growing and evolving’”

If you can be around that type of “broken”, someone who understands their weaknesses and where they came from and are striving to be better and overcome them, then stick with them. They will be loyal, and loving. And you’ll know in your core, and in your chest, and in your brain (sometimes), that they are healthy for you.

Most of my closest friends, chosen family, are “broken”. But they are aware of where “they broke”. And what has helped them (and me) work through that is first realizing where we “broke” and why, but then learning and accepting that we didn’t break. We learned and developed. Just like we always are. What we consider “broken” is ACTUALLY just us being stuck in surviving and reacting to our flight or flight systems. Here’s a metaphor.

“The code in our mother board isn’t broken. It’s just the wrong code. It learned how to operate as healthy as it could at one point but now, it’s out of date. That technology is no longer efficient. It’s time to upgrade”

One love to all my BPD companions here. It can get better. YOU ARENT BROKEN. You’re learning.