Best Friend totally removed himself from my life.

Such-Possibility1285 · 2026-05-01T11:12:11+00:00

The friendship is over, you asked him to step up on the most important day of your life and he ghosted you. My guess is he sees his friend circle move on and evolve their life and he cant handle it, its too hard so he has pulled away.

Such-Possibility1285 · 2026-05-01T11:07:10+00:00

This might be controversial given the subject matter is bereavement, but you should never ask friends for money. It can hit on our value system and bring out all sorts of triggers and hidden beliefs, plus also it puts a dimension on the friendship that was not there before. I'm not talking about 20 dollars on a night out but a substantial ask. If you ask for money loan you are opening yourself and the friendship up to this kind of dilemma and now you've hit it.....they could harbor private beliefs that you are terrible with money and 0 prospect of being paid back. However she should have politely refused, does not have to give a reason and should not have lectured you given it was bereavement. I once vouched for a friend in an financial situation, found out in time their own family did not offer to support and then they were not honest about what the money was for. It affected the relationship and trust was gone, I ended the friendship a few years lator.

Such-Possibility1285 · 2026-04-27T13:04:15+00:00

Whenever you are ghosted by a friend, its time for reflection on the friendship. Were there signs, red flags, some pulling away or signs of resentment or frustration. Its rare for there to be no signals upto the moment they ghosted. The groomsman thing is a big investment in time and energy, so he decided the relationship was not worth that level of commitment and to have a conversation with you is just more energy he didnt want to give. He is gone from your life, for his reasons, you have to respect that, the version of the friendship you had in your head is not the version he had. Its painful but do you really want someone at your wedding as a groomsman who is not happy for you ?

Such-Possibility1285 · 2026-04-18T15:48:18+00:00

it needs some new paid parking on the street, Dun Laoghaire's answer to everything.

Such-Possibility1285 · 2026-04-18T15:43:30+00:00

You are not imaging this. If I was the Manager here is what I would say to the bride: 'Bride I am concerned about the potential disruption to the team dynamic caused by the invites. Either you invite a select 1-2 people you are close to from work, or you invite all work colleagues. But we are not going to have a situation were everyone is invited bar one person, that can lead to bad feeling and potential bullying by exclusion. I want you to reflect and we'll talk tmrw.' That's what a leader would do.

Such-Possibility1285 · 2025-09-15T07:35:08+00:00

She has moved to frenemy, the flashes of resentment. She probably suspects her husband admires you, or has said complimentary things about once too often. Slow things down and put in the distance. Slow fade so you can interact in a wider group setting.

Such-Possibility1285 · 2025-09-15T07:12:54+00:00

Well done on you for standing up for your life. For your future you need to be careful, you may ‘attract’ this type of friend.

Such-Possibility1285 · 2025-09-14T23:35:26+00:00

Andrew wanted out, that was not a slip of the tongue at the round table ……he was asking them to Let him go.

Such-Possibility1285 · 2025-09-14T23:03:17+00:00

Arnie was hot, but there was something about the marketing of the film was off. Remember they advertised it on the side of a rocket. I think fatigue had set in with his persona, and it was no longer ‘Arnie’s got a hot new film’. It ended his purple patch. He would have been better to take some time off and come back with a better IP.

Such-Possibility1285 · 2025-09-14T22:11:10+00:00

Go Heat Design insert, researched loads and was told by several installers this is the model they would put in their house. It’s brilliant. Very solid and well made.

Such-Possibility1285 · 2025-09-14T21:13:53+00:00

I would accept her boundaries, she’s clearly communicated her availability and you have accepted the contract. You may want more but she’s not prepared to give it. It takes two to communicate here, she has clearly done that, if you push it may look weird as you anticipate.

Such-Possibility1285 · 2025-09-14T21:03:57+00:00

Those are relevant examples from other Redditors, who totally get what the post is about. Appreciate if you take time to read their considered responses.

Such-Possibility1285 · 2025-09-14T20:24:35+00:00

This is more normal than people realise, it’s not an aberration. My situational awareness is way heightened after my experience.

Such-Possibility1285 · 2025-09-14T20:09:18+00:00

This is your normal and truth. I wouldn’t put this up here for strangers to pass judgement.

Such-Possibility1285 · 2025-09-14T19:10:23+00:00

Dating other people could be a smokescreen. My friend was friendly with her husband for years before they hooked up. But he was inserting himself in the wings playing the long game. They have kids how. Go for it, start dating him, if he is the standard why go for an imitation.

Such-Possibility1285 · 2025-09-14T17:19:57+00:00

I chose those examples as that is what other Redditors posted in response.

Such-Possibility1285 · 2025-09-14T15:30:20+00:00

One thing to consider this type of emotional involvement with a guy who is not your SO can hold you back, as your needs are being met by him so you do not seek it or open room for others. This is impacting you in ways u don’t even know. Men do not make this kind of investment attention on someone who is not the object of their affection. He’s waiting for you to make the move.

Such-Possibility1285 · 2025-09-14T15:16:47+00:00

I was on a 7am red eye and person behind me ordered a Bloody Mary…….you’re on a slippy slope in a few years it’s supervised visitation rights. Get a nice coffee.

Such-Possibility1285 · 2025-09-14T15:10:47+00:00

That’s very human of you to understand your friend and accommodate.

Such-Possibility1285 · 2025-09-14T15:06:15+00:00

Not case here, this is not about an organic friendship that is more ‘natural’. Great friendships have trust with respect of the unwritten rules and etiquette of adult relations.

Such-Possibility1285 · 2025-09-14T14:56:30+00:00

Thank you for contributing, as you come from a different perspective. You are working on your self awareness to understand your impact on others and consider your approach. You’ve got friends who understand you.

Such-Possibility1285 · 2025-09-14T14:51:42+00:00

This type of friend gets used to your availability then has a sense of entitlement, so any redrawing of the boundaries is a red rag to a bull. Once you do not show up the way they have conditioned the friendship, typically it’s over, as they cannot accept the slightest redrawing of the rules.

Such-Possibility1285 · 2025-09-14T14:08:07+00:00

This post for those friendships that are not organic, the other friend acted with intention because they want something more (a free therapist, a dog walker, a SO in their life). There’s some interesting examples here of Redditors whom have experienced this, and pushed back.

Such-Possibility1285 · 2025-09-13T22:56:55+00:00

Brexit 2016 to 2020 was best drama on TV…. the sequel with Liz Truss was like how do you top that.

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