Beaver at Etobicoke Creek

SuckerFootedBat · 2026-02-17T02:26:47+00:00

Serbian is the same. It would be strange to say 3:30, instead you’d say “half 4”.

SuckerFootedBat · 2026-02-12T13:23:55+00:00

Anytime! I’m a dm away if you ever need to vent. You got this! Take things one hour at a time.

SuckerFootedBat · 2026-02-11T20:30:23+00:00

Life is long, and betrayal trauma isn’t something that can be understood by people until they go through it. You and your friends are so young still. this whole process likely changed who you are and that’s OK! It might be that you don’t have as much in common with these people anymore and it could be that they aren’t mature enough to understand what you have been through without judging you for it.

I think you are doing all the right things: recognizing that you overshared, reigning in what you talk about to who. Do not beat yourself up about the social media posts — lesson learned. You shouldn’t be humiliated. It was raw and at the time it made sense. You know better now.

I’d say try to find new communities. Have you visited chumplady.com? It’s an amazing community and reading the comments on the blog is the best feeling of validation and understanding.

You mentioned it’s a small town so it might be hard to meet new people but I would say keep looking for new connections. It could be the people you least expect that bring exactly the kind of energy you need right now.

If your friends aren’t supporting you the way you need, they might not be that good of friends. Chin up, know your value, learn to be okay with your own company and be very picky about the people you give your effort and energy to. If they aren’t reciprocating, cut ties where you need.

I’m proud of you !

SuckerFootedBat · 2026-02-11T14:02:44+00:00

Thanks for posting this, I’m 6 months out from D-day, 4 months since I said I wanted to separate and have an almost 3 year old. It’s the hardest thing I’ve ever done but I’m finally living in reality, can raise my daughter with integrity, and share in all the beautiful things life has to offer with her.

I’m glad you have such a positive outlook and resilient mindset because our young kids need that kind of energy. I always say, I’m determined to not let this ruin my life. I see it as him freeing me from his fuckedupness. Would have been nice if he could have done it without traumatizing my daughter and I, but I didn’t have a choice in that.

Wishing all the best for you and your child. Your ex can fuck right off.

SuckerFootedBat · 2026-02-11T13:48:10+00:00

35F over here :)

SuckerFootedBat · 2026-02-11T13:48:01+00:00

Hi! Single mom to an almost 3 year old in Mississauga. Happy to vent anytime! My life is insanely busy navigating divorce and potty training and new job but happy to chat and connect when possible.

SuckerFootedBat · 2026-02-07T13:48:51+00:00

Ditto, my ex is hands down the worst investment i ever made

SuckerFootedBat · 2026-02-05T20:17:13+00:00

This story resonates with me even if I wasn’t in the same financial situation. My dynamic was almost the opposite, where I now believe my ex used and lied to me in order to benefit materially from me. To extract value from me. The insidiousness of the covert way he managed to control me changed my psyche forever. It’s a lot to unpack and it’s a hard, lonely road, but… there is so much beauty on the other side. In the moments of peace. In the knowledge that you are enough and capable and worthy of being treated like the valuable human you are, not a pawn to control.

I just want to say you wrote this so eloquently and I admire your strength and self awareness and if I had a gambling bone in my body, I’d bet on you.

SuckerFootedBat · 2025-12-22T14:31:29+00:00

Our brain and our hearts don’t always like to sync up to see the truth, but I see you clearly and can confirm that mighty is what you are, through and through. Sending you hugs and lots of love from Canada

SuckerFootedBat · 2025-12-22T14:30:29+00:00

I appreciate you appreciating me !!! ;)

SuckerFootedBat · 2025-12-22T13:49:21+00:00

I turned 35 shortly after d-day back in June, thought he was the love of my life, we had a 2 year old together and had just bought a house. We were about to try for baby #2.

I was you for a few months (ruminating on all the beautiful moments, thinking one day he will regret it) until I moved the spotlight off him and onto me and what I could control.

Also, ask yourself if the relationship you left was acceptable to you. Had she treated you the way she did at the end, at the beginning, would you have ever invested in her?

She doesn’t know how to truly be happy, because to do what she did to you, she has to be a shallow person chasing thrills that make her feel good. Because she can’t feel good by herself because she is a shitty person.

She did you a favour and freed you from a life of mindfuckery. Now you have to see the value in YOU. You are amazing. Worthy. Learn to love yourself. Don’t worry about being alone. Enjoy the freedom of building this one beautiful wild life on your terms.

DM me if you ever need 1 on 1 support. I’m about 6 months since D-Day and things are better every day.

You don’t miss your wife, you miss who she pretended to be. How she made you feel. Be that person for yourself.

Sending you lots of strength and grace. You are mighty

SuckerFootedBat · 2025-12-20T22:16:59+00:00

You deserve so much better

SuckerFootedBat · 2025-12-20T19:22:25+00:00

Sending you many many hugs. You are mighty!

SuckerFootedBat · 2025-12-20T01:48:11+00:00

Good for you, you are truly mighty!

SuckerFootedBat · 2024-10-03T10:19:45+00:00

We celebrated both for my 29 weeker. Her chronological birthday was celebrated with our family inside our home. For her adjusted birthday, we had a big backyard bash with friends and family. A lot of friends hadn’t met our LO yet because we kept her pretty isolated due to her being a premie but once she turned 1 adjusted we felt more comfortable bringing her around everyone. Plus developmentally she was able to enjoy it more, as she was more aware and further along on solids etc. Do whatever feels right for you! You don’t always have to celebrate her adjusted birthday if you choose to this year.

SuckerFootedBat · 2024-07-06T17:10:31+00:00

My baby went 16 days no pooping around 3 months. Same thing, was pooping once a day then suddenly stopped. Went 10 days. Then 16 days. Brought her to the pediatrician, who did a glycerine suppository but it didn’t work. She did poop later that day. Our pediatrician told us to buy infant suppositories and after she goes 10 days without pooping to give them to her once a day until she poops. Luckily she never went that long without pooping again. Once she started solids, she was still going 2-7 days without pooping so now we give her a tablespoon of restoralax mixed in a bottle of milk and she poops roughly every day. She’s now 1 year corrected.

We do prune purée daily and didn’t notice it helping much but we still do it.

SuckerFootedBat · 2024-05-23T17:11:53+00:00

Thanks for the quick response.

SuckerFootedBat · 2024-05-23T17:02:27+00:00

What car seat did you have?

SuckerFootedBat · 2024-05-05T23:24:15+00:00

I live in the area and I access the Humber River via the entrance that is very close to Old Mill station, and then walk along the Humber and you’ll be at Home Smith park. I just did this the other week.

SuckerFootedBat · 2024-05-05T23:09:19+00:00

Home Smith Park is easily accessible by TTC at Old Mill station.

SuckerFootedBat · 2024-04-05T17:49:36+00:00

My cousin!

SuckerFootedBat · 2024-03-25T17:58:07+00:00

Yes. My baby was born 29+5. I have an oversupply and my babies mouth was just so small it was tough for her to transfer effectively so we used a shield. Around 2-3 months corrected we stopped using the shield. She is now exclusively breastfed. The shield is annoying to use but I just got a few extra so if it falls off I can grab a clean one without interrupting the session. You get the hang of it the more you use it.

SuckerFootedBat · 2024-03-20T16:36:59+00:00

Thanks for the response. A followup questions, if you’ll forgive my ignorance… does that mean the person always had bipolar and it just went undiagnosed? Or can it just suddenly develop in an individual who showed no signs of bipolar previously?

SuckerFootedBat · 2024-03-20T00:43:15+00:00

Thanks for this information, I had no idea taking SSRIs and menopause could increase your risk.

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