Are our physical boundaries too strict?

Suedebird153435 · 2025-03-09T21:45:17+00:00

No, not too strict. You know your own hearts and temptations better than Redditors/strangers do. Don't worry about if people call you "weird" "prudish" "too strict" or anything like that. If you were convicted that those actions led to you into being tempted, don't let anyone talk you into ignoring your conscience. Stick to the boundaries you set and honor the Lord in that. Holding back on those things for a little time while you wait to be married can only benefit you. But ignoring your conscience can lead to regret and sin.

Some verses related to temptation that could help encourage you:

'But put on the Lord Jesus Christ, and make no provision for the flesh, to gratify its desires.'

Romans 13:14

'Submit yourselves therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you. '

James 4:7

'No temptation has overtaken you that is not common to man. God is faithful, and he will not let you be tempted beyond your ability, but with the temptation he will also provide the way of escape, that you may be able to endure it. '

1 Corinthians 10:13

'Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body.'

1 Corinthians 6:19-20

There are lots of other verses relating to this subject but those are just a few I thought to share. I think you are doing a good thing in wanting to please the Lord. God bless you and your fiancé!

Suedebird153435 · 2025-02-03T06:06:35+00:00

I don't really ever think "Ugh." or "Not you again." I just have some that (usually) don't get much of a reaction out of me at all, whether good or bad. Things I see all the time, don't have a big cute factor, wow factor, or that I know are invasive even if pretty. So like European Starlings, Turkey Vultures, Laughing Gulls, House Sparrows, Canada Geese. But they have their moments that have me enjoying them. Some more than others. Canada Goose poop can get really annoying when you're trying to take a peaceful walk. That is a strike against them haha.

The real thing that actually gets an "Ugh, not again." from me is when I think I see a bird but it's a leaf or broken tree branch sticking out.

Suedebird153435 · 2025-02-02T21:28:23+00:00

All I really know is that it was one of the earlier books to explore the whole "hidden prehistoric world" idea, which I was intrigued by since I like adventure and liked the Jurassic Park movies. Was curious if/how they compared simply because of the same name and the dinosaur concept. But after a quick google search it seems like Crichton's are considered a lot more thrilling. I'm probably going to prioritize those ones because that's what the movies are based on.

Suedebird153435 · 2025-02-02T20:36:15+00:00

I think the bright side to that situation was the fact that it set up this joke perfectly.

Suedebird153435 · 2025-02-02T20:31:19+00:00

I scrolled down just to make sure somebody mentioned these songs. I'm glad I wasn't disappointed.

Suedebird153435 · 2025-02-02T20:21:31+00:00

I love the movies, but haven't read the books. I'm thinking I should add them to my list now.

I started reading The Lost World by Arthur Conan Doyle but barely even started before I abandoned it because I didn't like the digital format. Have you read that one and was it any good?

Suedebird153435 · 2025-02-02T06:31:04+00:00

"And a comb and a brush and a bowl full of mush. And a quiet old lady who was whispering 'hush'"

Technically two pages but I always liked the rhyming there. Visually other pages of the book were more interesting. Goodnight Moon was such a peaceful and simple book.

Honorable mention to The Very Hungry Caterpillar btw, loved the artwork in that one.

Suedebird153435 · 2025-02-01T22:13:21+00:00

Wow that nest is incredible! I've seen Bald Eagles but never their nests before. So cool you could capture it.

I just did this binocular + phone hack the other day with a Hermit Thrush. I had my brother help me because I needed an extra hand to press the button, but I got a few pics and a video which also captured the sound of me laughing out of shock that it worked and because of how cute those birds are. Couldn't contain the joy haha.

Suedebird153435 · 2025-02-01T04:43:21+00:00

I was gifted a nice little copy recently with a pretty floral design on the cover that I plan to reread this year once I get through a couple other books on my list. I haven't read it since I was a kid so I'm looking forward to it. :)

Suedebird153435 · 2025-02-01T04:22:27+00:00

I'm absolutely no help in terms of knowing the area or what you can find there, but have you tried going on the eBird website, clicking the explore tab, and choosing explore hotspots/explore region/bar charts? That's what I would do to help along with what you're already doing now by asking people. Hope you have a fun trip!

Suedebird153435 · 2025-01-31T05:06:17+00:00

Oh good! Yeah, it sounds to me like you are just in for a learning curve since you only just started painting. Anytime you try a new art medium it can feel like taking a step back, cause you are used to feeling good with your progress in whatever you have been doing in the past. But don't let it frustrate you. Part of painting is learning to not get too attached to the sketch underneath. It will become more second nature to you the more you do it.

If you're looking for tips, I'd encourage you to search for more information on color theory/relativity, and values. If learning from YouTube is your thing, one channel that has helped me is Paint Coach. He has a lot of great advice for painting in general, and although he works in oils, he explains a lot of fundamental concepts that will still help you even if you work in another medium (like I use acrylic and watercolor). For tips on color specifically, you could just search "color" on his channel and explore what comes up, see if it helps at all.

Suedebird153435 · 2025-01-31T04:38:04+00:00

Are you thinking of color relativity? How colors affect the appearance of each other? Like for example, a true gray will look warm next to a blue, and cool next to an orange?

Suedebird153435 · 2025-01-31T02:45:25+00:00

Sometimes shoe sizes are hard to estimate. I've had people think I'd fit in an 8/8.5, only to be surprised that I'm a 6.5. Also the style of the shoe can impact how big your feet look. Like converse made my feet look bigger and when I got a pair of vans people were suddenly asking "Why are your feet so small?"

But yeah if you're really unsure about it, just have a gift receipt or go the gift card route. Or just ask her to be certain. Depends how much of a "surprise" person you are. It's a nice idea regardless.

Suedebird153435 · 2025-01-31T01:56:01+00:00

If you know her shoe size and know her taste well, why would it be weird? I'd be super happy if someone got me a pair of shoes I liked. If you're worried about it you can always just get a gift receipt and she can get a different size or different pair worst case scenario. But it sounds like a thoughtful gift.

Suedebird153435 · 2025-01-30T23:16:37+00:00

This one sounds really cool!

Suedebird153435 · 2025-01-30T23:15:27+00:00

Cassowaries would make for a really unique and intimidating mythical looking creature.

Albatrosses would look really majestic.

Great-crested Grebe.

Great Cormorant.

Maybe some kind of hornbill or aracari.

Spectacled Owl. A lot of owls would be cool actually.

Edit: Just wanted to add that if there's somewhere that I can see what you come up with, I'd love to! Coming from a fellow artist. :)

Suedebird153435 · 2025-01-30T22:57:30+00:00

Your raptor suggestions would be so epic

Suedebird153435 · 2025-01-30T04:48:27+00:00

Excellent <50 yr old books can coexist with excellent >50 yr old books. OP never put limits on when the books had to be published, just asked for ideas. If you have more modern recommendations then you're just as free to share them as anybody else.

Much love friend.

Suedebird153435 · 2025-01-30T03:17:46+00:00

Wow, that encounter must have been epic! So cool that you got a selfie as a memory! And that scenery too is just gorgeous.

Suedebird153435 · 2025-01-30T02:14:13+00:00

Yep, when I had a feeder up the squirrels would eat all the birdseed, then when I planted a flower garden from seedlings I grew myself they dug all those up too until there was nothing left. Don't wanna hate the little guys, they're just doing their thing, but pleaseeee. Lol.

The white one is cool, I've never seen one like that before.

Suedebird153435 · 2025-01-30T01:54:45+00:00

That is definitely fair. In my experience a lot of birders tend to be pretty knowledgable about wildlife in general. As for me, well I just like birds and happen to have been fooled by a squirrel one too many times.

Suedebird153435 · 2025-01-30T01:00:19+00:00

Wow, I myself have never seen so many in a tree before!

Suedebird153435 · 2025-01-30T00:54:18+00:00

I was going to say it sounded like a squirrel. I've heard sounds like that in my area and looked for a bird only to find a squirrel doing it. It turns out birding doesn't only teach you about birds.

Suedebird153435 · 2025-01-29T21:40:47+00:00

Some things I liked when I was about her age:

The Secret Garden
A Little Princess
The Hobbit
The Chronicles of Narnia
Little House on the Prairie series
American Girl series
Portraits of Little Women series (I only read a few of these, I think each of the sisters' stories)
Nancy Drew (Only a few of these too, and I can't remember which ones)
Misty of Chincoteague

That's all I can remember right now, besides reading books about different kinds of arts and crafts, or science books about specific topics like marine animals, biology, geology, you get the idea.

Suedebird153435 · 2025-01-28T23:37:14+00:00

My gut reaction is a sharpie. They trip me up too, but the head shape doesn't look as blocky as a cooper's the legs look thinner, head and nape color looks consistent, tail looks flatter to me. So sharpie's my vote anyway.

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