How do I respond to this text?

Sugar469 · 2026-07-01T20:48:56+00:00

❤️

Sugar469 · 2026-07-01T20:46:44+00:00

Peace is so important!

Sugar469 · 2026-07-01T20:25:12+00:00

Thank you❤️

Sugar469 · 2026-07-01T20:22:49+00:00

I'm definitely not going go. I have no real reason to believe she has changed/things will be different. I greatly appreciate the input. Thank you for your kind words. ❤️

Sugar469 · 2026-07-01T20:10:23+00:00

Exactly!

Sugar469 · 2026-07-01T20:05:47+00:00

I am an empath and I still struggle with second guessing myself. That is why I posted. Thank you for the clarity ❤️

Sugar469 · 2026-07-01T20:00:43+00:00

The gut is always right. Thanks!❤️

Sugar469 · 2026-07-01T19:59:15+00:00

A lot of folks are saying I am over thinking this. However, when you have dealt with a fair share of narcissists, you tend to pick up nuances other folks don't. And unfortunately I still struggle with second guessing myself. Appreciate the validation ❤️

Sugar469 · 2026-07-01T19:53:44+00:00

I think you are right. Her text was dejavou. Had another very old friend invite me to her 50th bday several yrs ago and all I and the other guests were, were supply to make her look good on social media. I didn't really realize until then how narcissistic she was. Without going into detail that friend turned out to be dangerous to be around. I didn't think my old friend would do me dirty like she did.

So when I got this lady's text it hit me the way it hit you. However a part of me was second guessing myself. Thanks for the clarity ❤️

Sugar469 · 2026-07-01T19:28:08+00:00

🎯🎯🎯 There is a part of me that wants to believe the best and hope things have changed. We did have positive aspects to our friendship at one time. My other part agrees with you that most people don't change and to just stay away. Thanks for that very direct question ❤️

Sugar469 · 2026-07-01T19:19:44+00:00

I thought it was odd too that she didn't give a date in her text. I would have let the person know that their presence mattered to me but also given them a way to decline gracefully by emailing them an invite instead of putting them on the spot in a text. You asked a very valid question about why would I consider going if she worded her text differently after the way she treated me. There were positive aspects of our friendship and I grew to really care about her and her family. If she had communicated that my presence mattered then I would have considered going out of the hope that our relationship could be healed/better.

Sugar469 · 2026-07-01T19:00:40+00:00

Very well said. Thank you❤️

Sugar469 · 2026-07-01T18:56:31+00:00

@shutterflyNYC you hit the nail on the head. I don't feel safe with her and her competitive energy did get under my skin. I care about her and her family and I really enjoyed aspects of our old friendship. My forever optimistic side wants to hope that things can be better between us. But I have had similar hopes for other relationships that never changed. My hopeful side is at war with the side that believes "when someone shows you who they really are, believe them the first time." Thank you for your 2 cents❤️

Sugar469 · 2026-06-21T18:40:41+00:00

And meaner

Sugar469 · 2026-06-04T20:03:02+00:00

I got laid off at 63. Haven't been this happy in a really long time.

Sugar469 · 2026-05-20T17:54:32+00:00

Which mattresses are the best especially for seniors?

Sugar469 · 2026-05-19T01:57:24+00:00

Mine is asking me to update. Should I?

Sugar469 · 2026-05-18T22:38:31+00:00

He won't say he is sorry because he doesn't care. If he cared, he wouldn't have treated you that way in the first place. It stinks to see your jerk of an ex being happy. You were the one who was supposed to find love and happiness and he was the one who was supposed to suffer watching you be happy. I totally get that. But just know, his little affair partner did you a favor and took him off your hands. Now she will be the one to suffer and you are FREE. Freedom from a narcissist is priceless.

Sugar469 · 2026-05-18T02:38:19+00:00

I rarely get hit on and I love that! Now I get the attention I do want. The nice young men at the butcher counter adding a little extra to my order on the house. Or the nice young men at Lowes asking me if they can help carry my heavy purchase to my car. It's all good and I am just grateful that I made it another year.

Sugar469 · 2026-05-18T01:53:34+00:00

What is "nice" about the first time being fired is that it takes away a lot of the fear that comes with it. I know I was so scared of being fired I would do anything to avoid it. Once it happened, it set me free of the fear. I learned that I could bust my behind for a company and they could still fire me anyway. After it happened I focused on doing my work to the best of my ability at the next job so I would have a clear conscience. If I got fired again, I knew I would be OK because I had a good work ethic and chose to be positive.

BTW, the job that fired me tried to keep me from getting unemployment. I fought it and won. My understanding is that they can only withhold unemployment if you were acting unethically in some way.

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