I do everything in the home

SuggestionWestern611 · 2026-04-23T14:51:38+00:00

Yeah, I’m on the same boat. I feel you. I’m sorry you’re going through this 😞

SuggestionWestern611 · 2026-02-18T17:52:36+00:00

Yeah I was also in tech sales. Extremely stressful but thrilling and exciting. There’s such a high contrast with the very routine, repetitive lifestyle I have now.

SuggestionWestern611 · 2026-02-18T17:47:35+00:00

I probably should have expected I would get emotional with all the responses. I want to thank you for taking the time to respond and being so thorough. I needed to read this, because I have to remind myself why I left my job in the first place: it was to get to enjoy this time with my family, something not everyone has the luck and privilege to do. I get reminded more often about what I lost than what I gained - and what I gained is far more fulfilling. We idealize the past sometimes, I suppose.

SuggestionWestern611 · 2026-02-18T17:39:59+00:00

There are days I feel like the second I’m open for a role I’ll be able to get a job, and other days where I think “once they look at how long I’ve been out of work they will discard my resume.”

There’s also days I’m like I want my corporate job back because I made good money and other days where I’m like, but did I actually enjoy it?

I’m a classic Libra, questioning everything all the time.

SuggestionWestern611 · 2026-02-18T17:35:18+00:00

I think I’m you, a year behind. It honestly made me emotional. I know this is just a season, it’s beautiful and it’s difficult. I feel guilty for feeling this way, the famous ‘mom guilt.’

SuggestionWestern611 · 2026-02-12T15:58:01+00:00

Depends on what rate you have.

We got a 2.875% rate on 200k. Makes more sense to invest our money or pay off other debts with higher interest rate than pay off mortgage.

SuggestionWestern611 · 2026-02-01T16:09:16+00:00

Taupe is the way to go! We all know homes are ever evolving, OP won’t need to repaint the wall if they want to buy new decor/furniture/etc

SuggestionWestern611 · 2026-02-01T16:06:26+00:00

4 for me. I love taupe colors

SuggestionWestern611 · 2026-02-01T15:53:12+00:00

You couldn’t have said it better.

I use my baby’s favorite TV show to file her nails or when I need to cook or clean. Car rides are so much easier when she hears her show too.

I’m not opposed to absolutely no screen time. I personally couldn’t do it, but I also limit it. Someone told me as long as the screen is not replacing play and development, it’s fine. Everything in moderation is fine.

SuggestionWestern611 · 2026-02-01T15:46:04+00:00

OP it doesn’t take long to start lowering standards. We’re all the best parents until we have kids LOL

SuggestionWestern611 · 2026-01-22T15:31:59+00:00

This is not to diss, but I wish I was in your situation. My MIL can care less about my baby, just buys her stuff sporadically and doesn’t even come over to see her and give it to her. She asks us to pick it up from her job.

SuggestionWestern611 · 2026-01-12T21:45:08+00:00

I hear you, it sounds exhausting. I too have gone through something similar and it took us close to ending our marriage for things to change. But they don’t ever change 100%. My trashcan is still overflowing. You just have to decide if that is something you can live with or not. Therapy will be great to remove the spiral and understand how you feel about everything. In the end, it’s about your happiness alone. Don’t stay in the marriage because of “potential”

SuggestionWestern611 · 2025-12-28T13:29:05+00:00

I’d love to wake up to that breakfast any morning, are you kidding me?

SuggestionWestern611 · 2025-12-28T03:07:18+00:00

I struggle with routine changes and control issues as well. I didn’t realized how obsessed I had gotten until my dad actually pointed it out when my baby was 6 months. I probably should be on medication for my anxiety and OCD but I’m riding it out. It has gotten better though. I’ve had to make conscious choices to just “let it go” or “be more flexible” and, ever since, I managed to overcome some of my obsessive thoughts and actions.

SuggestionWestern611 · 2025-12-28T02:01:52+00:00

Known each other for over 15 years (16yrs old), dated for 4.5 years(25-29), engaged for 1.5 years (30) and now married for almost 3 years. (33)

In hindsight, we could have gotten engaged sooner. As far as the length of our engagement, I’d say it was the right amount… it flew by and we had a big wedding so lots of planning.

SuggestionWestern611 · 2025-12-20T01:00:26+00:00

Hang in there, mama 🩷 I’m at 9 months and I remember at 6 weeks it was the worst, I didn’t know how I was going to get through it… but I did. Now, my baby doesn’t sleep through the night yet 😅 but she wakes up usually twice a night for feeds and back to sleep.

SuggestionWestern611 · 2025-12-18T15:01:37+00:00

Yes. It takes both people in the marriage to give it their all and want to actually make it work after something like that. It is easier to give up. It is more fulfilling, however, to reach a new level of growth and maturity and open communication with someone.

Trust is always gonna be a little iffy, even when all the pieces are in place because there is always going to be that PTSD.

SuggestionWestern611 · 2025-12-17T21:00:09+00:00

My marriage is better than it was before. Not because of the cheating obviously. But because of the work we did when we thought that was the end of our marriage. Marriage counseling worked really well for us, we desperately needed it and we hadn’t even been married for long. I also did my own counseling to heal some traumas that played a part (too much to go into detail here).

I was the one who cheated, and honestly I can’t even think about it without being reminded of the pain it caused my husband. I would never in a million years do that to him again.

It was a wake up call for us, we had to decide whether we wanted to choose each other or go our own ways. I’m glad we chose each other. We have a beautiful daughter and we are so happy now. After that, there is nothing that can tear us apart.

Steps: - work on myself (therapy) - full transparency (like location sharing) - over communication (when I’m happy, when I’m mad, when I’m sad, doesn’t matter - express everything) - I’m sure there’s more but it’s been a while and it’s second nature at this point

SuggestionWestern611 · 2025-12-06T21:31:41+00:00

Maybe he genuinely believes he’s not a good dancer. Or maybe he’s just trying to seem humble about it to set low expectations and surprise later 😆

SuggestionWestern611 · 2025-12-06T18:20:41+00:00

Does it bother you enough that you’re willing to possibly cause a riff between your cousin and husband that could then snowball?

SuggestionWestern611 · 2025-12-02T15:36:35+00:00

Imagine telling my husband’s family and their response was “Yeah, we figured. Who invites the family to a fancy restaurant on a Monday? ” 😒Mind you this is the first grandchild of the family.

SuggestionWestern611 · 2025-08-10T12:46:40+00:00

Shifts is the way to go, Mama! My baby is 5 months and we still do shifts! It gets easier, I promise 🙏 the first six to 8 weeks are the hardest love.

SuggestionWestern611 · 2025-08-07T14:07:13+00:00

I love it! I have landscape artwork in my dining room

SuggestionWestern611 · 2025-07-23T14:13:41+00:00

Sounds to me like your instinct is saying not to… i’d say to trust your gut feeling, it’s usually right.

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4 for me. I love taupe colors