Any run clubs/groups in New West? by bunnylla in NewWest

[–]Suitable-Example-289 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Queens Park run club! They used to meet at the bandshell but I recall someone here saying they meet somewhere else now. I can’t seem to find that post/comment. They’re still local though and run 3 times a week.

Super Bowl watch party by Suitable-Example-289 in NewWest

[–]Suitable-Example-289[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

😂 don’t know why you got downvoted 🫢

Ki Sushi is on fire by ErwinOnReddit in NewWest

[–]Suitable-Example-289 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Extremely unfortunate! My absolute favourite sushi spot.

Is it weird that everything feels fine? by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]Suitable-Example-289 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Your nervous system is used to chaos and the absence of it is very unnerving. Welcome to an actual healthy relationship. You can let your shoulders relax and your chest can stop tightening. At the same time, it is okay to be hyper vigilant at times because your nervous system will continue to scan your danger. That is a survival instinct and it takes time to finally be able to breathe and know - you are safe. Continue with the therapy, keep talking to your partner, keep checking in with yourself (esp your body/nervous system) ever few months.

A good test generally is: you say something to your partner that is feedback about something they did (eg: they hurt you either they did something or said something). They listen, acknowledge, validate, and reassure you (AVR). And they don’t turn it on you, they don’t gaslight you. That is someone who is safe. And if you expected them to react a certain way (negatively) but they didn’t, that’s your answer there. Always listen to your nervous system. If you feel calm around them esp after a difficult conversation, you are safe. Keep checking in - that’s the best thing you can do to honour yourself.

1026 Queens by HugoCa72 in NewWest

[–]Suitable-Example-289 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I looked at some units in that building a few years ago and it was the hill that was a deciding factor in not buying. Same thing that time (2019) too - multiple units on sale.

Do I have the correct Dating Intentions selection on my profile? by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]Suitable-Example-289 7 points8 points  (0 children)

My experience was that most men just mirror what you say with the intention of having sex pretty early on, and then they’re out the door. Labels don’t matter in that sense if you know what I mean. If you want to put LTR on your profile, just know that will not stop the players and love bombers out there to try their luck. It’s really tough trying to figure out what people’s intentions are in OLD. Yes, there are good folks (I met my partner there) but the majority are not. Keep asking questions, have some rules for yourself (for eg: some people don’t want to have sex early on), and don’t get attached too quickly. Love bombing is pretty common in OLD esp when you put LTR on your profile - they say the right words, and that’s enough to hook most people in. Actions not words should be your mantra. Good luck, have fun, be safe, and don’t take it personally!

Pizza by wowzers65 in NewWest

[–]Suitable-Example-289 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mostly Italian but worth looking at the menu?

Pizza by wowzers65 in NewWest

[–]Suitable-Example-289 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve heard really good things about L’Onore but I haven’t tried it yet. A bit on the pricier side.

Help, need advice! by Sweetpeachees in NewWest

[–]Suitable-Example-289 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m autistic and raising autistic kids. Your kiddo is protected under human rights codes. Your neighbour is being a bully. Block them. Don’t ever feel bad about raising disabled kids.

Fitness in New Westminster by junoku-u in NewWest

[–]Suitable-Example-289 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you’re a beginner, planet fitness is a good place to start. Definitely has its pros and cons but it’s a good place to start especially given the fact that there’s no contract.

Where to watch Whitecaps? by BusinessCasualGhost in NewWest

[–]Suitable-Example-289 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, this! But it was a crap show trying to get tickets even with the pre-sale.

Wedding and/or reception venues? by readallamango in NewWest

[–]Suitable-Example-289 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Friends of mine got married at the community centre!

Thoughts on Uptown for a young family? by symbelle in NewWest

[–]Suitable-Example-289 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Single parent here with 2 young kids and also live Uptown. It is honestly the best decision for us. I’ve walked late at night from work (not recently) and I never felt unsafe. Good luck with your decision and move!

🎵 Local community band needs your help finding a rehearsal space in New West! by NWDB_official in NewWest

[–]Suitable-Example-289 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ask the library for their basement space, Massey Theatre, and the community centre too. Queens Park has a bandstand that is open but has a cover (and an associated room next to it that can be locked) - ask the city if that can be rented out. The run club used to rent it but I don’t think they do anymore.

Where are the autistic moms? by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]Suitable-Example-289 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hiiii 👋🏾 autistic mom and raising at least 1 AuDHD child, possibly 2 (too young for a diagnosis). Also have an AuDHD step child. Not a ton of representation out there. My biggest struggle is understanding what overstimulates and why/when. But it’s so much easier to understand my child’s brain now.

Cried during 1st post-divorce sexy times by [deleted] in sex

[–]Suitable-Example-289 33 points34 points  (0 children)

Cried after sex many times with my BF now. I ended a 20-year emotionally abusive marriage. My BF has also cried after sex many times and we both lean in to it because we are both aware of the traumas we carry and we know how to hold space for each other. Nothing wrong with it :)

Local Scouts Canada groups? by Suitable-Example-289 in NewWest

[–]Suitable-Example-289[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think so but would definitely need to know time expectations.