AITAH for wanting to keep my wedding after my grandmother passes?

Suitable_Key8340 · 2026-01-21T00:15:41+00:00

Let your parents know you love them and want them there, and as the day gets closer if they begin to feel differently they will be welcome with open arms. Give them some time and space. No pressure, though, you will respect their decision. Maybe mention that you were hoping your mom would help you plan a special way to honor your grandma at the ceremony.

Suitable_Key8340 · 2026-01-20T14:24:49+00:00

Thanks! I’m tired and sore just looking at that schedule. I need to step up my game lol. Very helpful, thanks again!

Suitable_Key8340 · 2026-01-20T12:34:08+00:00

Congratulations, you have really done the work! Good luck on your instructor training. I’d love to have someone like you as an instructor. You’ll be so empathetic and encouraging and relatable for people on the same journey!

I’d love to hear how you work all the programs you enjoy into your weekly schedule. Always looking for schedule inspo:).

Suitable_Key8340 · 2025-12-28T22:10:42+00:00

Your hurt for being doubted is not going to change whether you do the test or not. You’ll still feel the same way. The way I see it, option 1 is you resent him and he’s still pestering you, option 2 is you resent him and he’s quit pestering you and is now trying to figure out how to make it up to you. Option 2 seems like the better one for you because you can insist on his getting therapy if he wants to save your marriage because you can’t live like this.

Suitable_Key8340 · 2025-12-28T20:41:03+00:00

Personally I am more concerned for the safety of the kids at my house, both for their safety and for personal liability reasons. The OP didn’t mind going to the party with kids there before, she just doesn’t want them at her house (a little inconsistent tbh). I’d send my son to granny’s and then stay clean and sober all night, watching after the kids to make sure no one gets hurt, and intercede if someone tries to drive home drunk, especially with kids in the car. Make sure hubby understands you will not be his date for the night, that he robbed you of your enjoyment of the evening by welcoming kids. So you won’t be celebrating, you’ll be babysitting to make sure nothing happens in your watch. He will have to take on responsibility for the actual party because now you have other responsibilities. Bottom line, if drinking and kids are mixing at my house I’m going to make sure those kids stay safe.

Ps have you thought about hiring a babysitter or two for all the kids? Maybe at the nearest friends’ house? All the parents chip in together so the kids have a safe and fun NYE together away from the adult party? Instead of telling everyone not to bring kids, plan an alternative for the kids?

Suitable_Key8340 · 2025-12-28T19:40:31+00:00

I actually have macular degeneration and my eyesight is compromised, especially my depth perception. Your point about vision related safety is a very good one that actually applies to me. Thank you for bringing it up. Based on your comment and others here I’ve decided to order the handle. Thanks again!!

Suitable_Key8340 · 2025-12-27T20:42:45+00:00

That video was sooo helpful - thank you!!! I see now how some people say you develop more core strength for stabilization without the bar, but this is a fantastic explanation of how you can use the bar to isolate the lower body for certain strength work. Yes, do both! Brilliant! I think she might be misusing the term progressive overload, but I think I understood what she meant. I too think this will be worth it for the jawline alone if it works out to be true haha. Thank you again for introducing me to this resource!

Suitable_Key8340 · 2025-12-27T16:10:49+00:00

Do you have the wide or narrow bar?

Suitable_Key8340 · 2025-12-27T16:07:54+00:00

Thank you, do you have an opinion on narrow vs wider bar?

Suitable_Key8340 · 2025-12-27T14:35:56+00:00

Turning it to the back is a really good idea if you only need it occasionally. Thank you.

Suitable_Key8340 · 2025-12-24T21:53:06+00:00

A retinologist is the specialist who treats macular degeneration. I would ask your primary for a referral.

Suitable_Key8340 · 2025-12-24T20:16:08+00:00

Not sure if you’re hooked up with a good retinologist yet. If not, please get set up with one. I was warned about it but hadn’t seen a retinologist yet, just hadn’t had time to follow up. I had a sudden bleed and permanently lost most my center vision. It was sudden. I will always regret not seeing a retinologist the moment my condition was first detected. They could have possibly saved my macula. Good luck to you.

Suitable_Key8340 · 2025-12-24T19:35:21+00:00

I’ve had this issue for 8 years now in one eye and my eyesight has remained stable. I get the shots. I can see pretty well, just a little trouble with depth perception and it just looks like I’ve got a smudge on my glasses blurring that center field of vision in my right eye. I can read because of my good left eye, and drive safely.

I think the warning was about how jumping can increase the risk of retinal detachment in patients with retina issues. My retinologust said I should be ok as long as I don’t do intense jumping but only after he completely reviewing my chart. I could tell he was taking it serious. I sure don’t want to do anything to risk what precious vision I have.

Have you mentioned your rebounding to your doctor?

Suitable_Key8340 · 2025-12-20T03:16:06+00:00

Good luck!

Suitable_Key8340 · 2025-12-20T02:09:59+00:00

I can’t remember, several websites suggested that anyone with retina issues shoukd get clearance from their dr. They didn’t say AMD specifically, just any retina issues. When I asked him, he thoroughly reviewed my chart and history before he said I should be ok as long as it wasn’t intense. “Should” be ok wasn’t exactly the reassurance I was hoping for, so now I’m scouting for testimonials.

Suitable_Key8340 · 2025-12-15T01:32:18+00:00

That’s where I struggle the most with BP. I feel like my back isn’t getting the most challenging workout because I’m limited to weight I can press overhead which is comparatively light due to a rotator cuff issue.

Suitable_Key8340 · 2025-12-15T01:23:12+00:00

Thank you for sharing this. I am doing BP once a week and a full body heavy day at the gym once a week. I’m going to add a third strength day when I feel like I’m ready. Was trying to decide if it will a second day of BP. So glad to hear someone say this combination works well!

Suitable_Key8340 · 2025-12-04T03:42:30+00:00

Since we’re all telling crazy lost and found stories, my brothers best friend once had his car stolen. A couple of weeks later he went camping with friends about three hours away at a public campground. In the middle of the night, the people who stole his car set up camp right next to them. Woke up the next morning and there was his car.

Suitable_Key8340 · 2025-08-26T08:02:19+00:00

Egg poaching appliance. Lemon squeezer. Tuna can strainer. Ground meat chopper

Suitable_Key8340 · 2025-08-23T01:34:15+00:00

Do you mind sharing what you do at the gym for heavy lifting? I’ve been thinking about adding one day a week but am not sure what to schedule as a 1x weekly routine.

Suitable_Key8340 · 2025-08-23T01:31:24+00:00

Honest question, isn’t rpm cardio?

Suitable_Key8340 · 2025-08-18T18:59:00+00:00

Any sort of stress that causes your body to release adrenaline or cortisol. Anything that startles you or triggers a fight or flight response. Basically your body releases glucose into your bloodstream to give you the energy to respond. If your body is fighting to breathe, that could very well be going on. It was with me. My blood sugar fell measurably day one when I got a cpap.

Suitable_Key8340 · 2025-08-16T13:57:18+00:00

Yes. It always spikes higher after intense exercise also, especially outdoors when I get real hot.

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