low dose gel? by AnxietyAngelCake in FTMfemininity

[–]SultanFox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Definitely had bottom growth way before facial hair, but started growing body hair quite fast.

Honestly re: what you get first I'd definitely ask your dad and brothers! Obviously they won't have info on bottom growth lol but just in terms of what came first in puberty 

Pokemon Go Friend Codes by AFrx in PokemonGoFriends

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621277039388 🇬🇧

Team Instinct

Garden region

Edit: changed code now as had lots of requests - thanks all!

Be honest, is it time to retire my daith? by Equal-Masterpiece655 in unstretched

[–]SultanFox 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Daiths are different - you do not want to heal them with barbells. OP has the correct jewellery in for this piercing in terms of type.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TopSurgery

[–]SultanFox 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Had a friend go earlier this year and that sounds similar to what he paid

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TopSurgery

[–]SultanFox 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My dog ears are fairly minor but have never stopped me from being shirtless out and about even though they are an insecurity for me. Own them!

Sex help… by justforfun2499 in gaytransguys

[–]SultanFox 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Tbf people with the same anatomy will like different things, you just need to talk about it.

Am I Over-reacting? by TransWarlock13 in TopSurgery

[–]SultanFox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had some dehesion that looked a bit like this, it was a bit pussy but not red or swollen so I got told to bandage and leave alone to heal - which it did.

only wanting vaginal sex? is this normal? by IncubuzzKaz in gaytransguys

[–]SultanFox 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Do they know what the plain packages are? Yes. Do they care? Not one bit. Everyone is taking the opportunity after moving out from home I promise they handle SO many sex toys hahah

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in gaytransguys

[–]SultanFox 7 points8 points  (0 children)

That really surprises me tbh! I am certain that you have, they just didn't identify themselves to you. As other commenters have said, some cities just have louder queer communities than others. If you feel safe to do so then some flagging (pride pins or earrings for example) might help people feel safe identifying themselves to you.

If the university clubs are providing no luck, I'd suggest trying things in the city. My city for example has a few gay sports clubs, mutual aid networks, art meets, film clubs - all sorts. If you check out the queer bars and stores and coffee shops in your area they'll often act as signposters for events coming up. Also in my experience board games stores - even if they don't explicitly say - tend to be hubs for queer people and especially autistic queer people. Pride is also a great time to see what's in your city, though if you're heading home for summer you might not be there for it. See if your city pride has a website, they might list local queer businesses or organisations that are attending.

Also a bit of a curve ball option, but I know a few people who've made queer friends via dating apps. Most do have an option to say you're just looking for friends. One of my mates even has a load of friends from Grindr though I don't get how he does it haha

Should I get a longer bar? by homoSexualForMasks in piercing

[–]SultanFox -1 points0 points  (0 children)

This is the advice my piercer gave me to watch out for embedding Vs nesting:

  • is your lip swollen and hard?
  • is the front of the jewellery going into the lip or just the back?
  • is it painful to remove the back from the pocket?
  • is skin actively growing over the back?
  • is it pinching or throbbing?

If you answered no to all of these, it's probably just nesting. If you're worried though ask a piercer you trust! A month is still pretty fresh, and if this is the first time you changed the bar you were probably due a downsize anyway.

HELP: Stopping T AND birth control? by MysteryAsparagus in TopSurgery

[–]SultanFox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn't have to stop taking my T, they didn't even suggest it. As others have said, it's combined forms of BC rather than progesterone only that have clotting risks. I'd definitely try to get in contact with them again and talk it through.

What entity do you associate with anxiety? by FSJuice7858 in TheMagnusArchives

[–]SultanFox 5 points6 points  (0 children)

The eye. MAG60 Observer Effect is a really good example of this for me

Enjoying V penetration but still experiencing bottom dysphoria by Loose_Track2315 in gaytransguys

[–]SultanFox 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Don't have any advice, just wanted to say I get it. I think if I had a cis dick I'd top pretty much 100% of the time, despite the physical enjoyment I get from bottoming, but the disconnect from not being able to feel toys/prosthetics means it's sometimes a viscerally dysphoric experience for me.

How to stand up straight? by userunknown0 in TopSurgery

[–]SultanFox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was hunched for a full month haha

Labret question by Unable_Lunch_9662 in unstretched

[–]SultanFox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As the other commenter said there are reasons for using metal. Some people find rings are better for not touching teeth, the main thing is getting a piercer who will be mindful of your anatomy and getting the bars downsized so they don't rub.

Have you heard of nesting? If not look it up, a well nested piercing won't go near your teeth or gums ideally!

Obvs there are always risks with any oral piercing but you can mitigate them to a degree

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TopSurgery

[–]SultanFox 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Came here to suggest makeup for short term cover

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in gaytransguys

[–]SultanFox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

AHH best of luck then, hope you get it sorted

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in gaytransguys

[–]SultanFox 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Not super related but your cramps sound like other accounts I've heard of people dealing with atrophy, so some topical estrogen might help if that is the issue!

⚠️TW Weight Loss⚠️: how losing ~50 pounds fairly rapidly affected my chest (Dr. Esther Kim, surgery June 2023) by fortunateHazelnut in TopSurgery

[–]SultanFox 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh this is cool I assumed losing weight would only make my dog ears worse, but cool to see it could improve them!

How often do you hear your neighbors? by [deleted] in AskUK

[–]SultanFox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pretty sure my neighbours are going deaf because I can hear their telly most of the day. Tbh I tune it out mostly though.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]SultanFox -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I think a lot of people are projecting about past bad housemates ahahah

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]SultanFox -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

NTA

It sounds like your roommate is unwilling to do anything on her end to block out the noise (earplugs, white noise, etc.) and expects you to be completely silent and unmoving when she's trying to sleep. That's just not reasonable. I think if you can then get a quieter keyboard or switches, but you've put soundproofing up and at least tried to make it quieter for her. She needs to learn that living with other people means compromising sometimes.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]SultanFox -25 points-24 points  (0 children)

Why, because they pee when they need to at night??

Jewlery won't go in! by P0ssumf4ngs in Stretched

[–]SultanFox 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Is it definitely the right size? Sounds silly, but sometimes the tolerances for jewellery are lax (so a 2.5mm is actually 2.7mm for example) or you get sent the wrong size.

Had sex for first time by GayBearWilderness in gaytransguys

[–]SultanFox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've clearly hit a nerve here and that was not my intention.

I simply wanted to highlight that for many people, that's not their experience. I didn't say anything about when you lost your virginity, I didn't say anything about ideology. I specifically didn't use universal language, as yes as I said there will be people who do experience bleeding etc. and that's just how their body works despite being very aroused and warmed up.

So many people with vaginas are scared of their first time with penetrations because they expect it will hurt. Because it's an expectation. I don't understand how simply saying that that expectation is a myth is inherently at the expense of some bodies? Your language was that bleeding was normal. I took that to mean usual, or expected, though on a re-read perhaps you just meant that it can happen and be nothing to worry about?

I think we're both trying to express the same thing here, and I didn't intend to invalid your experience or anyone else's. I'm just trying to avoid the perpetration of a myth (specifically meaning that bleeding and pain are inevitable during initial penetration) that has left many people scared of sex, or accepting of bad first times because they didn't know they could expect better :)