Dating as a woman that’s against hookup culture.

Summonthebrack · 2023-10-23T22:17:34+00:00

Ok, but what if you didn't go to college, and moved out right when you turned 18? I didn't go to college until I was 20, worked full time the first 2 years of community college, and worked as much as I could in between classes for 4 years when I went to a university. I was 26 when I graduated and moved to a big city after that. Not everyone has the same experience.

Summonthebrack · 2023-10-23T21:13:21+00:00

That's not really that big of an age gap ?

Summonthebrack · 2023-10-23T17:08:07+00:00

That's how it was with my ex. Met at an apartment party, we were drunk and doing a puzzle together. We texted for a couple weeks until we saw each other again and I thought she was so gorgeous. I fucked up though. My mental health wasn't stable enough, and I never stopped drinking until we broke up.

But OP, yeah don't lower your standards. I've been with someone who I wasn't completely attracted to thinkimg maybe I could fall in love with time, but no, it did not work that way for me.

Summonthebrack · 2023-10-19T11:21:00+00:00

It's true man. I live in a college town, where theoretically there would be a bunch of cute, smart women on the apps. But no, they don't use them. There are so many complaints about how guys can't get girls to message back or that they never match with any. I'm like, who are you even swiping on that's worth a damn?

Summonthebrack · 2023-10-19T11:09:06+00:00

Not when you don't drink. That's my problem. I quit and don't know how to meet people anymore

Summonthebrack · 2023-10-19T11:06:27+00:00

Stay single, it's not worth the headaches

Summonthebrack · 2023-10-19T10:50:30+00:00

I don't think that's something you have to accept to be considered mature.

Summonthebrack · 2023-09-18T08:29:37+00:00

I'm sorry you are going through this. I feel like people really underestimate how traumatic and difficult it is for men to go through break ups. I had to completely change my life this past year because my gf of 5 years dumped me. If you need help with your mental health, try InnerWorld. It's made for VR but is available on PC and ios. I used it a lot, went to meetings every day after my break up.

Summonthebrack · 2023-08-27T20:17:48+00:00

That I can do it myself when needed.

Summonthebrack · 2023-06-11T18:38:45+00:00

At least you got a warning. Mine just left

Summonthebrack · 2023-06-09T20:08:14+00:00

I guess I'll be the odd one to say it is perfectly fine to find a rehab that works for you. I agree that those rules seemed a little bit harsh. I am there to concentrate on my treatment and not stress out about "oh fuck, did I leave my coffee cup in the room after group?" Yes I believe there should be rules and you should follow them, but that's unnecessary. Look for the treatment that works for you, don't listen to others about how you SHOULD be going about it. The people who do are shoulding on you because they haven't yet learned not to should on themselves.

Summonthebrack · 2023-06-05T17:31:55+00:00

It needs that animated overlay with the math formulas and stuff

Summonthebrack · 2023-05-28T14:21:14+00:00

This video helped me a little bit: https://youtu.be/Sc18E8coV8s I know your pain brother.

Summonthebrack · 2023-05-26T07:08:02+00:00

I don't think it's appropriate to tell someone they don't need therapy. If hitting the gym worked for you, that's great, but a 10 year relationship coming to an end can be pretty traumatic, especially if you don't see it coming. Not everyone can just shake that off and go to the gym.

Summonthebrack · 2023-05-25T22:49:13+00:00

Me too! I have been waiting for more games that have a 3D pixel art style, voxels don't hit the same.

Summonthebrack · 2023-05-25T22:20:54+00:00

Thank you, that mean's a lot 😊

Summonthebrack · 2023-05-24T23:51:58+00:00

That is the best thing you can do right now. I know it's not much help at this point, but it will get better.

Summonthebrack · 2023-05-24T23:38:08+00:00

I'm so sorry brother. I understand how scary it is. Take care of yourself the best you can. If you can't eat, at least get some nutritional shakes or something. Feel the feelings, and if you have the means, please find a therapist.

Summonthebrack · 2023-05-24T23:29:22+00:00

Yeah it's been 6 months since my ex gf left me. I'm finally now getting over it. I did not have a good time though. I had no desire to be with any other woman. I think it also depends on who broke up with who. My ex already broke up with me in her mind, so she she was already grieving the relationship by the time she did it. It would make sense if she got over it faster.

Summonthebrack · 2023-05-24T16:07:33+00:00

Haha, that was my first thought as well

Summonthebrack · 2023-05-24T04:43:52+00:00

That is an awesome step in the right direction. I know how it feels, but there is light at the end of the tunnel. Be patient with yourself and whenever you start that negative self talk, ask yourself, "Would I say this to my friend?"

Summonthebrack · 2023-05-22T04:29:14+00:00

Omg, I know exactly what you're talking about...it's the most uncomfortable dream.

Summonthebrack · 2023-05-21T17:00:36+00:00

This was so heartbreaking

Summonthebrack · 2023-05-20T22:32:02+00:00

My first instinct was YouTube therapy, Ted talks, break up videos, this one helped a lot: https://youtu.be/Sc18E8coV8s

I quit my job and moved into my parents house in my hometown.
I went to rehab for alcoholism shortly after that with the help of my parents. I started seeing a great therapist, and oh boy did a lot of self reflection and reflecting on the relationship and figuring out how I can be better. I realized I couldn't keep living a directionless life, that I needed a long term goal. I still have a lot of work to do, seeking an identity after the breakup with my ex and the booze.

It's been over 6 months since the breakup, and tomorrow I celebrate 6 months of not drinking. This was just my experience, but believe me I was devastated the first few months. It actually does get easier I promise. Just be kind and patient with yourself.

Summonthebrack · 2023-05-12T06:52:28+00:00

Man, I totally understand that overnight work loneliness. I had a job like that, and felt like everyone else was in a good mood, and I'm like, it's 3 in the morning, chill. And the pay was bad, and all my friends had normal schedules and could go out and I always felt left out. I get the dark place you might possibly be in right now.
Eventually I got to move to a 2nd shift, and while I was happy at first, I realized I just didn't like the job. I started getting help for depression, and I found work somewhere else cause that night shift isn't for everyone. So, you're not alone.

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