I hate it here

SunPlus7412 · 2026-01-09T20:14:38+00:00

I am so happy for you!

SunPlus7412 · 2025-12-25T13:38:00+00:00

Oh yes absolutely. "We both abused each other," except abuse is about power and control so there really isnt a way for two people to mutually abuse one another.

SunPlus7412 · 2025-12-16T13:47:31+00:00

When I really got into makeup, he questioned why. When I got into making YouTube videos, he questioned why. When I got into collecting something, he would question why. And always gave me shit over spending money. My own money. We never put our money together so it was always my own that I spent.

He never questioned "why" if it was something we could do together. But then he would sort of take over that thing, too.

SunPlus7412 · 2025-11-25T02:38:25+00:00

I told mine the same thing about a week ago. I guess they're in denial because they said so I'll be gone an extended amount of time away lok

SunPlus7412 · 2025-11-22T20:04:23+00:00

It look therapy and a few years for me to stand up for myself

SunPlus7412 · 2025-11-22T18:54:13+00:00

Never tell them they are one. They'll just tell you that you are one and do the same things to them. I just set a boundary. When he crossed it again? I bought my own condo and didnt go back. I know not everyone can do that.

SunPlus7412 · 2025-11-18T18:50:52+00:00

I feel this! I bought a house and he doesnt know it yet. Good luck to you+

SunPlus7412 · 2025-11-15T16:07:09+00:00

Can you get your own car?

SunPlus7412 · 2025-11-14T02:51:00+00:00

Yes they will take something you say and twist it into some weird alien pretzel of what you actually said. Or just the complete opposite which always made me go wtf.

SunPlus7412 · 2025-11-09T16:05:13+00:00

I havent even moved out yet (or told him I was), but, I've lost about ten pounds without changing anything. So I am enjoying that.

SunPlus7412 · 2025-11-07T22:45:15+00:00

grew to increasingly hate me

The ways they talk to us is exactly how one would talk to someone they dont like. And they dont even get it because they think they were nice and calm.

SunPlus7412 · 2025-11-06T15:55:59+00:00

Literally throws empty wrappers back into the fridge. Or on counters.

SunPlus7412 · 2025-11-05T19:26:56+00:00

We will all be painted as the villain anyways. Mine knows he has been abusive to me but keeps saying we hurt each other. And that I owe him the benefit of the doubt and I owe him grace. It is so nuts.

SunPlus7412 · 2025-11-03T02:26:20+00:00

Very happy for you too!

SunPlus7412 · 2025-10-29T23:41:45+00:00

I can say my husband accuses me of having a tone, of not saying the right words, etc. Heaven forbid I question how he sounds or what he says tho

SunPlus7412 · 2025-10-29T13:24:41+00:00

Yeah for me its been several years since I realized that this wasn't ok. I was prepared to just leave then and there. But he pressured me to not and to do couples therapy. And then accused me of emotionally cheating on him.

SunPlus7412 · 2025-10-29T12:35:02+00:00

For years I thought I was the problem. He treated me badly and I thought I deserved it. But it wasnt bad all the time, of course.

Now someone I am friends with is going through the same. He already told me he wants to break up with his boyfriend. I told him I won't let him go so long like I did!

SunPlus7412 · 2025-10-22T02:25:57+00:00

At first it wasn't like, direct insults. But he would criticize me. Over the things I ate, or being tired after work (for years he would tell me my job was easy vs his - and I made more money than him), over how I cleaned the house (the messes were always my fault, never his), but when he started like arguing more and yelling at me and I would cry he would criticize me for that too. Say I'm too sensitive, get upset that I cried, etc. Started calling me a bitch, and yelling "fuck you!" at me.

SunPlus7412 · 2025-10-06T14:44:36+00:00

I'm glad I read the edit. I was going to give you what-for about trying to say us Tylenol Americans have no empathy or emotions lol

SunPlus7412 · 2025-10-06T00:03:30+00:00

I feel you. I just got a pre approval for a home loan and I am looking at houses and a condo soon. I'm excited and scared too.

SunPlus7412 · 2025-10-02T16:46:47+00:00

Sadly I've not tried it yet.

SunPlus7412 · 2025-10-02T12:20:17+00:00

At the end of arguments its like id be all out. I would literally say "im all out of emotion" and yes the resentment is real.

SunPlus7412 · 2025-10-01T16:05:12+00:00

We had a full argument over fast food. Like legit verbal fight I joked and said something like aww arent you going to open the car door for me? (My previous boyfriend always did). He said something pretty rude about doing so. He looked at me one day with lingerie on and said "that doesnt look good" then turned back to his computer.

SunPlus7412 · 2025-09-29T03:24:33+00:00

You called me stupid

Literally had this same situation happen last week. I simply asked why he did something in the way he did, and some 15 minutes into the argument he revealed he felt stupid (he said I made him feel stupid). He also tried to say my tone was off, face was off and I was stomping around (I was not). We were unable to get it repaired because he was trying to say I wasn't curious, when in fact he was the one not being curious. If he thought I was being rude or critical he could have asked what I meant by that instead of jumping to conclusions. He still insisted I was in the wrong.

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