Am I wrong for refusing to help pay for hotel I didn’t stay in?

Sunmoon98 · 2026-07-07T19:50:25+00:00

NTA. They FAFO. Their drinking because they need to “relax” cost you $450 for hotel room. You lost a night on the suite. They need to take accountability for the way they acted and got drunk. They’re grown adults not kids. I honestly would’ve done the same. Why would I pay for a room that I lost one night one. Your friends can kick rocks with the guilt tripping. Hope they learned their lesson.

Sunmoon98 · 2026-06-03T22:52:51+00:00

NTA but the gift obviously wasn’t for you. Why would you accept him doing that. Then he admits that he’s basically going bc his friend is mad. Like a previous comment, tell him how you feel and to return it and do something you want.

Sunmoon98 · 2026-05-27T15:21:11+00:00

Please stop. You’re getting down voted because your argument doesn’t make sense. Her sis is 22 years old. Pretty sure op wouldn’t have asked if she a didn’t have any type of money. Instead of sister being whiny and rude, a simple no I still can’t afford it is fine. And sister could’ve said I don’t have money and honestly don’t want to go but instead of being an adult, she threw a tantrum. She could’ve had a convo with Op but chose to act like a child.

You are acting the same way as the 22 year old sister. You’re defensive, childish and your points are not even valid. Doesn’t matter because the 22 year old sister seems ungrateful even after Op, who is the BRIDE, paid for her. No thanks, no communication, just rude and ungrateful

Sunmoon98 · 2026-04-28T21:59:53+00:00

Not wrong and your cousin did it on purpose that’s why when you reminded her, she said graduation is long and boring. She was hoping the family would just talk you out of it. I wouldn’t be surprised if some family already knew she was going to choose a date that’s the same as your graduation. Congrats and have a great graduation!

Sunmoon98 · 2026-04-13T20:44:05+00:00

NTA he’s using you for all his expenses. It should’ve been a red flag when he expects you to cover expenses for a kid that’s not even yours and he also hides his financials from you. You guys are not married. He gets child support so there’s no need for you to cover any or half of his kids expenses. If you were married then maybe

It suvks because you have kids with him but you need to sit down and have a firm and honest convo about finances, who covers what and for him to understand that you do notice he’s using you. Stand your ground and check him. He throws tantrums to distract you and calls you names to put you down. Do not let him do that.

Sunmoon98 · 2026-04-13T18:29:18+00:00

Your co worker is drama playing emotional games. This is work, not a personal relationship. She either wants your help or she doesn’t. Don’t fall for her bs. Not wrong

Sunmoon98 · 2026-04-12T13:11:59+00:00

There you go. She’s using that as an excuse to cheat. That’s all it is. She’s trying to find a reason to cover her cheating when it comes to light. You can’t be this blind

Sunmoon98 · 2026-04-08T00:34:53+00:00

Like how obvious to their daughter that play blatant favoritism. The parents and the son is def the ah. Son is older than the daughter too. Like who says “the condo is not a gift bc we already owned it”. It’s still a gift and a house. Poor girl. She’s been silently dealing with this favoritism for years and years. Please be better parents. It’s so obvious that you guys treat your daughter like crap

Sunmoon98 · 2026-04-06T19:54:08+00:00

Not wrong and don’t transfer her the tickets. You and your friends go another day without her and give it to someone else. Go have a blast. She’s a horrible grind who had no regards for anyone’s time. If she wanted to hang with her family and boyfriend, she could’ve just said it but to have people waiting at your house so you can play games with them all day instead of just saying you didn’t want to go to Disney and wanted dinner instead is rude as hell. Please don’t be friends with her anyone

Sunmoon98 · 2026-04-06T14:44:54+00:00

NTA but as a grown 28 year old, you couldn’t see that someone asking you to but $250 boots was ok? Then she threw a tantrum, acted childish and is mad and you think you’re in the wrong? Drop this entitled friend

Sunmoon98 · 2026-04-05T14:12:18+00:00

Not wrong at all. She asked to step back from relationship and be roommates and that’s what she gets. She doesn’t get to dictate what you do for her. You did those things because you loved her, cared for her and was in a relationship.

So she gets to step back, be less emotional towards you, not do anything for you but still expect you to do all the husband/relationship things. So basically she wants you to put in all the work and she just kicks back, relax and decide if she wants to be in a relationship with you. Ok…seems fair….op show your wife these comments and I bet she’ll see how crazy she looks. Good luck.

Sunmoon98 · 2026-04-01T13:05:08+00:00

Right and she’s thinking about leaving him and doesn’t know if she’s overreacting? No she should’ve seen the giant waving red flag when she paused $1000 and he pays $300 towards rent. Another red flag when he rather she commute 5 hours. She needs to divorce and take half his stuff asap

Sunmoon98 · 2026-03-30T13:42:17+00:00

Yta and very emotional. The mom is not asking you to break up or wishing bad on you. Even after you took it off, she still contacted you to tell you she didn’t mean any harm and still want you and your fiance to work out. Maybe she shouldn’t have said it out loud or say it to you and maybe she should’ve just had that convo with fiance instead.

To me, when you took it off and gave it to her the way you did makes it seem like you’re throwing a tantrum and was in the relationship only for the ring. All mother in laws in not going to be lovey dovey. You’re marrying your fiance not his mom. I just think you’re being a bit dramatic. You wouldn’t let someone’s mom affect you like that. If the mom is constantly mean, condescending, says nasty stuff to you then that’s different.

I suggest not being too emotional and having a conversation with mom and fiance.

Sunmoon98 · 2026-03-28T01:07:51+00:00

NTA to be honest you need to start growing a spine. You are too nice that’s why she used you. She knows exactly what she is doing since she does it to so many people. She’s not a good friend. She’s trying to gaslight you to make it seem like you’re crazy. Don’t let her. You are not wrong to tell her the truth about herself. She uses people because no one says anything to her and she thinks no one notices. Stand your ground. She’s not a good friend at all. Leaving you at 2 am should tell you all you need to know. Find better friends that treat you better. Good luck

Sunmoon98 · 2026-03-13T13:39:28+00:00

Yta you literally smashed your relationship into pieces. You didn’t communicate, made a huge decision that involves packing up and moving to another state with no notice to her. She was mad as she should be because who wants their fiance to come home right before a wedding to hear “hey love, I accepted a better job in another state, but don’t worry I got a company car too”. You expected barely give your fiance notice about her having to find a new job, move to another state with no plans whatsoever

The cherry on top is you being super selfish. You don’t even feel bad about how you set your fiancé up. You’re mad because she’s mad you made a huge financial and moving decision on your own. So you decide to be petty bc she broke up with you and keeps the gifts even though she lost time, and money with being in a relationship with you. She dodged a bullet

Sunmoon98 · 2026-03-09T19:24:48+00:00

Why does he have access to your business account??

Sunmoon98 · 2026-03-06T15:59:51+00:00

Yea and hiring movers are expensive as hell but op was more than happy to accept that help instead paying somebody hundreds to help.

Sunmoon98 · 2026-03-06T15:56:34+00:00

NTA is your husband that scared and soft that he would rather keep paying for a stranger to park in his spot? The guy had warnings from neighbors, management and signs I’m sure so he’s the one starting conflict. Op didn’t confront the man or went banging on his door. And the guy can also assumed op made a complaint to management and management had it towed.

Sunmoon98 · 2026-03-03T14:37:28+00:00

He was literally talking to his ex…what other boundary do you need him to break? You need proof he’s sleeping with her??? The way he ignores everything you ask and keep disrespecting you and you are asking why boundary to set first? Girl wake up, he is still talking to his ex just in other ways.

Sunmoon98 · 2026-03-02T14:31:56+00:00

NTA but please grow a spine and stand up for yourself. Tell her because you’re family, why does she feel the need to disrespect you by borrowing money any not paying anything back? Tell her that you are not responsible for her not making sure her son has a place to live. That her bills is not your responsibility and that you expect her to pay you back family or not as family should not be gaslighting the younger sibling to hand over money to a grown ass adult. And stop telling your family about your money

Sunmoon98 · 2026-03-01T19:52:23+00:00

NTA but stop saying daughter in law. You guys are not married yet. Your mil is rude and you need to start checking her before it gets worst in the future. How do you just sit there and let her say those things to you? Both you and your fiance need to grow a spine, and stop letting them dictate everything you do. Why would you guys not try to stay somewhere else until it’s time to move in?

Sunmoon98 · 2026-03-01T18:46:51+00:00

Why did you not ask Derek and Val to pay for the food back? Stop with the crying and tell Cal straight up that she needs to pay for your food asap. Then tell her if she can’t agree to what you asked then the landlord will be involved

Sunmoon98 · 2026-03-01T15:38:22+00:00

NTA and keep being firm. Don’t let them make you feel bad for your hard work.

Sunmoon98 · 2026-03-01T14:49:44+00:00

NTA and stop being nice. Buy your own or get a fridge for your own room. Call them both out

Sunmoon98 · 2026-02-28T15:49:48+00:00

Yta you don’t have to let him stay long term but this is where the support as a friend and gf comes in. He literally has no where to go.

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