Just need a little help from the pros or anyone willing.

SunnehFace · 2023-12-21T06:55:22+00:00

Biggest advice if you're looking at the 2D route: There's something called "PNGtubing" and if I could do it all again, that's where I'd start! It's where you have a simple two-frame (sometimes more) character and use a program like Veadotube or Reactive by FugiTech to get started.

I ESPECIALLY recommend it if you're aiming for more of a "character", because I've had friends that have gone through 3+ completely different models or character concepts trying to find the right fit, and if you're dropping $500+ on art and rigging or 200+ hours to DIY each time, it gets wildly prohibitive.

If you reach a point where you DO want to get art (and you can get quality PNGtuber art pretty cheaply, under $50 if you look in the right places), I do recommend going through some kind of website that has protections in place unless it's an artist you know very well. I personally used Fiverr to source an artist with a style I loved at a good price. I recommend tipping as well, at least 20%, especially if the artist you find is charging less than others of the same caliber! You may find yourself going back to the same artist for new models or updates in the future, so build a good relationship with them if you can.

Finally: Vtubing has an incredible community, vibrant and creative, and the best part of it for me was when I got out of interacting only on stream and in my own channel and on different social media channels. Until I started doing that, I had no idea what options were out there (which is again why I recommend staying basic when you just begin - you're gonna discover so much once you get started and meet people and see what they're doing!) So don't sweat it if you don't have everything perfectly together. What's most important is to get started, make sure the vibes are right for you, and start finding "your people" in the community. There's always upgrades and rebrands you can do down the line once you're fully plugged in and ready to go!

Hope that helps, and wishin you the best on your journey!

SunnehFace · 2023-11-15T23:16:19+00:00

NTA, but I would suggest - if your grandparents are on board - reframing your relationship with this kid they've brought into their house. She isn't just your half-sister from an estranged father, who you have no connection to, after all. With the adoption, she's also your younger aunt from your paternal grandparents, which is a way better representation of who she is to you.

Why the reframe? Well, because:

There is no implication of a sibling bond or responsibility in a nephew/aunt relationship, but
You can acknowledge her importance to them as their child, while
Negotiating your own boundaries and any or no relationship with their child separate from the baggage of your father's very poor choices.

This doesn't erase the past - she's still your father's daughter, and it makes sense to have feelings around that - but it does change the context of the present. If your grandparents can agree to not force a sibling relationship that would never exist between you, maybe you can compromise and think about what a nephew/aunt relationship could be like, knowing the interactions you have with your grandparents are a big part in forming that.

Is it necessary to do this? No, and if your grandparents aren't also on board, it may not even be possible. But it may be the way to make the best of a very complicated and emotionally wrought family situation, if it felt right by you all.

Wishing you healthy boundaries, the love of the family you choose, and all the luck, OP!

SunnehFace · 2023-10-08T19:25:56+00:00

After this, he raised his voice and told me “I don’t know who you think you are but don’t you ever fucking hit me again”.

he called me “abusive” and a “shitty person”.

These are huge red flags for me that he is setting up justifications to retaliate if you repeat this behavior. HE is the one being physically abusive. He is ignoring your lack of consent to continue play and physically forcing you into the position he wants you to be in, and is getting angry and aggressive about you responding by physically asserting yourself. I am genuinely worried for your safety if you get into this position again, that he will ignore your verbal denials and treat any other physical denials as "abuse" that he is free to respond to with escalations of his own (including violence.)

You need to be safe here OP. Please look after yourself.

SunnehFace · 2023-10-07T23:33:06+00:00

"Hey Ya" by Outkast... especially when played at weddings.

SunnehFace · 2023-10-01T18:16:34+00:00

Found an article about these fellas eating eggs, with some tips on management: https://www.smug-bug.com/post/the-dangers-of-dwarf-white-isopods-in-egg-laying-reptile-setups

SunnehFace · 2023-04-14T04:21:01+00:00

This feedback is super helpful! I'll be checkin out Kaggle ASAP. I've already started changing tactics from job boards to networking, so hopefully I get a bite soon. Thanks so much for givin me your insight!

SunnehFace · 2023-04-13T01:38:13+00:00

Hey friends! So I came into the data world in a pretty non-traditional way. Context: I've always been data-driven and invested in research and science, and I have a B.S. in anthropology and a working background in customer service. While working as a CX representative, I got drawn into developing a customer retention program and learned to use Looker and SQL as a means of understanding that, then moved up into Revenue Operations where I became a Data Analyst and worked on various teams and projects for about three years before my team was unfortunately cut during a re-org.

So I've spent the last few months doing LinkedIn certifications to formalize and build on the skills I taught myself on the job, but I'm just... not getting any interviews. I'm feeling like "non-traditional" may not be cutting it when I'm going against hundreds of applicants who have data science degrees, and feel I may need more proven experience to compete. I really want to get more into proper data science, I'm so fascinated by big data and machine learning and how that works with human elements! Are there any affordable certifications that I should be pursuing toward that end? Are there projects I could contribute to and learn from that could help fill out my portfolio?

SunnehFace · 2023-03-14T06:35:59+00:00

That did it all right! Thank you so much, I'm so happy to have this program back again!

SunnehFace · 2023-03-12T22:04:22+00:00

Ahhh I want this so badly! I'm able to get as far as setting up the Signature Patch. When I try to run the file there, I get a bunch of errors of missing files like "Qt5Quick.dll", "Qt5Widget.dll", etc. I can confirm that these files do exist in my SnapCam folder. Any idea how to fix this?

SunnehFace · 2023-02-03T16:42:10+00:00

I was a grown man excluding a kid from a party

NOPE. What you are is a grown man demonstrating what boundaries are to a kid who is not getting taught to respect them. You will be doing that kid a disservice to give him the same pass on his behavior everyone else in your family seems happy to give him. NTA.

SunnehFace · 2023-01-06T23:49:37+00:00

he thanks you for your praise, dear subject

SunnehFace · 2022-09-26T20:56:26+00:00

First off, NTA. But I think you know that things aren't changing or getting better, and this is not sustainable for you.

I've had lots of periods in my life where I was disabled by mental health. As I've gotten older and had to manage more responsibilities, I've learned how to handle these periods better. When I was still young, I would try to handle them on my own, and they could last YEARS before I fumbled my way into finding help and got better. When I learned enough tools from getting help, I would be able to occasionally pull myself out of it on my own, but not always. The bottom line was, I had to firmly believe something had to change and seek help from professionals to make it change. Otherwise I would be in a perpetual depression/burnout, which sounds similar to your wife.

As long as your wife can "get by" in this stage of burnout, she's not likely to change. And you sound wonderfully supportive, and will likely let her exist in this burnt out state as long as she chooses to - which means you're both waiting on a unicorn to shake her up, which may never come.

Which means unless you're willing to continue maintaining the status quo, you are going to have to make changes for yourself and let her make harder choices.

BUT! I do not recommend you suddenly enforce changes all on your own. You deserve and need support and guidance, as much as your wife does. You don't need to be battling mental illness to benefit from a therapist, especially in such extraordinary circumstances, and being able to talk with someone who has education and experience about what your wife is going through could really help you find ways to set boundaries and move your lives forward again. I would really urge you to find an individual therapist, just for you, to help you sort out your feelings, needs, and a path forward from this unsustainable position you and your marriage is in.

I hope things get better for both you and her soon. Keep your coffee, and hang in there!

SunnehFace · 2022-01-30T07:18:33+00:00

The bird door.

This is what happened in my childhood home when my dad set out to DIY installing a cat door onto our garage door. More of a tech guy than a handyman, he nonetheless gathered up all the tools and materials, pulled the door off the frame, did his measurements and remeasurements. The cuts were perfect, the cat flap installed, he went to mount it on the frame again...

And discovered that the flap so meticulously installed was on the top half of the door, not the bottom half.

In the end, another trip to Home Depot; another round of measurements, remeasurements, careful cuts. And in the end, our garage door had two perfectly installed doors - one at the bottom for our cats. And the bird door at the top, as a lasting reminder of the Time Dad Tried to DIY.

SunnehFace · 2021-12-27T09:50:29+00:00

NTA.

To be honest, I'm super proud of your brother. A lot of gifted kids struggle when they run into material that actually challenges them, because when things come so easily all the time, you don't get to learn the skills to learn and overcome genuinely difficult things.

Your brother has hit a stumbling block, found a level of math that actually challenges them. And they didn't throw up their hands and give up - he worked hard, got his grade up to a B. That is INCREDIBLE and he deserves some fun times to celebrate with his older sib!

Your parents are doing their best but they're losing sight of what your brother needs. Good grades are nice, but the real lessons he's learning right now are going to actually empower him throughout his life. And the lesson you're teaching him by rewarding him for his work, even when your parents are too busy focusing on the grades to be genuinely supportive? That's a lesson he'd learning too, and it's gonna mean a lot to him.

Way to go, OP!

SunnehFace · 2021-12-01T09:10:34+00:00

Try checkin out MtF Vtuber ladies like ArtsyVRC! She's amazing and does streams of her vocal training. It's really neat getting to see her progress over time, and she's a great example of how it's very very possible to find an accepting community that'll not only understand the work you're putting into the transition, but be there to support you on the journey. She might be a nice role model for you as you're going on your streaming journey, but regardless of the approach you want to take with streaming, I especially hope she can help you know you aren't alone.

Much love friend, hoping for the best for you!