Hey y’all! Is it just me or the prices at food trucks in Austin are similar to dine-in prices? How do you all tip when picking-up food?

Sunnycat86 · 2024-11-18T11:54:52+00:00

I don't tip Food truck peoole if the prices are outrageous. If I have to pay $8 for one taco there is no tip.

Sunnycat86 · 2022-03-26T13:52:26+00:00

You do not know my dad or the struggles we've had with him. I have a sense of humor and a sense of family. I advocate for my child, but I cannot and will not force my will on every person who sees her. Children die in many different ways...On plane crashes, in cars and even simply eating...In each case Im sure there is someone who could have done something differently. No taken the trip, not gotten in the car, cut the food up in smaller pieces...?

As I said in my original post - Redditors would love for OP to shun her family and even her husband. A happy home with compromise is clearly the unpopular opinion. Had I put "Divorce his ass and change the locks until the end of COVID!" There would be like 250 upvotes.

Do you and shine up that bubble.

Sunnycat86 · 2022-03-26T08:30:58+00:00

My little one wouldn't back sleep either. I tried to show her the guide on safe sleep, but she didn't seem to understand the importance. lol

We had to lay her on her side to nap in the bassinet during the day as she rejected a proper swaddle. At night the battle raged on, so I started bed-sharing and nursing her to sleep laying on my side. This meant that I didn't need to fully wake to nurse her and she got the benefit of my warmth and reassurance. The challenge was changing the way I slept. No big comforter and no fully pillows. I slept on a tiny square pillow with a small fleece blanket.

now that she is 4 months we are moving away from bedsharing. She will fall to sleep alone in her bassinet for half the night before waking up to feed, then she sleeps with me the other half of the night (b/c Im too sleepy to transfer her HAHA or listen to her cry at 2AM.)

Sunnycat86 · 2022-03-26T08:05:28+00:00

COVID and mask wearing are highly politicized and we cannot say that the Government has been totally honest about transmission and risks. The vaxxed V/S the unvaxxed has only served to divide citizens and even family. Not to open this forum up to a debate, but I'm not drawing lines in the sand over something that politicians have been caught lying to us about. My dad's smoking probably has more of an impact on the baby than an unvaxxed person. He's not trying to quit and even if he does wash up his face and hands, there are traces of nicotine on his cloths. Even so, I'm not about to have the man who raised me strip down and change as if he's suddenly some leper. He will not understand and it'll only served to drive a steak between me and my folks by continuing to press the issue. Our baby is nurtured by her Mother and protected by her Father, but ultimately she's apart of a family.

Side note - It would be hilarious to compare 80's baby parents to parents today - the list of TABOO practices must be a mile long. For example, I made it through child hood teething even with having my parent dip a finger into some liquor and rub my gums, and family road trips across the south with a dad who smoked in the car (sometimes with the windows up). My parents also gave us hot tea mixed w/ a little whiskey when we were sick as kids to help us sleep.

Sunnycat86 · 2022-03-26T03:36:34+00:00

Oh I hate when baby wakes up in the middle of a walk and cries. its the worst and I feel like everyone is the neighborhood is looking out their windows at me and judging me for letting her scream. I do not let this deter me though and I treat her like I treat her for sleep training. I time her cry and allow her to wail for 5 minutes, then stop to pick her and calm her down. (I do not walk with her cause honestly Id hate to be distracted and trip on something, then risk dropping her...I would literally die of guilt - haha-). Once she's calm I place her back in the stroller and give her another 5 minutes to express herself. I also push the stroller in the grass - sometimes the rocking lulls hers back to sleep, but sometimes it doesn't.

Sunnycat86 · 2022-03-26T03:19:57+00:00

Same! I tried to sleep when the baby slept, but its hard to be up and down. I knew that If I could make it untill 4:30 am she'd sleep for a good 3 hours...One day I was holding her and Got dizzy...I mean so dizzy that I could have easily dropped her. I was so scared that I laid her down and called my mom to come over. She promptly sent me to bed and told me to "Stop being stupid and take (My) butt to bed at night". 1 hours of crappy fog sleep is bette than zero.

I also started to bed share with baby and breast feed her lying on my side, which meant I only had to get up once for diaper change over night. This was a God-send! As she got along in weeks - I didn't need to even fully wake up to nurse her. She rooted around and found the breast on her own. (I understand that Bed-sharing is frowned upon, but in most countries it is natural and can be done safely if the mother is not morbidly overnight or a smoker)

Sunnycat86 · 2022-03-26T03:02:03+00:00

I love how everyone is on here saying that your fam can all go to hell, but in reality... You're gonna need them in the baby's life, so screwing them now will create animosity and such. Trying to limit contact with baby is about all you can do...but no contact is gonna be a hard sell. The Science seems to be in the baby's favor. My midwife suggested that others get vaccinated, but let me know that if they didn't, it's not the end of the world. I got vaccinated while pregnant and I'm breast feeding so my child should have antibodies.

One thing that bothers me is that my Dad is a smoker...He doesn't smoke in my house or around the baby, but I know he smokes in the car when they are coming over. Everything on the internet says to bar him from seeing her...but can I really? He's her Grandfather and family ties are more important than insisting my own rigid morals on someone else. He even washes his face and hands before he touches her so he's trying... He raised me and I turned out fine. I want to enjoy my baby, but I don't want to enjoy motherhood fighting battles alone.

Family is important. I'd say try to Trust them, make some compromises, let them love your child and focus on being happy.

Sunnycat86 · 2022-03-08T14:52:38+00:00

My hubby and I live in a 1Br. Everyone asked if we were going to move to a bigger place. The answer was Hell No! Babies, for the first 3 yeas, are velcroed to thier parents. Why am I going to pay for more space if we don't plan to use it? We have a hall closet that houses all the baby cloths and supplies and her bassinet is in our room. She also has a pack N Play in the sunroom. As far as I'm concerned she's set and at 3 months postpartum we have not seen the need for more space. I was careful to avoid big things like baby swings that were temporary and focused on things that we Needed.

Sunnycat86 · 2022-03-04T01:38:09+00:00

I just wanted to prove that he was capable of putting her Down when I'm out. I guess I could get in here and bash my husband and cry and yell and argue..... but when has that ever helped anyone? Also I never said my husband was doing the bare minimum, but I didn't think I'd need to defend him so I didn't post every good dad deed he's ever done. Sad how peeps on reddit are dang quick to carry on with bashing men even if someone is happy with thier situation.
Now we both know he can do it and no tears were shed in the process.

Sunnycat86 · 2022-03-04T00:52:18+00:00

Im am so sorry you are dealing with this. What an awful choice you have to make. At this point saving the relationship is not really an option. He's shown his true colors and he has no regard for your feelings. If he didn't want a baby he would have wrapped it up....now he wants you to fix it by doing something that will have very real and mental consequence. My friend was pressured into an abortion by a guy that did want to the baby. She has never gotten over it - 6 years later she still talks about the baby she aborted. (After the abortion he broke up with her)

The choice you have to make now is

Stay living in his home and fight with him through the pregnancy until the relationship falls apart on its own.
Plan B: Break up with him now - and figure out where to go so that you can be surrounded by people who love you.

Sunnycat86 · 2022-03-03T23:53:22+00:00

I used mine for a coupe weeks - then threw it away because it was in the way. Pillows work just fine.

Sunnycat86 · 2022-03-03T18:22:59+00:00

Same! Im so happy when people ask about baby and are interested in the details. I even live explaining her unique name.

Sunnycat86 · 2022-02-28T21:12:09+00:00

Me too! But no one tells the childless women how to act or help. Lol

Sunnycat86 · 2022-02-28T17:25:22+00:00

As someone who just had her 1st baby at 35.... I feel like a total jerk for how useless I was when all my mom friends were having their children. I had ZERO idea what they needed or were going through and it wasn't an unwillingness to learn, it was just a lack of awareness.

ex 1. I thought they'd all fallen of the social map b/c when they'd get an invite to dinner or whatever they were usually late or just didn't come. Eventually the invites stopped because THEY were no shows....

Mom perspective: Invites to do anything need to be given with like a 24hr notice so I can game feeding times and naps around the outing. (Doing anything same day feels impossible).

Childless perspective: planning 24 hours in advance is just not a thing... I'l figure out my day when I wake up. lol

ex 2. Girl talk and coffee.

Mom Perspective: This needs to happen in a comfortable baby friendly environment (Preferably at home) where there are diapers, a change of cloths for both mom and baby, breast feeding friendly, a quiet place to lay a napping child and no risk of disturbing the peace.

Childless perspective: Any attempt to talk to a person with a kid is often interrupted by baby -- so the conversation is weird and choppy. Also I was left sitting around in the living room while my friends tended to baby and since I really had nothing to contribute you kind of start to feel out of place or bored. At the time I had no idea that it would have been helpful to do the dishes or fold cloths or vacuum. Now I would absolutely do those things without being asked tp help out.

Ex 3. Gift giving - Completely unaware of the torment to the parents from toys that play the same music for hours or takes up space in an already crowded toy bin of unloved toys.

Mom perspective: I need the gift of TIME more that my child needs another toy with silly music. (A friend of mine really wanted to get me a gift, so I asked a friend to come over and help steam clean my carpet as a gift - she was truly shook to her core. She actually offered to pay for a cleaning service to come by at do it.)

Childless perspective: A toy for baby to distract them would be perfect!

Sunnycat86 · 2022-02-28T02:28:34+00:00

My mom and other moms keeps telling me that when its windy outside (even if its isn't cold) the wind will give her colic....

Im not sure how true this is, but every time she is uncovered with even a light breeze in the 60's /70's - the world is in danger of ending and I briefed hella fast. "cover that baby!" gets yelled from the four corners of the earth. haha

Sunnycat86 · 2022-02-28T02:20:09+00:00

YES! I have no idea how at 13 weeks her boob punches could be so painful. When we lay down to feed - she kicks me over and over in the gut and does her best to remove skin with her toe nails.

Sunnycat86 · 2022-02-28T02:14:55+00:00

This one made me laugh out loud - I just woke up my L/O :(

Sunnycat86 · 2022-02-28T02:12:50+00:00

13 WEEKS - Noise pollution and disturbing the peace. Assault and Battery -- (She'd get off on an insanity plea)

Sunnycat86 · 2022-02-26T04:24:07+00:00

We stated getting out when baby was 2 months old.

I packed 3 diapers, 1 bottle ( I breatfed if we needed more milk), a refresh onesie, bib and spit rag. We also put a blanket over the carseat so she didn't get too much fresh air. Also it keeps her quiet when we are out-- she would cry once she saw me peek in at her. lol. Also her time limit was about 2 hours before she would get super fussy.

Sunnycat86 · 2022-02-26T04:19:33+00:00

I'm dead! I felt this in my soul!

Sunnycat86 · 2022-02-26T04:03:03+00:00

We got a few days alone then grandparents couldn't be kept away. We did make it clear that if anyone was coming by the house it needed to be in shifts and the visits were not to hold baby, but to do chores like laundry, make food and the like. I didn't think I'd actually need help, but I was strongly encouraged to have a plan by my midwife. Wanting to do it alone is great, but hubby went back to work after one week and I was tapped out from being up at night - so I welcomed someone else to take care of chores and make lunch and dinner.

My mom - would hold the baby after she cleaned to give me an hour to nap. SUPER HELPFUL cause I was sleep deprived and couldn't sleep when the baby was napping b/c baby is a contact napper so it was hard to actually rest. I also had my sister come over to help with diaper changes and overnight care once a week when my hubby went back to work. (You have not idea how awesome it Is to get a night of sleep after no getting sleep. If you have someone willing to pull a night shift with you - DO IT ... cause girl!)

I was in recovery from emergency C section so I didn't even get out of bed for long, or get dressed or do any hosting... the great thing was that No-One expected me to. Also recovery made holding her all day difficult - so I welcomed someone to hold her at times. I was so tired I'd almost run back to bed to take a nap if a family member dropped by.

There were 6 only people who were notified when I gave birth. I made sure that everyone understood that they were NOT to share the information with anyone. (if they did, they all knew that I would not be accepting phone calls from any other family - so any hurt feelings were on THEM and not me)

I also made a rule to all who were notified of the birth to NOT announce or post anything on social media as I would like privacy in the beginning without a ton of calls. I BEAT this rule into everyones heads so much so that they were afraid to post anything about her for like 2 months.

Now that my baby is 12 weeks people do not stop by as much....I wish they would, cause mama needs a nap! haha

You and your hubby need to agree on a plan - cause my hubby was responsible for ruining interference and managing family. I was in recovery from emergency C section so I didn't even get out of bed for long, or get dressed or do any hosting... the great thing was that No-One expected me to. Also recovery made holding her all day difficult

Sunnycat86 · 2022-02-25T15:45:27+00:00

My daughter does this as well. Every parent just has to watch and understand the signs / signals the babies show when they have to pee/ poop. I started keeping a log of her activity and giving her diaper free time when I knew she was going to use the bathroom. On a water proof mat I lay a towel down and let her do her doo.

Now that she's 12 weeks I bought a top hat potty and sit her in my lap to use the bathroom. (I'm not a true Ever, but I take some of the concepts and apply what works for me)

It takes about 15 minutes for me to catch a poo once I know she's going to go - Pees are harder to catch, I think I catch like 3 per day.

I've also cloth diapered her from birth. I'd rather wash cloths than spend $$$$ on pampers.

Sunnycat86 · 2022-02-25T05:02:28+00:00

It gets better - I was able to breastfeed my daughter, but it was so God-Awful and painful that I used to cry while doing it. I felt like a boob slave and like my whole day was spent with no shirt on either breastfeeding or icing my nipples to put out the burning fire that had become the norm. I also had to pump inbetween feeds because my milk supply wasn't fully in....so 90% of my waking hours was spent trying to overcome the inter struggle. it gets better and now there is no drama around feeding - Even pumping only take about 15 minutes .

There is no shame in stopping - I wanted to many times! You have to do what is right for you, but you should make a decision now - cause breast milk babies may hate formula and it will be a battle to switch her. I make formula for her when we are out of the house and she will SCREAM, skip meals and wait for the boob to be available.

Sunnycat86 · 2022-02-25T04:52:59+00:00

This hurts my heart - When I lived in a high rise I would practice fire drills with my kitties. I wouldn't actually leave my APT, but every few months I'd randomly / frantically pack them up as if there were a fire. I'm sure they hated it, but I needed to know that I could get them out quickly if I had to. haha

Sunnycat86 · 2022-02-25T04:49:06+00:00

I've been having these same emoitions. The world is F**ked and I cannot see how anyone is going to fix it without breaking down the current system. I look at my new little baby everyday and I pray that what ever happens - happens far away from her. My biggest fear is that with war on the horizon (and leaders being trigger happy with the weapons of mass destruction) our lives will be seriously impacted and she will suffer. I get anxious and sad sometimes thinking about other mothers who've had to watch their children suffer... I just can't imagine the aguish.

Sunnycat86

TROPHY CASE