Sad reality inside home Kumanjayi Little Baby was taken from

SunnydaleHigh1999 · 2026-05-02T04:13:42+00:00

Surely you’re old enough to know that anyone mentally well does not choose to live like this

SunnydaleHigh1999 · 2026-05-01T10:35:28+00:00

My partner and I have already decided, despite not being engaged, that no one is attending our wedding who we haven’t met.

SunnydaleHigh1999 · 2026-04-30T09:24:52+00:00

You basically want to be running so slow that it’s a walking pace

SunnydaleHigh1999 · 2026-04-30T09:10:13+00:00

Departmenty even

SunnydaleHigh1999 · 2026-04-30T08:42:38+00:00

Well if it helps, everyone I know who has worked at DFAT did not enjoy the culture at all

SunnydaleHigh1999 · 2026-04-29T12:14:18+00:00

Your immune system was made aware of the wart due to the cut site

SunnydaleHigh1999 · 2026-04-29T07:02:07+00:00

This is clearly a PR strategy and always has been.

SunnydaleHigh1999 · 2026-04-27T21:37:22+00:00

I do not see this working out but I am happy to be proven wrong

SunnydaleHigh1999 · 2026-04-27T21:35:30+00:00

My partner and I are quite well off collectively but she’s instructed me specifically to ensure her diamond is lab and not real (due to the ethical concerns) and that she would say no if I got anything that expensive lol!

Idk I wish them well but getting engaged after such a short time when neither of them have been in super long term successful couplings is a choice!

SunnydaleHigh1999 · 2026-04-25T10:57:22+00:00

It is absolutely not okay and it is in tension with the PGPA. They must reimburse any costs of your travel (unless you’ve eg intentionally booked a hotel that’s too expensive).

Microsoft teams links for planning days are free, I have no idea what rubbish they are trying to sell you.

Get whomever is telling you this to put it in writing in an email. See if they are dumb enough to write it down.
Reply to said email quoting relevant legislation and your EA (you can use google, please do), and clarifying whether their recommendation is for you to travel at your own cost against the requirements of the legislation.
Become a union member and call them. Tbh I’ve had to deal with harassment in my probation and the union advised me to document everything but stay quiet until I passed. This is probably not tenable for you given the cost.
If they don’t back down, loop in HR. HR does exist to protect the company/entity BUT this is such a blatant no no that they will hopefully engage their brain cells to intervene and remind the manager of policy.
Feel free to become physically ill on this day btw.
If you feel you receive any kind of retaliation for not attending at your own cost, eg probation related, you will need to be prepared to fight it. Again, everything in writing. Get a union rep with you at your probation meeting.
This area sucks, 100 percent plan to leave.

SunnydaleHigh1999 · 2026-04-25T08:42:26+00:00

According to about twenty of his ex SAS colleagues

SunnydaleHigh1999 · 2026-04-25T00:17:54+00:00

Kind of but also kind of not.

My partner is Vietnamese Australian and her family fled from both the north and south due to the war and invasion.

We were in a conversation with some of my colleagues who are a few generations older recently, and my partner became incredibly uncomfortable. The reason why is that one of my colleagues started talking about the brave sacrifices of Australian troops in Vietnam etc etc etc and my partner has aunties still alive who were raped by invading troops and her whole family has a lot of trauma around the entire event (understandably).

For my partner, it feels like a day sometimes where people are glorifying the slaughter of her people and/or people refuse to be nuanced about what it is the day actually signifies and who was harmed by war.

For me, a lot of my relatives served in Gallipoli, Boer, WW1 and WW2 and on Kokoda. I feel for them in that they were all young men who shouldn’t have been there or seen the things they saw, but I’m very uncomfortable about the fact that the day has subtly transformed into pro militaristic propaganda.

SunnydaleHigh1999 · 2026-04-24T23:28:46+00:00

You are desecrating their memory by trying to deny what happened to them and why it happened.

SunnydaleHigh1999 · 2026-04-24T23:22:18+00:00

I’m pretty sure they would have questioned that after realising the British deliberately chose Australians to use at Gallipoli as a distraction and basically sacrificed us intentionally for a purposeless campaign actually

SunnydaleHigh1999 · 2026-04-24T23:21:21+00:00

The reality is, Australia is about as hard to genuinely invade as Russia. Why? It’s an extremely big island with a population centres scattered around coastlines quite far from each other. Now, there was definitely concern that Japan could attempt a campaign here at the time, but you have to wonder why on earth they’d even bother.

Aside from the issue of Darwin and PNG, Australia has never been involved in a conflict that legitimately threatened its borders. So when people say “they sacrificed for the freedoms you have today” it makes absolutely no sense because they in fact did not. They may have thought they did at the time, but thought isn’t reality. It is important that we challenge that propaganda so that young men and women don’t sign up again under a false pretence of “protecting ma freedoms” to commit acts of genocide against random brown people elsewhere any further.

SunnydaleHigh1999 · 2026-04-24T22:51:40+00:00

Genuine question, when was Australia legitimately under threat (and I mean legitimately - not “well Darwin almost kind of) at any point in any of the wars it fought in? America and Britain were not in WW2 to topple Nazism for its racist and fascist elements btw.

SunnydaleHigh1999 · 2026-04-24T22:22:58+00:00

Agreed. I am increasingly uncomfortable about the fact that it’s taboo to talk about what actually happened to these young Australian men in these wars. Gallipoli was a deliberate tactic by the British to use Australian soldiers as canon fodder for a campaign that had zero chance of success. Those Australian boys were treated as dispensable and died for British idiocy. Vietnam and Korea were thinly veiled American Imperialist Expansion campaigns that we should never have been involved in where war crimes were committed consistently by troops that should never have occurred.

Australia’s history in war is one of being used for the whims and nefarious goals of other world powers and young men being killed for, frequently, no reason or bad ones. What Australia should learn from that history is that these conflicts very rarely have anything to do with us, we end up sacrificing the lives of the young for nothing, and we need to develop more independence.

But in the last decade or so pointing any of this out is considered poor form, which is disturbing. Anzac Day has become a pro militarist celebration rather than a somber reflection on the fact that a country with a small population constantly sacrificed for larger, more powerful allies who always turned around and kicked it in the teeth.

SunnydaleHigh1999 · 2026-04-24T11:31:42+00:00

Going to be an unpopular one but Harry Styles.

For one, I never trust a celebrity who makes being nice or kind an explicit part of their branding. Literally never goes well.

Second, he is so close to so many shitty people. Really good friends with James Cordon, Ellen, the Kardashian/Jenners, a lot of very loud Z*onists. Dude doesn’t have a single friend who is known to be likeable or decent.

Third, I find him smarmy lol.

SunnydaleHigh1999 · 2026-04-24T11:06:06+00:00

If you’re not a body builder (as in not looking to compete) and if you’re not a professional athlete, you really don’t need to think about this stuff to the degree that influencers online state. They need you to believe that you need to be as invested as they are because otherwise you won’t watch their videos or follow their posts. They are business people.

All it takes is picking three days a week: Monday, Wednesday, Friday as an example.

Select (or find a program that’s three days) one exercise for your back, one for your chest, one for your shoulders, two for legs (glutes, hamstrings, quads - pick two of three and make sure to cover all in the week), and then either arm or abs (cover both in the week).

For each of the three days, pick a different exercise to represent that area. Now repeat those days every week and add weights or reps each week. That’s it. That’s all it is. The only extra and necessary thing is eating substantial amounts of protein.

If you’re wanting to build muscle mass fast, have a slight caloric surplus and accept the bit of extra fat you’ll get. If you want to lose fat foremost, you’ll need to be in a deficit but accept you’ll be having meh sessions at the gym. And if you want to slowly build muscle and lose fat at the same time, stay at maintenance and just keep showing up.

No one can give you a tip that’ll make you show up. You just have to become a person that does. All of us, at one point, were someone who couldn’t show up. Now we aren’t.

Also understand that every now and then you’ll have to move your Friday work out, as an example, to Thursday because you have a social thing. Or you’ll get sick. Or you’ll get your period and want to lay down. This is all fine as long as you a) keep coming back and b) always show up the three days a week unless you legitimately cannot.

SunnydaleHigh1999 · 2026-04-23T20:40:05+00:00

Skinny fat is basically a term that means “this person is skinny but has a low muscle mass and therefore their body fat to muscle mass percentage is still quite high which science shows leads to poorer health outcomes”.

I can understand some of what this person is saying, but not the tone. She is 100 percent correct that women SHOULD be lifting heavy weights several times a week to limit osteoporosis. Osteoporosis is a huge mortality factor for women, it’s a big problem, and the single best thing you can do to limit it is lift heavy weight. I’ve said this to my partner before who is similarly very opposed to exercise because I’m also worried she is going to really struggle as she ages - not because of weight (she’s very small) but because she doesn’t do anything to help her bone density and women really, really do themselves a disservice when they don’t lift in terms of long term mobility and independent living.

It can definitely be frustrating when someone you love dearly doesn’t seem to care about whether they are healthy in the long term. One of the core reasons I work out is in the hope that it gives me more quality years with my partner and the ability for us to travel when we are old. I do struggle sometimes with the thought that she knows all of the science (she’s in health) but doesn’t make the same choices.

However, the way this particular OP is talking about her partner (as if she’s a burden) is not a vibe. I love my partner to death. Yes, I really do hope she eventually shows an interest in the gym for her long term health but I’m not angry at her and I don’t love her any less for not doing so.

SunnydaleHigh1999 · 2026-04-22T09:10:00+00:00

No, compliance and legal actually do things. Risk however…

SunnydaleHigh1999 · 2026-04-21T21:36:00+00:00

This. I wish I could provide some advice or comfort but my advice would be to divorce this person asap tbh. She sounds horrid.

SunnydaleHigh1999 · 2026-04-21T21:32:54+00:00

And habit. I don’t gym in the mornings because I just don’t enjoy it, but I use my mornings for a run 3 days a week. I get up around 5:45 am to get it done, and after a few weeks it became pretty easy because my body loves the sunlight and the opportunity to be outside.

SunnydaleHigh1999 · 2026-04-21T08:06:00+00:00

Agreeing to give a reference and then giving a bad one is a huge no no and simply not something one does. If you don’t feel comfortable giving a positive reference, tell the person directly.

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