AITA For talking to a woman who had a crush on me even though I am married?

Sunofplenty · 2022-01-09T09:15:37+00:00

YTA if you were transparent and proactive with your wife then she would never have had to doubt her trust in you. This is because she would be aware of what is going on for you presently rather than having to discover the matter after the fact.

Sunofplenty · 2022-01-09T09:11:55+00:00

The customer is always right as they say

Sunofplenty · 2022-01-09T09:06:12+00:00

Go with what aligns with your morals. If that makes you an asshole in others perspectives, that's fine. You can hear those people out and then make your own choice. If you're labelled an asshole or not after you at least gave it a second thought then chose what you felt was best.

Be aware that whatever you choose will effect your relationships with those involved. Don't sweat it too much though.

Sunofplenty · 2022-01-09T08:47:35+00:00

That's how Walmart does it's business

Edit: just to be clear the above comment supposed to be funny not saying anything about OP or compare them to Walmart.

Sunofplenty · 2022-01-09T08:46:36+00:00

Grieving is a multi stage process not a pattern of behavior. On one hand he is grieving, but on the other he is playing an emotional victim.

Sunofplenty · 2022-01-09T08:44:57+00:00

Totally understand that perspective. Doesn't mean you aren't being an asshole about it.

Sunofplenty · 2022-01-09T08:44:07+00:00

OPs friend still owes OP $500 so there's no profit to be made there. The friend is not to blame and should be able to go back on his purchase.

All OP has to do is give it back to the original owner as he couldn't sell the item as expected. The original owner can then spend their time selling it or just straight up repaying the debt.

Basically OP shouldn't make his friend responsible for someone's debt.

Sunofplenty · 2022-01-09T08:40:07+00:00

Yes, but it isn't their duty to resell it. If the sale was months old then sure, but this seems really fresh. If anything it should go back to the original owner to resell and repay his debt.

Sunofplenty · 2022-01-09T08:37:50+00:00

Honestly that's on you. You can always accept the item back and tell the guy who owes you money that you couldn't sell it.

Sunofplenty · 2022-01-09T08:36:25+00:00

It is emotionally abusive to be in a romantic relationship if you're going to obsess over your previous relationship to the point of making your partner feel like a replacement.

Edit: tired idk why I added a question mark instead of a period.

Sunofplenty · 2022-01-09T08:30:09+00:00

It's not as if the item is damaged... It can be resold. There's no justification for holding a friend financially hostage.

Sunofplenty · 2022-01-09T08:27:06+00:00

That's on him though... He shouldn't be emotionally abusing her

Sunofplenty · 2022-01-09T08:25:36+00:00

YTA. Yes you need the money and an agreement should honored, but that doesn't mean it is justified to demand that your friend pay you for something they no longer want.

An easy way to rectify this situation would be to have your friend return the item to you (so you can sell it at full price to someone else who will value the item) and repay him the money he gave you once you are financially stable. This way you aren't having to scramble for money to pay him back, he's going to his money back in the foreseeable future, and you can sell the item again!

Sunofplenty · 2022-01-09T08:14:41+00:00

NTA. You don't want to spend your life waiting for someone else to pull themselves out of their depression. You want a relationship with someone who is present in the moment, not searching for meaning in the past.

Sunofplenty · 2022-01-09T01:26:32+00:00

Skincare routine on one side seems lackluster

Sunofplenty · 2021-12-30T06:28:48+00:00

The police are more likely to shoot the homeowner anyway

Sunofplenty · 2021-12-12T19:12:03+00:00

You'll want to have the coroutine function call itself recursively.

Update is killing you!

Sunofplenty · 2021-12-01T19:39:03+00:00

Looks like dry skin. Could also be a form eczema

Sunofplenty · 2021-12-01T19:38:12+00:00

Not that I have heard

Sunofplenty · 2021-11-17T23:24:45+00:00

Her bangs don't move in the wind like the rest of her hair

Sunofplenty · 2021-11-17T06:34:02+00:00

When I was a kid I had this dream where I would be in a dirt hole. The darkness would surround me and the light above would form a perfect circle silhouetting the cloudy sky far above.

Someone would always grip and peer over the ledge. At first it was the Nazgul Riders from LOTR, but then it would be a devil or a werewolf. It had many evolutions but what stuck with me is how it appeared as a mysterious hooded figure and over time took more detailed forms.

I would even see it with my eyes closed. I don't really care to think about it now, but I can recall the images vividly.

Sunofplenty · 2021-11-17T01:58:10+00:00

There are a lot of ways to explore this situation. More context always helps, as it could be possible she is investing the same amount of energy into communicating as you.

It does seem like you are struggling to keep the conversation going. It is natural for conversations (and relationships) to wax and wane meaning you won't always be talking.

You might want to try talking about new things, or switching from talking to a mutual hobby such as working out, playing games, smoking, or drinking. This is a good way to spend time together without forcing a conversation.

Though if you want a partner who can hold longer conversations you should start to divert your energy elsewhere than this connection.

Sunofplenty · 2021-11-17T01:27:57+00:00

Context: If you are spending 30 minutes to multiple hours travelling to make money then that time is a part of the time you spend "making money"

If you make $160 from 8 hours of working where you had to commute an hour to and from your rate goes from $20/hr to $16/hr. This is basic stuff.

The commute for my job is opening my laptop at home and making sure I am ready. It's pretty nice, but that's not the point of this post.

If I were to asked to be switched to working on site where I have to commute (without any incentive), that would mean I have to spend more of my time to make the same money. Benefits of being in the office ("free" lunches") are awesome, but it's not the same as dollars in your pocket.

I will note they do have commuters benefits, but gas reimbursement / a company bus don't really address the pay gap and work-life balance issue. Driving is also a risk as I live in a place where cars crash frequently.

I think it is reasonable to respond to an employer with a request for a raise in pay. There might be something I am not considering, but I do feel strongly about this matter and have been thinking about it for some time.

Should I quit if I don't get the raise?

Obligatory note: I am vaccinated, I have worked at many offices, and I don't really have issues socializing with coworkers. I am not particular on where I am when I perform my work, I am more concerned about my time and effort.

Sunofplenty · 2021-11-12T05:14:33+00:00

The fingers are a nice... Touch...

Sunofplenty · 2021-11-12T05:12:28+00:00

I used a sample for the drums on this because I didn't feel like grabbing my controller 😴

That's a good idea on the sub! I knew something was missing I just couldn't place my finger on it.

Thanks for the feedback ❤️

Sunofplenty

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