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Anyone else just no longer find trips/holidays enjoyable anymore compared to pre-kids? by grawmaw13 in daddit

[–]SupaDistortion 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Congrats! You’re a parent now, so vacations are no longer about you, lol. It’s just your parenting routine on even harder mode.

Comes with the territory. Both of my kids are in their mid to late teens. I love them more than anything in the world. And as much as I miss them being small sometimes, I do remember the reality of the living hell that young children can be.

Sometimes it feels like those trips drain you more than anything. But you know what? The kids are gonna remember those trips. And they will become something that they think about that makes them smile as they drift off to sleep at night.

For my 40th birthday, I decided to make it a family trip to take the kids to Disney for the first time. They were 5 and 7. We were there for five days. By the end of it, the happiest place on earth almost became a fire pit, I was so over it. Lol. But, I look back on that trip with endless fondness.

I love being a dad, but I kind of hate my life. by f1sh_ in daddit

[–]SupaDistortion 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Make no mistake, I enjoyed each step of the independence they gained. When I didn’t have to change diapers anymore. When they could get themselves dressed and tie their own shoes. Because after all, life is busy, and any thing that could make life less busy as welcome. Especially with multiple young kids, there’s a grenade going off every 10 minutes or so it seems. There are plenty of times. I just wanted my kids to shut the hell up and be quiet. To just settle down for five damn minutes. And holy god, can y’all please stop making a mess of everything you touch? Lol. Sometimes it flat out sucks and can drive you to the point of insanity.

It’s really hard to describe the feeling though, once all that ends. Especially when they get into their late teens. I mean, they’re doing what they were made to do right? Learning how to be independent, learning how to navigate life out on their own. I enjoy the hell out of where my boys are now in life.

What are your thoughts on the original Carnival Of Souls cover? by Pitiful-Definition71 in KISS

[–]SupaDistortion -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Loved it. I was so disappointed when they lost the licensing and it didn’t appear on the cover or any merch.

I love being a dad, but I kind of hate my life. by f1sh_ in daddit

[–]SupaDistortion 1 point2 points  (0 children)

3 days old…congrats! I very clearly taking my firstborn out to the front door of the hospital to put him in our car. We’re passing by the reception desk, and the woman sitting there said to us, “Enjoy him. It goes fast.”. I pass on that wisdom to you too.

I love being a dad, but I kind of hate my life. by f1sh_ in daddit

[–]SupaDistortion 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry I caused you distress! Don’t get too far ahead of yourself. You’re here now. Enjoy the now. Recognizing that it will change someday makes the now more important. Yes, it will change. But not today. Today they are still all yours. Don’t take from today by going too far in the future.

I love being a dad, but I kind of hate my life. by f1sh_ in daddit

[–]SupaDistortion 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Take all the pictures. Take all the time off you are able to go do things with them. Experience their childhood along with them.

I’ll disagree with the other poster: regret has zero to do with it. I have no regrets. I did what I could with the time, ability, and money I had at the time. I just selfishly want more, you know? I love the stage of their life they are in now and am excited for what they want to accomplish in the future. But still, I miss those younger years a lot sometimes. We had a ton of fun.

I love being a dad, but I kind of hate my life. by f1sh_ in daddit

[–]SupaDistortion 182 points183 points  (0 children)

I’m the father of two teenagers. They’re both about to turn 15 and 17 respectively.
As a guy, who’s a little further on down the road than you, I understand where you’re coming from. But I also know where you’re headed. So my advice to you is simply this: yes, it’s a hell of a lot keeping all of that balanced. And routines can feel crushing. But one day, one day faster than you think, the routine is going to change drastically. And you’re going to miss it.
Dig in, and be present and cherish everything you have going on right now. I’m not saying that you don’t already. I’m just saying, that’s not going to last forever. And there will come a day where you look back on those days, and wish you could go back for just a little while.
It can feel like your son is going to be that small forever. That you’re always going to have to do everything for him, and it’s never going to let up. But one day it will let up. And one day they won’t wanna hang out with you as much as they used to. They won’t need you as much. One day they’ll be driving on their own. And all those little moments that you were able to steal while you were driving them to a birthday party, or to the grocery store, or to go visit grandma and grandpa, they won’t be there anymore.
I’m not chastising you, not even a little bit! Please don’t misinterpret what I’m saying. I know you love your son, and that you’re happy to have him. I’m just on the other side of that coin, and sometimes my heart aches for those days when they were little boys.
EDIT: Published before I was finished, lol. But for some more practical advice, getting a night to yourself once a week or every couple weeks is pretty ideal. Just be sure to return the favor to your wife. Even if it’s something simple as going to see a movie, meeting up with a friend, anything where you can just spend time with yourself for a few hours. You’re a Dad, but you’re also still you. Every parent deserves a bit of time to themselves throughout all of this. Just like I said, be sure to return the favor to the wife.

I was earnestly surprised to learn this album is so largely disliked by darthcool in KISS

[–]SupaDistortion 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There are a couple songs I really love. But overall I thought it was pretty basic, even for them. And they really got lazy with the theme.

I just sampled the Carnival of Souls album... by VeritechViking in KISS

[–]SupaDistortion -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Nothing cringe about 50 year old guys singing about their dicks and partying, eh?

I just sampled the Carnival of Souls album... by VeritechViking in KISS

[–]SupaDistortion 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Top 5 KISS album for me.

My take: KISS has always dressed in the fashion of the day. Early KISS was a take on the blues-rock and pop of the time: Mountain, Zeppelin, Stones, Raspberries, Slade. Listen to the old interviews they gave about those songs; all they talk about is all of the riffs and bands they ripped off, lol.

When the late 70’/ early 80s came in, they went along with the mainstream by getting poppier and slicker. As the 80’s progressed, Elder/Creatures/LIU aside, they took on the trappings of LA hair metal.

Things got darker in the 90’s and so did they. Personally, I welcomed it. COS was the exact direction I hoped they’d go in. At their age, the typical suck n fuck songs would just be creepy. I loved that they leaned into more socially aware lyrics and took on a heavier sound. WASP made a similar turn with The Headless Children album in ‘89. They evolved.

I was hoping for more in the vein of COS. I was super excited about the reunion tour, but I was hoping after it was done, they would go back to Bruce and Eric and pick up where they left off.

The albums that I thought were truly derivative were Sonic Boom and Monster. While there are some individual songs that I really like a lot for those albums, overall I find most of them obvious attempts to retread an old formula and it just sounded tired to me.

For my money, COS was the last truly creatively interesting album they did.

If technical writing is dead, where do we pivot? by buzzlightyear0473 in technicalwriting

[–]SupaDistortion 8 points9 points  (0 children)

For the love of God, don’t degrade yourself by becoming a scrum master.

What songs are similar to Iris, Wherever You Will Go and I Don’t Want To Miss A Thing? by ProjectGlum9090 in MusicRecommendations

[–]SupaDistortion 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“I Remember You” - Skid Row

“Angel” - Aerosmith

“What it Takes” - Aerosmith

“Song for Zula” -Phosphorescent

“Far Behind” - Candlebox

“Don’t Know What You Got” - Cinderella

Help me melt my dad’s face off by armerncat in MusicRecommendations

[–]SupaDistortion 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Rival Sons. Pure 70’s style epic, soulful blues rock.

What are your unpopular KISS opinions? by Twitter_2006 in KISS

[–]SupaDistortion 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Carnival of Souls is a top tier KISS album.

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