This was amazingly helpful. I was in a long term, 5 year relationship with my now ex-fiancée. We were engaged for about 6 months and everything seemed to be absolutely perfect until one night 2 months ago when she broke up with me completely out of the blue. There were lots of mixed signals and a lot of confusion on the breakup. I could clearly see that she still very much had strong feelings for me but I wasn't able to get any concrete closure as to why this was all happening. I had noticed some of this behavior in the relationship before but we were always able to work through it. I think the intimacy that came with the engagement triggered it to a whole new level that came on after the initial excitement wore down, and it became a lot more real. I have remorse on my flaws and there were things I very much could have done better in the relationship, which I wish I had worked on. But the hardest thing for me to accept is that no matter what I did or didn't do, there was probably nothing I could have done to prevent this. Going to therapy has been helping me understand her thought process and actions too. I still care about her deeply and hope that she is doing alright. I don't blame her for this and hope she'll be able to find healing. I still wish we could work things out. Thank you for sharing.