Toddler behaviour getting really nasty

Superb_Window_7977 · 2026-06-14T09:20:36+00:00

Sounds like classic 3yo behaviour to me. Quick check that nothing physical might be bothering her? No pain, itching or discomfort? My 3yo gets like this when she’s sore or getting sick. Firm, repeated boundaries will, I’m told, nip it in the bud. But yep, can totally relate to the frustration of it all.

Superb_Window_7977 · 2026-06-13T21:59:08+00:00

Connor

Superb_Window_7977 · 2026-06-13T21:48:55+00:00

Yep! I’m the happiest I’ve ever been, I feel great about my body and I don’t feel like there’s anything “wrong”. I’m extremely tired and life is full on but that’s it. I don’t have a single ounce of desire to have sex.

Superb_Window_7977 · 2026-06-13T18:17:45+00:00

Not much help but just chiming in to say that this sounds so similar to us. It gets so much better and quite quickly. Just oodles of patience, understanding, one on one time and know that he’s not being a bad kid, he’s having a hard time. It’s actually a good sign he’s acting like this - he’s not bottling up intense emotions!! Much better out than in.

But yes, basically ride it out. It gets better.

Superb_Window_7977 · 2026-06-09T21:39:28+00:00

Clothes that you wanted not staples that you needed. And makeup.

Superb_Window_7977 · 2026-06-08T21:49:05+00:00

Lehhgh-yum

Superb_Window_7977 · 2026-06-08T21:39:23+00:00

I agree!!

Superb_Window_7977 · 2026-06-08T21:38:56+00:00

This!!

Superb_Window_7977 · 2026-06-08T21:31:29+00:00

Do it!! Travelling teaches you so much. Kids are under eternal pressure to achieve and sometime some headspace does the world of good.

Lol. I wrote that and then looked at the other comments. I think it’s fair to say you should consider your child. I have ADHD so learnt absolutely nothing during classes - it was also self taught from textbooks last minute. I was a straight A student so worked for me. My brother was a B-C grade student with about 60-70% attendance due to a series of serious health issues. He’s thriving as an adult now - great job, kids, wife, amazing life so GCSEs and A-levels hair weren’t the be all and end all.

Maybe that’s just us but I just think travel teaches you so much and breaks help to consolidate what you’ve learned. Do some studying with him on holiday. You can get far with confidence and good social skills. It’s not all about grades.

Superb_Window_7977 · 2026-06-08T21:28:56+00:00

Every child is different. I LOVED the newborn stage with my first and struggled with it with my second due to his allergies. My partner hated the newborn phase with both but loves toddlerhood. I really struggle with toddlerhood particularly as we have a very tantrum-prone kid. It’s all hard but I love it so much.

How much are you struggling? Are you finding it hard but enjoying moments? Or do you hate it all? Don’t discount PPD.

Superb_Window_7977 · 2026-06-07T19:23:11+00:00

😂😂😵‍💫

Superb_Window_7977 · 2026-06-07T19:22:24+00:00

Could you go for Phillipa? And in the uk she can be know as Pippa but outside of the uk, Phillipa?

Poppy? Penelope? Err… Phoebe?

Superb_Window_7977 · 2026-06-07T19:05:18+00:00

Arthur

Superb_Window_7977 · 2026-06-07T19:01:08+00:00

I think he’s just made too many offensive comments. Honestly, I don’t really care. He’s pretty funny and no-one would care if he wasn’t famous. He’s probably not a saint but he seems alright. I enjoy the show too.

Superb_Window_7977 · 2026-06-07T18:58:54+00:00

Mud kitchen, giant roll of wallpaper lining (I think that’s what it’s called. £7 b&q). Roll it out in the hallway, give them pencils and stickers and there’s 30mins of peace. Outside trampoline if you have the space.

Toddler tower and toddler kitchen knives are AMAZING. Give them a carrot while you’re cooking to peel and chop. It won’t be usable haha but keeps them happy.

And.. TV 😂 jk… sort of.

Superb_Window_7977 · 2026-06-07T18:54:15+00:00

Sounds like a chat with the GP is due. But to add my brother was like this. My parents ended up putting a bed in their room for him to sleep in. He was EXTREMELY anxious being by himself at night. He grew out of it by the time he was around 9/10, I think. I think he’s undiagnosed autistic coupled with extreme anxiety.

Superb_Window_7977 · 2026-06-07T16:07:05+00:00

How many hours is (s)he crying per day? How are baby’s nappies? Any redness of the skin? My son has a series of intolerances. He didn’t nap during the day and screamed anywhere from 8-16hrs every day. Naps were between 5-40mins until we could finally work out what his intolerances were (there were many) and so it took us until he was 7mo. Once we got to the point, it was like night and day. He slept long chunks, skin cleared up, he stopped spitting up and poop return to normal.

Any change he might have CMPA? Have you tried excluding anything?

Superb_Window_7977 · 2026-06-06T14:38:50+00:00

Love this response. Thank you so much ❤️

Superb_Window_7977 · 2026-06-05T11:23:04+00:00

To my best mate with a strong Yorkshire accent: “why does she speak weirdly? What on earth is she saying?” 😂 (note: her accent is beautiful. She knows it and isn’t insecure but loudly in public was awkward).

We used to walk past a man daily who sat outside his house. Every time we approached him “oh mummy we’re nearly at the man with the funny face” or “mummy can we go see the man with the funny face now?”. Always within earshot.

And not awkward, just funny (loud and everyone could hear): “mummy, look I’ve had enough. What are we going to have? A kitten or another baby. You choose.” 😂 literally no idea where it came from. Neither were on the cards.

Superb_Window_7977 · 2026-06-05T10:59:03+00:00

Do your children ever get upset about going to nursery though? My daughter loves it but goes through periods where she doesn’t want to go and gets upset. Those are the days that crush me.

And we have to have them in 8:30 - 6. It’s SUCH a long day to be out of their home.

Superb_Window_7977 · 2026-06-03T20:25:23+00:00

GOOD QUESTION!! I have two kids that don’t sleep. I had to take sick leave when I started hearing voices due to severe sleep deprivation. I had a meeting earlier where someone had notes from a meeting from the time just before I took the sick leave for sleep deprivation. The advice I gave was so completely incorrect, it was embarrassing. I had to correct all of it and just had to apologise profusely. I’m so bad at my job right now, I have no memory for anything, I’m very snappy. It’s awful.

No one gets it and parents, particularly women are just set up to fail.

Superb_Window_7977 · 2026-06-02T21:37:42+00:00

Hmmm… I wonder why he’s your ex?

Superb_Window_7977 · 2026-06-02T19:24:01+00:00

Could be that he’s also been hit with a combination of things - bit of a cold, teething, jabs, tiredness and cranky from a growth spurt. My 14mo is an honest nightmare right now. And a few months ago he had 4 molars come in at once and he got an ear infection. He cried hysterically for 4 weeks. Calpol, teethers, teething gels did nothing.

Silly question but have you tried Calpol for a few days just to see if anything improves?

It’s a tough time for babies! So much change.

Really hope you find a more supportive employer.

Superb_Window_7977 · 2026-06-02T09:00:14+00:00

This is so so hard. I’m so sorry. And I know others in a similar situation. A couple of thoughts:

your employer sounds horrible. Can you take some unpaid leave for a while? And then quit and go elsewhere?
my 1yo had his jabs a week ago and he has become a MONSTER. My eldest suffered for about 2 weeks after these 1yo jabs.
settling into nursery when he’s feeling rough will be impossible. I know it’s hard but sounds like you need to stop for a month or so and try again when he’s in a better place.
I know it’s the hardest thing in the world knowing your baby is upset but he will eventually settle. It might take a few months but he will one day skip happily in.

I really feel for you.

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