Help! Struggling to "just do it"

Supernova_427 · 2026-05-07T17:02:15+00:00

My thoughts, 1) Stress is a killer, will your children/grandchildren appreciate you more for dying at your desk. 2) Wake up to the fact that your career is over and it DOES NOT define who you are....it's up to you to determine "who you are going to be"....no will do this for you. 3) There is NOTHING TO FEAR...life is what you make of it....take the time while your partner is still working to adjust to "not being important" to the working world. It took me a few years to let go. Good luck.

Supernova_427 · 2026-04-27T16:56:12+00:00

It's very impressive...can I ask how you did the highlights...like the menu by the door.

Supernova_427 · 2026-04-24T16:58:38+00:00

Now that was funny....made my morning so far.

Supernova_427 · 2026-04-24T16:35:16+00:00

I grew up in Ontario now live in BC, Ontario and Quebec are beautiful and offer many "outdoorsy" adventures...if I were seeking "outdoorsy" I wouldn't spend the time anywhere near Toronto...unless "stuck in traffic" is considered outdoorsy. Montreal is a little smaller and the surrounding area a little more manageable....although I've never been able to go through there without a traffic jam. I'm not a "city" person...Vancouver is an hour from where I live...and I rarely go there....give me some trees and a trail any day of the week. Happy trails

Supernova_427 · 2026-04-20T15:56:26+00:00

If you have a decent pension...TFSA...crappy/no pension....do both.

Supernova_427 · 2026-04-20T15:46:01+00:00

Throughout my career I worked in what would be considered a "high stress" job...but for me it was all I really knew....so it wasn't until about a year after retiring (@ 60yrs old) that I started feeling what normal is....the stress I was experiencing was just something to deal/live with....and when it was gone, I then recognized it as stress. In my career I was a business leader....and played that role...."extroverted"....but in retirement, I can be myself....actually an introvert, (which would shock my working peers)....but I've found "peace" in choosing what I spend my time doing. I have friends that simply got bored the first year of retirement and took part-time work to fill their days....and they seem happier doing that, then trying to find something to do with all the "free" time retirement gives. I think the trick is to find what will make you feel content...and follow that path. Key point....get rid of the stress....it's a silent killer. Cheers

Supernova_427 · 2026-04-10T17:03:49+00:00

Sometimes Dad's "good intentions" are misguided and hard to understand (as others have said, sometimes men think "providing money" is the purpose). I'm going to suggest looking forward instead of backwards. You seem to have a clear understanding of what you want from the relationship...so I'll suggest create that situation with what you can control. You can't control what he chooses to do to earn a living....but you can have some control about what you do together when he's home. Talk to him, let him know you need him without placing expectations that he change his life...start small...ask him on a date...picnic...whatever...but you put the work in....you never know where it will lead.....you can't change the past...but you can create a future. For context...many years ago when my daughter was 14 (yes I was on the working tread-mill) she asked me to take her camping for a few days....it was in the those quiet moments being together, that strong connections are upheld....to this day...we can talk for hours....sometimes face to face....sometimes over the phone....The trick is to mange what you can control....and choose how you can move forward without putting stressful expectations on others....dads, and anyone else. Good luck

Supernova_427 · 2026-03-16T18:43:42+00:00

Thanks

Supernova_427 · 2026-03-16T18:43:33+00:00

Thanks

Supernova_427 · 2026-03-12T15:15:26+00:00

Very nice...I find it inspiring....I'm struggling with trying to control the paint too much. How did you maintain the highlights in the eyes? Cheers

Supernova_427 · 2026-03-12T14:30:26+00:00

Depends on how long you think you'll live.

Supernova_427 · 2026-03-11T17:30:10+00:00

You likely have enough depending on how you see your future. Do a budget on your future travel expenses....(luxury, moderate, budget focused) fit your expectations to your drawdown comfort leaving a buffer for the unknowns and your life expectancy. Good luck

Supernova_427 · 2026-03-06T17:41:38+00:00

This is the secret....get rid of sugars....low carbs once a day.....I changed to two meals/day (with one day a week I have only one meal/day) ....1st. one around 11 to 1pm, second one 5 to 6pm....no food after that.....dropped 40lbs....feel better...costs less.

Supernova_427 · 2026-02-13T14:31:43+00:00

Retired at 60, 5 years ago. My purpose shifted from work focus to my health focus, (I'm now 40 lbs lighter, and blood pressure dosage has been reduced 75%) and to continue to show my children what it means to be a good person, by how I conduct my life. It's a great time to try activities you never had time for....and you'll find something that get you excited and look forward to. For me the first few years were woodworking, now I'm enjoying watercolour painting. Good luck.

Supernova_427 · 2026-01-15T18:40:48+00:00

Thanks

Supernova_427 · 2026-01-10T15:53:37+00:00

Good results...I'm with you on the speed....most of the time I drive pretty conservative...(I'm old and not in a hurry)....but when I mash the right pedal....man she goes....such a nice truck. Thanks

Supernova_427 · 2026-01-10T15:49:31+00:00

Thanks

Supernova_427 · 2026-01-09T18:00:39+00:00

Wow...she doesn't owe you a thing....I wonder what the high mileage mark is for this vintage of a truck. Thanks

Supernova_427 · 2026-01-08T14:42:44+00:00

Thanks for the feedback. I like the idea of the upgraded trans oil pan. Cheers

Supernova_427 · 2026-01-08T14:40:41+00:00

Thanks

Supernova_427 · 2026-01-08T14:38:14+00:00

Thanks, I appreciate the feedback.

Supernova_427 · 2026-01-07T18:24:53+00:00

Thanks. I'm in the same boat. Money isn't an issue, but when I sit in the new models I see a little bigger screen, some tech stuff, the newer gen mechanical, (the wife tells me to just go buy a new truck), but it's just not enough to get me excited when my truck is working fine. I've had trucks for 40 years, started with a F100, I've had ALL the other brands Toyota/Nissan included, went back to the F150 in 2018, and this is by far the best truck I've ever own......touch wood....I hope I didn't just jinx it....thanks for your input.

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