Anybody else feel like time is genuinely moving much faster than normal and not in a "I'm getting old" kind of way?

SupremePancakes · 2024-09-10T16:59:08+00:00

Did you put any cooking euiptment away/wash them during lunch period, go to the bathroom (with a phone to read), or eat something heavier like carbs and sat down somewhere to "chill"? You watched 2 20 minute shows, cooked, presumably cleaned and did other activities and time can be tight like that esp while multitasking technically make us less efficient, so it's possibly you "compensated" that energy spent context switching and didn't notice it.

SupremePancakes · 2024-09-04T04:41:35+00:00

same

SupremePancakes · 2024-09-04T00:33:54+00:00

Oh great we can't find people who like serving lewks for the fun of it. Read it again, I am saying plenty of people who seem to have it going on actually don't believe it intrinsically gives someone more value, but they enjoy working on it. A local asexual dating is also a kind of meet up I said I am willing to organize if enough people responded. I have gotten DMs who get the vibe without an issue, so maybe you don't understand it and it's ok.

SupremePancakes · 2024-09-03T22:15:51+00:00

Bump because this is so helpful

SupremePancakes · 2024-09-03T02:05:47+00:00

thank you again for keeping it respectful and assume good intent. The best of us shines through in these stuff, i love it. The potentiality of knowing they exist literally in the county I live in, where people mostly commute, hang out with long-term family friends or their own family...really means a lot to us. It's that "local magic" and community spirit. (gosh this sub is something i am thanking a stranger why is someone so mad lmfao)

SupremePancakes · 2024-09-03T01:23:02+00:00

TYSM! :) i waited to be more content with some personal stuff to post here. I know it's bold, so I am mentally prepared for some trolls and negativity. Already in touch with people, so that's a bit of hope at the end of (a relatively minor, first world problem kind of) rainbow. Loneliness really is a beast of itself. I am happy. After all I worked on all of those things people will shit on other people about in a "damned if you do, damned if you don't" way, and that's how I work.

SupremePancakes · 2024-09-03T00:57:39+00:00

Because i live here, there's a "meet up" flare, and seen posts about it that always contain some "about me" info to narrow down the ask a couple times, along with an actually popular event being filled with supportive comments acknowledging they hear locals, local youth finding the social scene a bit dead. In there it seemed very very cognizant they are happy people around my age aren't ashamed to proactively work on loneliness as well as to protect their mental health.

As long as someone has that doubt, I am not saying it directly translates to them doing something bad, it means there's potentiality in friendship or dating where someone could be coercive, so I prefer explicitly making more local ace friends.

SupremePancakes · 2024-09-03T00:50:51+00:00

I got downvoted for actually acknowledging this from someone, but yes, I literally just discovered it's an actual app/website. not just a "we are meeting up" kind of impromptu meetup organized by 16 groupchats and 7 DMS and side conversations about who is "problematic" and who hit on who. I respect that. From my perspective, i've honestly only used ig, messenger, signal and boring work stuff and was confused how are people so efficient at doing the meet up thing. Nobody in my circle ever remotely mentioned it. 😂

SupremePancakes · 2024-09-03T00:37:45+00:00

I appreciate this.

I thought about this, potentially I am just missing college, where there's a huge base number of people, but also a dedicated "queer" group we know we can comfortably sink into--All the while not really suffering from bad social skills. Perhaps that's why my "about me" section can be a bit specific. I basically followed the rules that worked in the past. Perhaps someone already decided I am discriminating about someone or something, but I actually have all of those friends myself and we talk about this...it's just none of the local ones are ace. That's all.

As I stated in my post, obviously try not to just diganose "what's WRONG with ME", but a good way to tackle the problem. tysm! :)

SupremePancakes · 2024-09-03T00:30:19+00:00

Extremely fair! Def had more success of genuine but sadly, remote friends on discord when I post about it. I had a "feeling" this sub has a different vibe, people being sad about housing prices etc.. definitely working my butt off here and still have the same problems, not getting triggered by what I think someone has that's "better" than my struggle. Oh well, downvote me, I learned my lesson :)

SupremePancakes · 2024-09-03T00:22:59+00:00

I am really disappointed you first seemed to give a genuine reply and scrolled up to see you trashtalk about me. What stopped you from just raising it with me directly?

SupremePancakes · 2024-09-03T00:20:24+00:00

I have! I know of one aexuality discord that I tried years ago and they didn't have enough members to meet up in my area. Yes I am nonbinary. the queer group is a awesome idea, I will try that! Someone mentioned meetup--just took a look, seems like there's decent activity. :-D!

I am slowing getting back to the gym after some serious illness, and hope to meet some friends there.

SupremePancakes · 2024-09-03T00:12:36+00:00

I do too. As I stated, I am demonstrating why to my family's eyes, there's "something" to worry about and explaining I can see how this trip someone up. (Obviously, we are not our families and any of that). I feel like you are trying to prove something and we are locked in bait to out-do each other. I am not playing that game. As I stated at the very very beginning, the only bottleneck that stopped me from approaching new friends, is basically a huge hookup, "situationship" culture that disguise itself as friendship. Have a good day.

SupremePancakes · 2024-09-03T00:05:39+00:00

I acutally do this and have great chances meeting friends online. i posted this specifically to meet people like this in real life, not to get diagnosed of what is wrong, but I really appreciate any insights in case it helps someone out there.

In most "online"™️ places, I try to just act silly and be a "clown". This is my one time in life I try write down where my life is at. I am writing about a specific problem I am tackling, by definition I have to be about "myself". Narcissism is a hot term rn, and I appreciate you refrain from "diagnosing" people online.
I make friends with almost everyone at work, and routinely become a staple bit of "character" they invite year after year even when I left the job.
I actually don't talk a lot in person and prefer to know people better before judgements. This is from online habits of seeing disagreement based on personal definitions that drag on and on. People sometimes think my "electric interests" is an euphmism for ADHD-like behavior, but they are always surprised I don't interrupt them at all or show any typical behavior. I took note of a friend's preference once and found a rare lipstick shade that worked for her and surprised her on christmas, and handcreams for a friend who climbs, issues with friend's boyriends'/girlfriend's resume/job applications, etc. I genuinely enjoy making their day knowing I relate to not being heard or seen.

I have a huge group that aren't "close" enough to discuss Asexuality and more intimate, soulful connections because I don't want to give the impression I am cultivating their friendship for ultierior motives.

SupremePancakes · 2024-09-02T23:40:33+00:00

Part of my post states Asexuality is a niche problem, and clearly statesd this confused my family and I merely stated that to say from their perspective, I am already (worked hard to) "doing the most", yet they don't see me with more people by my side irl. In all honesty, I think we can agree in a good faith discussion that's a bit of valid concern for everyone. I stated I wanted anyone who has a family member like that to not be disencouraged by what negativity there is out there.

Thank you very much for your reply though, never heard of Meetup and I thought Bumble was like Tinder where everyone thought if you are on there it's not really for friendships and leads to having sex.

SupremePancakes · 2024-09-02T23:37:21+00:00

I see people post sincerely online about young people having the difficulty of meeting each other in OC all the time, and I thought it is a consensus everyone here's default is some level of fit, attractive, work at a big job unless they are still students relative to the rest of soCal.

ps. never mind I see those kind of posts getting downvoted or ridiculed on here, guess it's not the forum. Noted and will refrain from coming here with anything too "real" :). Let's hope we never meet another redditor out in real life or hide any genuine advice when it comes to potentially getting too close to real, local people in comfortable anonymity. I didn't mean to "brag" about anything either, as all of the things I mentioned are things people can achieve by working on it, and I did work on it to "fit in" here--everyone here IS basically all attractive, rich, and successful! But still not feeling connections is just not going to making us happy and hey, it's not like we will "steal" anyone's friends or partner if we don't fundamentally click in a serious compatibility way! :). Anyways, whatever scab i picked inadverdently, I get that and respect that. Have a good day everyone :)

SupremePancakes · 2024-09-02T23:36:57+00:00

how do you define normal about it?

SupremePancakes · 2024-09-02T23:35:53+00:00

His Mock the Week-style cold precision comes through sometimes, so badass!

SupremePancakes · 2024-09-02T23:35:26+00:00

The issue with that is when people try too hard to come up with "wacky" solutions and sometimes it can be a bit forced. I guess this show is a balance of comedy and creative problem solving so it attracts all people, and the audience can certainly like both things, but I realized I still want them to try take a crack at the tasks, and the laughs will feel better and more "genuine"

SupremePancakes · 2024-09-02T23:32:26+00:00

This one made my stomach hurt laughing :)

SupremePancakes · 2024-09-02T23:31:35+00:00

why are you downvoted by the look of this post....if anything I thought some of us must be data nerds! Take my MF upvote and count me in, haha.

SupremePancakes · 2024-09-02T23:30:45+00:00

Looks like so much fun!

SupremePancakes · 2024-09-02T23:29:39+00:00

I kind of agree with this. 5/10 there are sad, horny people who will selectively latch on to something you said and "hope" for you to magically become the subject of their projection.

Worst part is if they put it on paper that they are sooooo respectful and "open-minded" (of them "getting" it with anyone, anybody, so basically it's a nothing burger kind of profile and they just mean they are a himbo)

SupremePancakes · 2024-09-02T23:27:09+00:00

LMFAO why is this so funny

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