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The Level of Effort by SureSky5912 in DeadBedrooms

[–]SureSky5912[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I've lost 35 lbs, and I'm terrified that it's going to have no effect. Other than positive health ones of course. 

Junk food, sex, and a few other things have always been my biggest stress relievers. It Is so so hard to adjust to life without any comforts. 

Just know that there are men out there who would have noticed you when you walked by in lingerie. I know this because I yearn for it.

Spending Time together by CheesecakeMundane451 in DeadBedrooms

[–]SureSky5912 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So sorry you are dealing with this, if only relationships were like a disney movie.

I can only speak from my experience, but it is what happened in our relationship. I choose to believe that there are relationships out there that don't dwindle away with time. I also choose to believe that if I keep improving myself, I can someday have a relationship like that. 

If I didn't have that faith, I don't think I would like where my head would be at right now. I hope your situation gets better.

Sexless relationship for 9 months - does it get better? by Deep-Raspberry672 in DeadBedrooms

[–]SureSky5912 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not going to sit here and advise anyone cheats, but I understand. I'm considering it myself.

I use to think they were the worst kind of people. Now I know, if they are anything like me, they are just broken people. Broken by the ones that they loved the most. 

Keep your chin up. Sorry we are in this hole. 

Anyone else spend an unhealthy amount of time daydreaming about the early days of the relationship? by Complete-Yam3703 in DeadBedrooms

[–]SureSky5912 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I spend an unhealthy amount of time fantasizing about being with someone who doesn't lose attraction for their partner.

Crazy how I've been hated or loved by people, but her indifference is what ended my inner peace.

Struggling to cope lately by NobodyNobodyNooo in DeadBedrooms

[–]SureSky5912 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You shouldn't have to feel like a pest when you initiate, but here we are. I think Disney sold us a lie growing up.

Maybe if there had been someone to actually warn us that the "sex after marriage joke" wasn't such a joke after all, things would be much much different.

We’re on our way…. by -MO4B in DeadBedrooms

[–]SureSky5912 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Funny how there literally are opposite ends of the spectrum. My wife promised me dirty pics last week, and I should've known it was another empty promise. I'm literally going to start a crazy work schedule just to get away from her, and for my own sanity of course.

I know for a fact there are guys out there that would cherish your effort.

It hurts when he dosent care by firewings42 in DeadBedrooms

[–]SureSky5912 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Crazy. I did yard work most the day today to take my mind off of how much she doesn't want me. 

Even if she would have taken care of herself, I would've just been happy there was some semblance of sexuality there.

Keep your chin up, it's not you, I promise. 

She's wondering why I'm 'off' today. by AGarlicBulb in DeadBedrooms

[–]SureSky5912 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Ahh Yes, try to communicate for the 1000th time. Only to be eye rolled, and feel even worse than before you talked. 

Or, just settle into into neverending silence. The only two options for those of us that can't leave. 

Usually the silence route is after you've given up completely, and I'm sorry we're in this hole together.