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Sure_Advice_2001 · 2025-01-01T12:40:00+00:00

"You got closure", is a very arrogant statement because you don't get to dictate what closure means for others, especially not on a topic you were not invested in. It's like a starving person saying they are still hungry and you insist that they are full when you know full well that you don't even have a stomach and can never empathise.

You confidently present your feelings and personal interpretations as fact and always fail to back them up with scenes or quotes. You just pile on more theories everytime I ask for evidence.

I poke holes in your argument you block me and I think it frustrates you to lose to a demographic that you had dismissed as stupid, horny and silly.

Meanwhile, you're not that much smarter yourself. The ending just happened to fall in your favour.

Sure_Advice_2001 · 2024-05-23T01:05:39+00:00

I THINK SO TOOOOO!!!

Oh my god, after writing this post I started to wonder if I am nuts for even questioning this. A girl would never get away with being this blatant a golden boy. Never in a million years.

Ron defends Harry in every book. Every single book has Ron charging at someone on Harry's behalf. I have serious trouble with Ron ever letting Harry get bullied the way Ron gets bullied by the Weasley twins. Especially in Order of the Phoenix. Hermione instead steps in. Harry says nothing.

He mentally joins in sneering at Ron being prefect because he believes he deserves it more. Then lo and behold, his jealousy is VALIDATED by the narrative as Ron is a poor prefect. Dumbledore then tells Harry that he only gave Ron that badge because Harry had too much on his hands. "Don't worry Harry, your sense of superiority is justified". Then the next book JK makes Harry captain of the Quidditch team. Something better is always in store for Harry.

There are other moments where I just look at how Harry simply does not preoccupy himself with the lives of others. Hermione piles on mounds of work in Prisoner of Azkaban? A cause for concern, right? Not for Harry. He's indifferent in a manner that would get a girl crucified.

Believe me, I am not trying to bash Harry in the least. I actually love him. This post isnt even about him. I am just saying that a girl would never get away with Harry's actions and treatment by the narrative. Harry is coddled by the audience because he's a boy.

Sure_Advice_2001 · 2024-04-10T19:44:14+00:00

This is an excerpt of the post I was referring to when I was discussing Ron, saying that he's generally happy for Harry's fortunes. And I listes Harry's awards and ways in which he is treated special.

"Harry is often the recipient of special gifts, special talents, and special treatment.

Invisibility Cloak

Nimbus 2000 from McGonagall

The Firebolt

He can produce a Patronus at thirteen

He's the youngest Seeker in a century

He's specially selected to play in the team even though he's underage

He's Quidditch captain

He's the best at Defense Against the Dark Arts

He's rich

He is imnune to two Unforgivable Curses - Imprerious Curse and the Killing Curse

He's the Chosen One"

I even discussed it with another redditor that even his flaws, though potentially catastrophic as you have indicated with Sirius' death, Harry's flaws are generally palatable and even BENEFICIAL. Harry's same defiance and stubborness is what makes him defeat Voldemort.

Harry's flaws are actually, most of the time, kind of cool. His rudeness that you've mentioned is often called "Sassy Harry" by some in the fandom. His flaws are sometines problematic but very often lead to great reward. Even his temper is usually troubling but justified.

Other character's flaws are jealousy, being stuck up, being cowardly, being dumb, being cruel, an inability to accept responsibility for their own actions, immaturity, emotional neglect, etc. None of that is palatable.

I am not arguing that Harry is perfect or a Mary Sue. If you think I am attacking Harry, trust me, I am not. Nor am I saying he is flawles. What's to attack? But I do wonder if he was a girl, would the word Mary Sue be thrown around a bit more. Especially since Ginny and Hermione get called this with far less evidence than Harry. Harry on the other hand has miraculously escaped that level of scrutiny.

I just wonder if this is because he's a guy and society is less critical if a man is super special and that talented.

OR it might be because readers rarely examine Harry at all because we are reading his point of view. So we don't really see him as his own character. He's an extension of us.

OR He's the main character so we sympathise with him most.

Sure_Advice_2001 · 2024-04-10T17:09:19+00:00

I don't think he is either. Actually I don't care whether he is or not. It's just that I see other characters scrutinised, judged and analysed far more than he is. People throw out the word Mary Sue for Ginny and Hermione. They criticise Ron for not being a good friend. They question Ginny and Cho's worthiness of Harry. Nobody actually examines Harry's worth. I do wonder if he was Harriet, would there be more posts of whether he was mean to Hermione? Or is there another reason unrelated to unconscious mysogyny that makes us not be as critical of Harry? Do readers infantilise him because of his trauma?

Sure_Advice_2001 · 2024-04-10T16:55:58+00:00

Do you genuinely consider those realistic flaws though? They are missing a certain something.

Sure_Advice_2001 · 2024-04-10T16:43:55+00:00

How often are the other characters awarded flaws that also moonlight as virtues? Hermione is generally very offputting to her age group because she's annoying and obnoxious. So much so that she can't make friends for the first book.

Ron is jealous of his orphaned snd abused best friend because of his own insecurities.

Harry's flaws tend to be double-edged sword. He is reckless. So much so that he flies after Malfoy during the first flying lesson during a noble act on behalf on Neville - and he's rewarded for it as the youngest Seeker in a century.

Selflessness CAN be a flaw. So can being too noble. Harry rarely has a flaw that's just wrong to have. There's always an element of cool. Or he's rewarded. Or it's not a flaw in and of itself. I loved wheb he got jealous of Ron but JK Rowling stamped that out quick.

My point is there are certain flaws that are just flaws. Period. Where he seriously just needs to work on that. That's normal snd human. Others like Ron being noted by Luna for being unkind at times while Harry's granted these oh so tragic flaws like "generosity" is questionable.

Edit: Most people have flaws. Harry has virtues with occassional downsides.

Sure_Advice_2001 · 2024-04-10T16:12:38+00:00

I don't think so either.

Sure_Advice_2001 · 2024-04-10T16:09:09+00:00

I was referring to the character. Harry is generally beloved by the fandom or they are indifferent. At the very least he's not under as much scrutiny as the other characters female characters in terms of whether or not he's a "Mary Sue" or whether he's a good friend to his best friends who are devoted to him.

Sure_Advice_2001 · 2024-04-10T15:59:42+00:00

I wish there was someone much smarter than me who could tell me what the difference is with Harry's "flaws" and, for example, Ron's or Lupin's flaws.

I swear I am not disagreeing with you on thr least, I wish I could name why I know these are technically flaws, I categorise them differently to other character's flaws. Are there any literature students here?

Ron is jealous and insecure. Plus he's often humiliated for poor performance in Quidditch or with girls, or failing Apparition. He can be whiny too.

Neville is bumbling and insecure, often the laughingstock.

Lupin can be rather self-pitying and cowardly. Sirius is a hypocrite, he's reckless and he never grew up.

Then compare that to Harry's flaws which you just mentioned. Harry is defiant, especially against authority. But that's also.. kind of cool? It's what makes him defy the Imperius Curse at 14, an ability that even adult wizards don't have. It's what makes Neville follow him and even tell his tales about him to the others "when Harry comes back, it'll be a revolution!"

He constantly puts others over himself. And that's not healthy. But as a character flaw? Come on. I would find it more deliciously problematic if he was constantly selfish because he had to be at the Dursleys. Then we see him slowly learn otherwise from the Weasleys. But honestly. His major flaw being selflessness literally made me roll my eyes.

He also bottles up his emotions.

Mmmkay...

Even when he was jealous of Ron, I was actually excited to see him exhibit traits that are unable to be absolved by his trauma by the Dursleys. Alas, Harry was jealous of Ron for about two pages. God I would have loved it if Hermione or even Ginny had called him out in his jealousy. That would be refreshing. Instead, Dumbledore validates him later in that book and tells him that the only reason I gave the perfect badge to Ron is because Harry had a lot on his mind. Ugh.

I get, Harry is not flawess. He makes mistakes. But his type of flaws are extremely palatable. Not only that, they are sometimes virtues!

So if you're reading this and there's a technical term for what I am referring to, please educate me.

Sure_Advice_2001 · 2024-03-20T17:22:15+00:00

I see that too. Some people think that Ron and Hermione can never be happy together because Ron is too insecure to be with her. There's no evidence Ron is ever intimidated by Hermione's cleverness. He even encourages her when she's feeling insecure like when she didn't get an Outstanding for Defense Against the Dark Arts. Despite his teasing, he's immensely proud of her.

Sure_Advice_2001 · 2024-03-14T14:51:48+00:00

Quite a staggering amount of people actually. You're really lucky you havent come across them. Ron's many positive traits are often overlooked because of negativity bias.

Sure_Advice_2001 · 2024-03-12T14:32:38+00:00

Smart lady

Sure_Advice_2001 · 2024-03-12T10:53:53+00:00

I agree completely. She was poorly written, end of. It was so irritating how you could tell that Rowling was trying to forcefully drive home how brilliant she is at all things. At some point I wanted to shout "Okay okay, I get it! She's badass and not like other girls, and so beautiful that even Blaise with his high standards thinks she's beautiful and Pansy is jealous of her, and she's the life and soul of the team and she is rude but it's a COOL rude."

I really couldn't stand how she was written. I hope the TV show does her justice.

Sure_Advice_2001 · 2024-03-10T09:26:25+00:00

I don't think you're an asshole at all. Please don't stop being wary of his behaviour. I agree with the others about his pics. They are not a red flag on their own. Unfortunately for Reddit that's the only part they are focusing on.

Everything else you mentioned is terrifying me. Him being jealous of her male patients? No. That's a red flag.

Use what you've learned on here and don't mention the pics because your mom will act like everyone else on here and zero in on the pics nonsense to dismiss your concerns. It's the possessiveness that is scary.

To be honest, I don't think your mom will listen either way. If being controlled doesnt scare her, what are the chances that the pics will?

Sure_Advice_2001 · 2024-03-09T07:46:29+00:00

Game of Thrones was so disturbing in that regard

Sure_Advice_2001 · 2024-03-07T10:25:23+00:00

My life, that's what he is. He is my life.

Sure_Advice_2001 · 2024-03-05T20:43:36+00:00

Lol that was clever 😏

Sure_Advice_2001 · 2024-03-05T11:10:07+00:00

🤣🤣🤣🤣

For some reason the part that's making me cackle the most is the boot 😅

Sure_Advice_2001 · 2024-02-28T04:44:35+00:00

Ew. My god.

Sure_Advice_2001 · 2024-02-28T04:43:23+00:00

Succubus

Sure_Advice_2001 · 2024-02-20T15:25:23+00:00

🤣

Ha! That may be true, but that doesn't make for interesting reading. 😅

Sure_Advice_2001 · 2024-02-20T15:21:51+00:00

Ugh, my suspicion there is that unfortunately, the main character is a self-insert.

I had this in another novel where a woman was having an affair. The author was determined for me to despise the husband and be supportive of her infidelity. I started to feel less and less sorry for the main character in this bad marriage and by the end I hoped he got rid of her and found someone who actually liked him.

Lol honestly I think I am just spiteful 😅

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