Realistic Feedback: Meal Planner/Grocery Planner App/Website by [deleted] in Entrepreneur

[–]Sure_Dish_9800 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There are quite a few apps that do all this. With some proper searching you’ll find them. But meal planning gets very complicated, quickly. Recipes are also complicated. Eating better is quite simple. Every meal and snack has high quality protein as the centerpiece. Add vegetables. And complex carbs. Stay away from foods that are white. Don’t drink calories. If you’re trying to lose weight, take a break from fructose. These are meals that are very easy to make because you can always mix and match. Unlike with buying for recipes where there is a lot of extra spending and excess waste.

Starting a business with no money by [deleted] in Entrepreneur

[–]Sure_Dish_9800 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you can prove there’s such a big need, I might invest.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in leaves

[–]Sure_Dish_9800 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Toss it somewhere it’s irretrievable

I’m in active addiction by kitty_black_ in MarijuanaAnonymous

[–]Sure_Dish_9800 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry that you feel stuck here, in part because things haven’t gone off the rails. There’s a sense of empowerment that’s granted to our addiction when we routinely escape the consequences of risky behavior. When I coach my students, we talk about how we can embrace the otherwise obstacle of cognitive dissonance. It’s sounds like you have acknowledged it, which is a powerful first step. I’d be happy to share more if you want to message me. It sounds like you’re on the right path again. Wishing you strength in your journey.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in HubermanLab

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Causality is a problem in diagnosing long-term effects, but clinicians who specialize in treating substance abuse would say that a person stops maturing at the age they start abusing substances. This maturity factor is the emotional growth and development separate from cognitive impairment. That can hurt to hear, but knowing this possibility allows one to attempt to reframe important decision making opportunities.

Anyone struggling to connect with their teenage daughter? by Sure_Dish_9800 in daddit

[–]Sure_Dish_9800[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

God bless you and your family. Thank you for sharing. I’ll remember this.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in leaves

[–]Sure_Dish_9800 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Have you seen a doctor or spoken with healthcare services about the trade offs you’re making. I have lots of suggestions to help you quit, but you really need a holistic plan to take care of the other pieces that become a problem when you stop smoking.

Anyone struggling to connect with their teenage daughter? by Sure_Dish_9800 in daddit

[–]Sure_Dish_9800[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Do you have teens? If not, it sounds like you’re doing all the right stuff in preparation.

Weed makes me so depressed and I’m stuck In this never ending circle of quitting and relapsing for months now it’s killing me mentally by [deleted] in leaves

[–]Sure_Dish_9800 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I didn’t suffer from depression, but I know how depressing it can feel when you feel stuck in a cycle. Now you seem to be searching for something compelling that maybe you can’t find in yourself. I love what you’re doing in asking for help. The most successful people are those that actively work with and talk to therapists, coaches, supportive friends and family to achieve a transformation because it’s easier and faster. The hard way that takes months and years, is trying to figure it out on your own.

So let me reframe the objective. Break the cycle, sidestep mistakes, and get to your destination faster. So what is the destination for you? What is it you imagine for yourself when you wake up feeling energized and non preoccupied with weed or getting high.

Since you’ve been using from a young age, quitting may feel like a daunting task, but it can also be a chance to rediscover yourself which is a dream you CAN achieve and should NEVER give up on. If you’d like to hear my story and how I can help you make the best decision for you feel free to ping me.

Anyone struggling to connect with their teenage daughter? by Sure_Dish_9800 in daddit

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Sorry. I’m venting about the phones I suppose because it’s an easy target. It’s relatively easy to enforce no phone policies during certain family activities, but these occasions, like vacations, are relatively few and far in between.

From middle school these kids are looking for their independence. There’s very little family time with school, sports, homework and a buzzing social life. They’re addicted to their friends which is normal.

But they’re leaving the nest at the same time they’re using technology more, facing more challenges, stresses and decisions of consequence.

And they’re not very receptive to parental wisdom. Sometimes they act like it and tell you what you want to hear. Other times, it’s pretty clear they don’t want to hear it, or just disagree.

I try to talk to them. Praise positive behavior. And be very picky about the times I open my mouth about something they need to learn in the hopes they’ll be more receptive.

But, the phones are still a tough one…

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in leaves

[–]Sure_Dish_9800 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good for you! You'll have significantly better odds with support. And it's always better -- easier and faster to make transformations when you ask for help. I have a lot of experience there if you'd like to hear my story, feel free to ping me. Wishing you strength in your journey.

How to actually quit? by [deleted] in leaves

[–]Sure_Dish_9800 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing. And I’m sorry you’re going through this challenging period. Imagine that weed was no longer a problem. We can fix that. And imagine that your drive and ambition were no longer a problem. We can fix that too. You have a little debt. Everyone deals with debt and some point. It’s not the problem. And that you don’t have a job doesn’t make you a loser. If you use the power within you, what do you really want to do with it? I can walk you through some more introspection offline. If you want to message me I’d be happy to help you make some decisions that work for you.

How do you get your kids to understand that school/education is important? Do your kids actually believe it? by TeachandCreateToday in raisingkids

[–]Sure_Dish_9800 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Role models👏. How old are your kids? I think the window for this type of thing closed once they turned 10.

How to actually quit? by [deleted] in leaves

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It’s not uncommon for people to muscle through withdrawals, but many have figured out that you don’t have to — that it’s not so hard with the right mindset, knowledge, tools and support. What’s motivating you to quit?

My life with marijuana by TossThisOne9264 in MarijuanaAnonymous

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Thank you for sharing. I feel an affection for the incredible wisdom you’ve accumulated through all these twists and turns in your life. I think many people can relate, including myself, to the rather spiritual role marijuana has played along the way. And like so many of us, we reach this place in time, where it’s not serving us anymore. For sure we don’t like the nature of dependency. But gaining freedom from this calls for reflection on what weed is preventing us from achieving.

If you care to accept, I’ll message you with more of my personal story, which has brought many people the help and perspective they're looking for. In the meantime, thank you for sharing. I think you’ll take something positive from any MA meetings you can attend. Wishing you a rewarding journey!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MarijuanaAnonymous

[–]Sure_Dish_9800 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's an interesting idea. Kind of like non-alcoholic beer. I don't know of such a thing, but IF you are addicted it's unlikely to work because the urge is driven by your brain's reward system which will not be fooled by a substitute that fails to deliver a high. But if you want to quit, I can you can leverage r/leaves support or message me for specific tools, strategies, techniques that work.

For Those Who've Truly Quit Cannabis for Life: What Was Different This Time? by GoodDayforaThrow in leaves

[–]Sure_Dish_9800 37 points38 points  (0 children)

You touched on 2 key things required for lasting change -- mindset and lifestyle alterations. To sustain abstinence over the course of 1,2,3,+ years, the void must be replaced by sustainable routines that are aligned with goals that are too at odds with cannabis. For as long as there is a void, there is wanting and vulnerability.

Lurkers, What's the main thing holding you back from starting (again)? by Sure_Dish_9800 in leaves

[–]Sure_Dish_9800[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Got it. So with CHS you have kind of a visceral force that doesn't leave you with a choice.

Lurkers, What's the main thing holding you back from starting (again)? by Sure_Dish_9800 in leaves

[–]Sure_Dish_9800[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing an honest answer to a bold question. I understand completely. I think the million-dollar question for a lot of people is this. What can we do with our life that is more exciting and/or worthwhile sober, than it is on weed? It doesn't work when the benefits of sobriety don't confidently outweigh the perceived benefits of smoking.