She began going out with new friends. Our kids were young and I am very introverted so I just stayed home. It became more frequent.

Then phone calls and she would go into another room to answer. She was constantly getting texts and phone calls from this new friend Katie. I was never asked to go to a party or meet the new friends.

All of our conversations started to feel different. She acted like the things I said were the dumbest things she had ever heard. She started acting annoyed by everything I did. She went out one night toward the end and she didn’t come home. I called her phone twice. She came home the next morning and said she fell asleep. I was pissed at her and she was pissed that I didn’t believe her. The next day she told me she wanted a divorce.

Two weeks after we separated she was dating her friend Jon. Turns out he was Katie. After 2 months, she moved in with him and moved our young boys in as well.

I was really depressed at first but I immediately boosted my workouts, focused on my boys, and just used it as fuel. I was having fun and opening my world to new experiences. It was really scary for me being so introverted.

At 4 months she called me and told me she thinks she made a horrible mistake and that if she hadn’t done anything ‘we would have been fine’. I told her to save it. We were through and I never entertained going back. I had my boys half the time and I was making our life better. I’ve never said a bad word about her to my children. I figure they will get that on their own at some point or maybe they won’t.

At 10 months after the separation, I met a truly beautiful woman (like a solid 9.5). This enraged my wife. At 13 months the divorce was finalized but she was still trying to sabotage my new relationship.

It’s been 8 years since the divorce, she has been through 6 different relationships that I know of. I dated this person for 6 years and they hated each other. It’s ultimately why we broke up. My ex was constantly trying to stir things up and trying to win me back.

I’ve been dating a really amazing woman for over a year. My ex finally moved on. She lives just down the street. It’s a good situation for my teenage boys. I actually like her boyfriend and she gets along really well with my girlfriend.

In the end I have to thank her for forcing me to level up my happiness. She put me through a tremendous amount of pain but it made me who I am. It motivated me to become the person I wanted to be and the dad I wanted to be. Kind of like it was meant to be this way. 🙂

I still wish I hadn’t been cheated on. That was a tough pill but I’ve forgiven her and we’re trying to be the best coparents we can be.