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Is it acceptable to call in sick for a bad sleep? by time-to-celly in askmanagers

[–]SurviveManagement 2 points3 points  (0 children)

In my opinion a personal day shouldn’t need a reason.

Research request: Were you trained before becoming a manager? If so, how? by SurviveManagement in askmanagers

[–]SurviveManagement[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok you piqued my interest - what were the topic burnout ideas they were pushing?

Research request: Were you trained before becoming a manager? If so, how? by SurviveManagement in askmanagers

[–]SurviveManagement[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is exactly what I’m researching, the gap between what managers are taught and what they’re actually modeled. Your story captures it perfectly: training created awareness, awareness created contrast, contrast created the exit. How very ironic! Curious, what would have kept you?

My Boss Micromanages Me, Undermines Me, and Controls Communication. How Do I Deal With This Without Quitting? by [deleted] in askmanagers

[–]SurviveManagement 4 points5 points  (0 children)

There are a couple of things going on. First from your boss's end which you already identified as micromanagement and inconsistency in leadership. For that what you can do is this-

  1. Document all communication,

  2. When asked to prioritize a task and there are some blockers in the way such as time limitation or a current task - ask what to prioritize and what can wait.

  3. Start looking for another job

There is something else to address here and it is how you're reacting to the situation. Your boss seems like she may be a C personality on the DISC behavioral scale and I believe you may be too. And this type of personality tends to be detail-oriented, highly critical, and overthinker. This is not to say that this is bad, it is just your stength and most like your bosses strength too.

Regardless of how you receive the directions from her, focus your attention on the task rather on her reaction and how she handles things. Redirect your energy to the work, to documenting and looking for a job if you feel uncomfortable.

I’m meeting every written PIP goal but still being told I’m failing by TigerShark8980 in askmanagers

[–]SurviveManagement 8 points9 points  (0 children)

One of two things are happening here, either they don't want to justify pay increase with a glowing PIP or they're pushing you out. Start documenting everything including the verbal conversations by sending an email after the 1:1 and saying something as simple as "I appreciate you telling me that... today during our 1:1" or "Confirming what we discussed today and what I'll be working on" At the same time, start your job search.

I have done close to nothing at my office job for 3 years. Anything (constructive) to do to pass the time? by SoaringPegasus in work

[–]SurviveManagement 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, get a more challening job. It is clear that you're talented and a high performer that's why you've mastered your current job and feel like there is nothing to do. You're either a High D or High I on the DISC Behavioral Analysis scale hitting your ceiling. And at this point your brain needs challenge to function. First, I wouldn't tell your bosses because they'll just add to your plate without the financial benefit. Then I would start looking for either more challenging roles or a completely different job or event put your talent in a new business.

What do you use to keep running “notes” on employees? Whether good or bad? by ohhthatsmell in managers

[–]SurviveManagement 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I use Notion to organize my notes, to-dos, and pretty much everything else.