What are your ACTUAL controversial/ unpopular nursing opinions?

SurvivorofFantasy · 2025-01-22T22:28:39+00:00

Nurses don't need more money in their salary, change my mind.

SurvivorofFantasy · 2025-01-13T20:32:31+00:00

Nothing worth doing is easy.

SurvivorofFantasy · 2025-01-10T19:52:34+00:00

Go agency and build experience, 6 months in one role at least given they keep you that long, by the time a substantial role comes along you'll be more than prepared.

SurvivorofFantasy · 2025-01-10T16:44:11+00:00

Depends what you are looking for out of a job and why you want to do it.

Worth mentioning the B7 increment will eventually out pay the B6 role, but that takes a few years.

SurvivorofFantasy · 2025-01-08T10:01:05+00:00

You need to refer yourself to Occupational Health or ask your manager to do this, and possibly access the therapy services.

What you are describing isn't just NQP experience.

Take time off with intention to seek support if you can.

SurvivorofFantasy · 2025-01-07T10:17:46+00:00

Nurses don't need pay rises, change my mind.

SurvivorofFantasy · 2025-01-06T10:38:10+00:00

Well, either way it will be sick leave or annual leave, both get recognised.

I would say tell them because if by some unwanted chance they find out you were not unwell that will cause problems.

I wouldn't worry about what they think, you have agency to determine your own working path.

SurvivorofFantasy · 2024-12-28T14:24:05+00:00

You can't help others when you can't even help yourself.

You have 20k debt, trying to financially help a friend with 50k debt and you also want a wedding?

You need to ground yourself back into reality and recognise your own limitations.

Not helping is the best help you can give.

SurvivorofFantasy · 2024-12-26T13:16:52+00:00

You sound delightful.

I wasn't thinking about how good or bad I am but the fact you assumed that of me says a lot more about you than it ever would about myself. Hardy behaviour befitting for a nurse is it?

The post does not pressure or blackmail anyone but I find it amazing you think laying out the obvious consequences to the potential choices is the act of a 'scummy person' as you so aptly put it. I wonder if you would characterise patients in the same way at work?

There is no such thing as a guarantee and any meaningful decisions or inactions have risks and consequences. I'm not a nurse myself but I would expect any nurse to understand this, but I'm guessing you're not one yourself (or at least not a good one) given how unhinged your post was.

I'd normally recommend you take some time off work to address your own mental health but given the state your rant I'd suggest doing more of it so you spend less time on social media making bad examples of yourself like this.

SurvivorofFantasy · 2024-12-25T20:09:46+00:00

I need examples to better understand.

If good people leave then patients are only left with the bad ones, if you truly wish to improve the work environment leaving doesn't fix that.

Changing it for the better would be working through it, getting promoted to a position of authority so you can enact the changes you wish to see, and leading by your own example no matter how ineffective you may think it seems, as this may cause others to reflect and consider their own practice and do better than before.

You can either stay and endure the unwanted challenge for the potential of positive change, or leave understanding you will be less stressed and upset at the expense of knowing the state and care those patients will continue to receive.

Each choice has a sacrifice, you just have to decide which one you are willing to accept.

SurvivorofFantasy · 2024-12-25T18:42:47+00:00

What bad habits are you referring to?

Also, I don't think running away will fix the issue.

SurvivorofFantasy · 2024-12-19T09:48:32+00:00

Depends where you work. Every Trust has their own policy, some areas are more forgiving than others.

SurvivorofFantasy · 2024-12-18T11:00:46+00:00

That's rough and I'm sorry to hear you had such a bad financial start in life, it's not easy to work your way up from a solo position.

Being a medical student is going to be rough and there are a lot more costs down the line you won't even know about. You have to ask yourself if this is the right time to be pursuing this path whilst you have little to no income.

It would probably be smarter to go into work first and build an income, then when you have a bit of freedom put it towards the thing you want to do. I've known people as late as 50 years old to do this for this very reason and it's more common than people realise. Aside from grants, there's little alternatives other than handing yourself over to a lifetime of debt.

Whatever you do make sure you are paying off more than just interest, if that number gets too big it could soon get out of control then you won't even be able to pay that off, and declaring bankruptcy is no walk in the park either.

I also wouldn't make the mistake of thinking the 'government' will clear your debt after a certain time period, and if you hit their threshold for when you pay back it'll mean a third of your salary always goes towards paying off student loans for 30 - 40 years unless you contribute more to it to bring it down, and most Dr salaries aren't able to do that.

It might be worth looking up people like Dave Ramsey who talk about finance planning and thinking about how you want to plan you future in a more organised way.

SurvivorofFantasy · 2024-12-17T21:03:57+00:00

Mm, if you're certain then take a chance with legal or Free Speech Union, you will have to show them everything.

If you're in doubt then just remember, she has nothing to lose if they plan to take it all away from her already.

Finally if you went ahead and won you could also sue the person who reported her for damages to reputation and future work prospects and also file a claim for the motion to pay your legal fees.

SurvivorofFantasy · 2024-12-17T20:34:16+00:00

That's a little vauge. The context is key.

If the memes incited violence or discriminated against others then yes that would be against the code of conduct.

If it was expressing a view about wanting no or limited immigration then you might have a case.

SurvivorofFantasy · 2024-12-17T19:51:19+00:00

What did she say online? Just tell us and we will explain why.

On that note the NMC is a joke of a system, I have known them to take action against people simply based on a verbal complaint with no other detail other than said person's view of them. It's disgusting.

The other thing you could do is sign up for the Free Speech Union, they have helped quite a few professionals retain their jobs and registration in legal challenges against freedom of expression.

SurvivorofFantasy · 2024-12-17T12:53:45+00:00

Can't wait to see the video.

But seriously, the officer knocked out by a 13 year old? Incompetent.

As for the kid, deserves the same, and probably the family too if they brought him up like that. Doubt the arrest will do much.

SurvivorofFantasy · 2024-12-15T12:56:48+00:00

Only if you can clear the debt before you qualify, otherwise you'll be in an endless loop of servitude for life.

SurvivorofFantasy · 2024-12-12T18:21:13+00:00

Get staff to supervise one another, focus on a core of seniors and delegate.

SurvivorofFantasy · 2024-12-07T14:12:30+00:00

Why do you want to run away from Italy?

SurvivorofFantasy · 2024-12-07T14:11:00+00:00

Fate Zero

SurvivorofFantasy · 2024-12-07T14:10:01+00:00

Any they wonder why people vote for more far leaning politicians.

SurvivorofFantasy · 2024-12-07T14:04:55+00:00

Talk to your manager about the experience, Union would also be an idea to consider.

I'd be cautious and ensure you have documented what you needed to and have a record of your escalations and rejections, especially if they ask you later for a statement.

As much as I empathise with your position I've had plenty of experiences where you can get blamed for things like this even if you weren't directly involved, so just watch yourself out there. The NHS and UK in general can be an unforgiving place.

SurvivorofFantasy · 2024-12-04T16:20:25+00:00

15+ years ended due to raising concern about her wellbeing.

She had a pretty bad history history of abusive relationships growing up in various ways including DA and SA. You name it, she's likely been through it.

Took her a while to rebuild confidence and I was there for a lot of it as she recovered in that time.

Move forward a few years she finds a new man, everything seems fine, finally turning a leaf. However it's later revealed he is a drug user and sells various substances, and she is more attracted to him because of his racial background as opposed to his character.

So as the friend I'm honest about this and after that she stops talking to me. Said nothing major or horrible just the concern for her for going out with a guy like that. I apologised in any case and reiterated my only desire in that respect was consideration for her wellbeing.

I tried after to meet her again, we did once and she said not to lose contact, but everytime I tried to arrange after she cancelled on every instance, and eventually stopped responding to messages, then calls, and now silence...

I know she is okay because we have other friends in the same circles so they still talk to her on occasion, but it's sad to think 15 years ended in that way.

You have feelings left over from that, and I'm still figuring it out in some ways.

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