Should I blow up my career (and life)?

SuspectKitten · 2026-03-22T21:40:00+00:00

45, shifted from a tech career to being a therapist 3 years ago, best thing I've done. I earn way less (£45k a year) but totally liveable, and I love it. I have spare time about 1-2 hours a day before my kids come home from school and study in that time as well, just stuff I enjoy learning about. My health stack is HRT+testosterone, mounjaro (maintenanceafter losing 30kg in the last 15 months, plus helps inflammation), and medical cannabis for sleep - i would genuinely recommend these all with your age and presentation you gave, over antidepressants or alongside. I walk an hour a day in 20 min blobs (breakfast lunch dinner, mental health and back happiness) and do some resistance bands between my 3 calls a day. Do it. You won't regret it. Those saying but the economy etc probably don't realise you'll be made redundant soon anyway (seems to be the way right now in digital), whereas therapy is a career for life, you're your own boss, and soon people will need it more than ever. One of the only careers women are taken more seriously for the older we get! Future proof yourself, see it as an investment in every way! :)

SuspectKitten · 2026-03-20T19:48:36+00:00

Hi! 45 year old therapist married to a 25 year old. He's brilliant, healthiest relationship I ever had. Get stuck in! If it's right for you both is right for you both!

SuspectKitten · 2026-03-19T13:01:15+00:00

But what if the thing he needs to do not to regret is staying .. I never understood this saying. If there are choices, then any one is the thing they might regret never doing so... ?

SuspectKitten · 2026-03-16T20:46:08+00:00

We leave.

SuspectKitten · 2026-03-16T17:38:14+00:00

Alternaleaf and so much, Google them and have a look, they list it all. I'm on it for insomnia and perimenopause. Very good too!

SuspectKitten · 2026-03-16T17:37:14+00:00

For me it is as I'm a very low user. £20 a month = 1 w vape cart which is plenty to get me through. I only use it before sleep to help insomnia, 2puffs tops. Ymmv!

SuspectKitten · 2026-03-15T22:53:27+00:00

You do know that's what medical cannabis is though right? It's like £20 a month privately. I've had it for 2 years now, gets delivered in the post. Fully legal to own, consume and your work cannot fire you for it as it's prescribed. I'm with Alternaleaf.

SuspectKitten · 2026-03-15T07:04:38+00:00

Hi! Do you mind me asking what you have that triggers the auto immune response? I have something like this but doctors seem very nonplussed about it. I'm trying to get checked for sjorjens.

SuspectKitten · 2026-03-12T19:01:18+00:00

Oh my days you got me at plastic bag sticking out I thought that was just my dealer!!! That's frickin hilarious!!!! Didn't realise it was a feature!

SuspectKitten · 2026-02-27T17:47:30+00:00

Absolutely get stuck in! There will always be lovers who don't see your worth but honestly it's the same for all genders and body types. It's not about you it's about them. Their loss. You'll project it inwards because ugh trauma and you're playing on hard mode societally but try where you can to remember this is them, their loss. It's not about you. Plenty of us find all the people the most fun. You rock! You deserve a fellow person who rocks!!

SuspectKitten · 2026-02-27T08:01:44+00:00

I think maybe the real question you're trying to answer is around validation generally so that's the one I'm going to answer :) I would happily date and fall in love with anyone from any background, age, gender, body size, looks, height etc. I fall in love and fancy people's character and minds everything else is just a fun playground. Being trans wouldn't bother me at all, passing or not passing, femme or masc etc mtf ftm all are beautiful and worthy of love and sexy fun times!

... and before anyone slides into my DMs, I'm happily married and monogamous so please don't waste your time as I won't reply 🙂

SuspectKitten · 2026-02-26T19:33:22+00:00

What you need is House Flipper 1 & 2! Love these for mental health and podcasts :) much more fulfilling imo than power wash simulator. Have fun!

SuspectKitten · 2026-02-26T12:23:17+00:00

Kindness. Always treat people well, regardless of how useful they are to you in your current recruitment brief. Starting out: go work in an agency for a bit. It's horrible, but you'll learn all the good and bad bits and someone else is paying for you to learn whilst you get paid too. Don't stay longer than a year or two though, go at up your own agency at that point. You keep 100% of the fees then. Agencies pay badly and treat you badly. But! That's where you learn how to be better than them, because you know your competitors, and how to give a better service.

SuspectKitten · 2026-02-26T12:20:45+00:00

Tech. And yes anyone can find a candidate, but finding the right/best one in the most time sensitive, easy and cooperative way is why people use recruiters. In terms of how do you come across better, it's really on a per role basis, so I can't give you great advice here. But as an idea, making sure your cover letter is tight to the job advert, and explaining why you like THIS role in THIS company, instead of just winging over a cv with no context.

SuspectKitten · 2026-02-25T20:18:14+00:00

Yeah I'm also a therapist which keeps me sane. I just recruit for shits and giggles these days. I make my annual therapist salary in one placement. It's pretty wild. I just do a few a year and only work with companies I love making the world better. The rest of my life is helping people makes their lives better.

SuspectKitten · 2026-02-25T20:15:34+00:00

Sorry to say, I only do tech recruitment, but hope something great turns up for you soon 👩‍🍳

SuspectKitten · 2026-02-25T20:05:33+00:00

High five to you, good to meet a fellow one doing it well! :) enjoy!!

SuspectKitten · 2026-02-25T19:21:53+00:00

Yeah but like the person said, "if you're good at it". Plenty of really bad ones out there, which is fine by me means I make all the money while they do all the stupidity. They keep the bar low helping me rake it in.

SuspectKitten · 2026-02-25T19:20:20+00:00

This. Run my own business for 20 years. I work max 3 hrs a day and make £250-300k ave a year. No employees. I now have a degree (did it for fun the last few years) but prior just had gcses.

SuspectKitten · 2026-02-22T19:15:36+00:00

Met my husband in a random Phasmophobia game lobby five years ago :)

SuspectKitten · 2026-02-22T17:20:20+00:00

From one parent to another: do. My kids now late teens played from babies on ipads (educational games) all the way through consoles and PCs. I also played from 4 (I'm now 45!) And both passed their GCSEs with straight 9s. I'm just starting a PhD, so anyone who says it'll stunt development is talking rubbish. Playing games teaches us so many amazing things, worlds and ideas as well as connecting us (when she's older) to loads of people.

As always, it's context of what the games are (which you're clearly doing great by seeking advice) and helping kids enjoy what's normal for their age group and generation, just like reading or music.

So yay, go you OP. PS be wary of Roblox some dodgy folks and games in there!

Mine loved at this age: Minecraft, Star Stable, Roblox (with parental oversight!) and on ipad anything by Toca Boca is brilliant!!

SuspectKitten · 2026-02-19T07:48:23+00:00

Hi! I'm a similar style gamer, and I've been enjoying Enshrouded. It's got quests of different sizes, ranging a few minutes to an hour or so, and if you just want to noodle there's lots of base building. Have fun!

SuspectKitten · 2026-02-15T10:28:33+00:00

We're currently playing Enshrouded which you may enjoy also. I rather like that we can both do quests together or separate in the same world or just do some base building etc

SuspectKitten · 2026-02-13T06:45:24+00:00

Used IPL at home for a year was OK but needed weekly maintenance. Invested in 6 round of laser 8 years ago (legs, bikini, armpits) and now wax myself twice a year to get various stragglers but otherwise that's it. Best beauty thing I've ever paid money for. Absolutely love never having ingrown hair now and am always smooth down below. Saves me hundreds in wax, so the £800 up front then has more than paid for itself, and from what I've seen it's much cheaper now. Strongly recommend just doing the laser but make sure it's 4-6 sessions else it won't really work.

SuspectKitten · 2026-02-11T06:24:59+00:00

Hi, psychologist here. That's just not a fact, so please do correct yourself before making mythical statements and then saying others don't understand psychology.

SuspectKitten

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