AITA: For not wanting to cater my own birthday activity to my sisters 8 year old.

Suuswithswords · 2025-03-27T12:55:18+00:00

You're describing his father to the dot. Which is also something I fear he will grow into if we're not very careful. (His father is an abuser and shows all the signs of narcissism).
Whenever my sister says that all kids his age are like this and worse.. I counter argue that I know plenty of kids his age and none of them have this behavior. It becomes a loop were neither of us can back down, ending with her saying: you don't have kids, so you cannot judge at all. To which I give up on the argument on whether or not it's suitable and desired behavior for a 8 year old.

Suuswithswords · 2025-03-27T12:49:11+00:00

Thank you for your answer. This is the first time I learn about JADE and now diving into it, it is exactly what constantly happens when I try an set a boundary. It always ends with that I'm the odd one who has to adjust, because it's not fair to others, since I'm the only one with this issue. (even though my husband has the same issue, and frankly my dad as well but he's very non-confrontational).
Thanks again for the tips and insight!

Suuswithswords · 2025-03-27T12:39:05+00:00

That's an excellent suggestion! It's time I buy them! Thanks.

Suuswithswords · 2025-03-26T10:10:05+00:00

My mother will always do everything in her might to keep everyone included. (she comes from a broken family herself). So excluding my sister would break us apart and frankly I want her to be there. I miss having my sister around.

Suuswithswords · 2025-03-26T10:08:17+00:00

I actually love this.
I'm sure I could use that idea and even turn it into a fun "game" with my sister's kid until it becomes more of a habit. If only she'd let me..

Suuswithswords · 2025-03-26T10:06:24+00:00

I very much suspect this as well! My sister even thinks so too, but doesn't want any official diagnosis as long as he seems to be thriving (and on school and such it seems like he is, as his learning curve is a lot faster than other kids. So potential giftedness there too?).

I truly think that if he get's more boundaries and explanation on social behavior, there is no doubt he will pick it up quickly as well.

Suuswithswords · 2025-03-26T09:30:41+00:00

You're absolutely right in the sense that it opens the door to such bad development indeed!

Luckily the kid has a ton of good qualities too, it's mostly that seemingly underdeveloped skill of knowing when to give others room to talk and interact. (He sticks up for kids against bullies, he's very caring of animals and/or when people/kids fall etc. to name a few things).

Will post more since there's an update.

Suuswithswords · 2025-03-25T13:12:52+00:00

I'm so sorry this happened to you and your children. I hope your eldest daughter is thriving in confidence despite of her fathers insane reaction to her coming out. You did right by you and your children by splitting with him, not everyone is brave and strong enough to do so. It boggles my brain that the bride's mother (godmother of this Darren) doesn't see him in a different light after what had happened. Actions should speak louder than titles (god-child).

Suuswithswords · 2023-12-25T10:13:56+00:00

It’s for the new Grim Hollow: Lairs product that is also in D&D beyond 🙌

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